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Matt Hancock - the OW

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PopGoesTheProsecco · 01/12/2022 22:26

Anyone else a bit 🤮 about Matt Hancock reuniting with the mistress, after I’m a a Celeb when his wife is back at home looking after his kids that he left when he cheated on her?

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nalabae · 02/12/2022 01:35

His wife accepts the cheating so what’s the issue here?
he showed her who he is, she’s happy with it.
the sick face should be for her and her low self esteem, I hope she is not raising a girl

AutumnColours9 · 02/12/2022 01:42

I remember reading that before the story broke, he woke his small children up in the night to announce he was leaving. Very selfish to Swan off putting yourself before the kids. All relationships become somewhat moribund and cannot compete with affair lust. Poor kids.

Ladyintangerine · 02/12/2022 01:46

I don't know what either woman sees in him, I think he's ugly - (both inside and out it seems) 🙄

Shearlingsway549 · 02/12/2022 01:56

MarshaMelrose · 02/12/2022 01:23

He's moved on.
His wife's moved on.
Maybe MN should too.
People split up and get new partners. Are they supposed to live in purdah for the rest of their lives?

How are you so sure his ex wife has “moved on”?

People are so quick to brush any inconvenient feelings she may still have about the situation, never mind their dcs feelings, out of the way. It’s really cold.

Ladyintangerine · 02/12/2022 02:01

@Shearlingsway549 People are so quick to brush any inconvenient feelings she may still have about the situation, never mind their dcs feelings, out of the way. It’s really cold.

I agree.

Considering that she's been publicly humiliated, she's behaved impeccably. Hat's off to the lady.

FallingsHowIFeel · 02/12/2022 02:06

I feel for his wife. He should have just told her the relationship was over before starting anything new. But I doubt his wife is someone I’d actually like, she was married to Matt Hancock after all so presumably agreed with or at least was ok with his views on things. I do feel for his children, they’ve likely dealt with some shit at school due to the poor and selfish behaviour shown by their father. I do think out of respect for his wife and children, he should have just kept his head down for a while. I imagine his children are quite damaged due to everything he’s put them through.

MarshaMelrose · 02/12/2022 02:09

Shearlingsway549 · 02/12/2022 01:56

How are you so sure his ex wife has “moved on”?

People are so quick to brush any inconvenient feelings she may still have about the situation, never mind their dcs feelings, out of the way. It’s really cold.

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She's dating.

FallingsHowIFeel · 02/12/2022 02:14

Shearlingsway549 · 02/12/2022 01:56

How are you so sure his ex wife has “moved on”?

People are so quick to brush any inconvenient feelings she may still have about the situation, never mind their dcs feelings, out of the way. It’s really cold.

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I would think she’s quite traumatised by it all. She seems to be a very private person and was suddenly thrust into the spotlight through no fault of her own. Then just as life is settling down after it, he goes in the jungle and everyone’s talking about the whole thing again. He’s clearly a very selfish individual. Even if he didn’t care about his wife’s feelings, his poor bloody children. I can’t get my head around doing that as a parent.

Overgrowngrasslady · 02/12/2022 07:39

Sadly it’s not uncommon. Charles and camilla cheated on diana. Camilla is now the queen and publicly accepted.

i don’t know what folks expect, no one to meet him, for them to act ashamed for a set number of years, yes it was an affair, yes their marriages ended, but I am really not sure this attitude of they have to wear a scarlet letter to atone for an extended period and can’t be seen being affectionate is realistic. Their exes know full well they live together, as do the children involved. None of us know the state of the marriages they were in, neither ex has spoken, but few people leave a good marriage.

Dahlietta · 02/12/2022 07:47

His wife accepts the cheating so what’s the issue here?
he showed her who he is, she’s happy with it.
the sick face should be for her and her low self esteem, I hope she is not raising a girl
I think you might be thinking of someone else?

AuntyPeanut · 02/12/2022 07:49

He groped her butt on the bridge the same way when they were on CCTV. He seems to have a standard routine. Or maybe just crazy about her backside.

x2boys · 02/12/2022 07:50

MarshaMelrose · 02/12/2022 01:23

He's moved on.
His wife's moved on.
Maybe MN should too.
People split up and get new partners. Are they supposed to live in purdah for the rest of their lives?

Well.exactly all these.posters faux horrified on behalf of wife and kids nobody.knows what the state of the marriage was before the affair or how his ex feels about.It now it's nobody elses business but theirs.

openinggambit · 02/12/2022 07:51

crisisofconfidence · 01/12/2022 22:40

Has anyone else noticed that the quote feature doesn't work in the app. It's very annoying

It does

Ladyintangerine · 02/12/2022 07:52

@Overgrowngrasslady None of us know the state of the marriages they were in,

Maybe not, but if the marriages weren't 'working' that isn't a reason to cheat. It might be a reason to have an honest talk and decide to separate/divorce - but not to cheat.
The betrayed spouses were in the same marriages but they didn't cheat and publicly humiliate their partners.

x2boys · 02/12/2022 07:53

Shearlingsway549 · 02/12/2022 01:56

How are you so sure his ex wife has “moved on”?

People are so quick to brush any inconvenient feelings she may still have about the situation, never mind their dcs feelings, out of the way. It’s really cold.

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How are you do sure she hasn't?
The fact is it's their business nobody else's .

Motnight · 02/12/2022 07:53

MarshaMelrose · 02/12/2022 01:23

He's moved on.
His wife's moved on.
Maybe MN should too.
People split up and get new partners. Are they supposed to live in purdah for the rest of their lives?

To be fair, he got a new partner before splitting. That's the issue isn't it? That he behaved?

Ladyintangerine · 02/12/2022 07:56

@Motnight To be fair, he got a new partner before splitting. That's the issue isn't it?

Yes, IMO it is.
He made sure he had a nice soft landing before he jumped, while all the time keeping his wife in the dark.
Sneaky.

NashvilleQueen · 02/12/2022 07:56

My issue with MH is solely to do with his lack of integrity in public life. To that extent his romantic moment on cctv was relevant because of his health secretary role and the covid situation at the time.

Also relevant is taking substantial payment for appearing on a reality tv show when he's supposed to be at Westminster on behalf of his constituents (at a time of unprecedented concerns about the cost of living, war in Ukraine etc).

I didn't watch him on the tv because that's precisely what he wants. A moment to redeem his career. I'm not helping him with that.

I'm not the morality police. The rest of it is between him, his wife, his new partner, her ex husband and their children.

Pottedpalm · 02/12/2022 07:57

Oh who gives a monkey’s? More important things to think about.

mangomary · 02/12/2022 07:58

LydiaBennetsUglyBonnet · 01/12/2022 23:18

I always said at least they had the integrity to leave their OHs. How many politicians have a ‘lapse in judgement’, shag an aide and move on while their wife smiles tensely next to him for the rest of their days. Far better that they all just accept it’s a colossal fuck up and try to move on

Christ a new low. Being told they have integrity because they left their spouses. You have totally missed the fact they left their spouses because they got caught! If they had left their spouses then got together that would be integrity.

And Matt Hancock and integrity - you must be kidding. Have you disregarded how badly he handled Covid and awarded contracts to his mates and Tory supporters? You can't have integrity in one area of your life but not in others. It's like being pregnant or not.

NadjaCravensworth · 02/12/2022 07:58

PopGoesTheProsecco · 01/12/2022 22:26

Anyone else a bit 🤮 about Matt Hancock reuniting with the mistress, after I’m a a Celeb when his wife is back at home looking after his kids that he left when he cheated on her?

But he is not with his wife

Would you meet your ex and welcome him home???

Weird

THisbackwithavengeance · 02/12/2022 07:59

I have no issue with MH leaving his wife and taking up with Gina whatsername.

It's none of my business.

I never disliked MH but you'd think he'd be a little bit more circumspect and discrete about the PDAs out of respect for his former wife and kids. Surely that would be the decent thing to do?

BonnesVacances · 02/12/2022 08:00

LauraIAm · 01/12/2022 23:25

I agree too - I take the point that marriages break up and people are allowed to move on, but given the horrible way they got together, I think it would have been more respectful to their former spouses not to grab each others’ bums on a bridge on prime time TV / cavort in a white bikini etc. There was an article in The Times today about this anti-ashamed approach. IMO they should be ashamed.

When did they grab each others' bums? Confused

BonnesVacances · 02/12/2022 08:01

Shearlingsway549 · 01/12/2022 23:39

I totally agree with you op!

Of course these things happen but it's deeply insensitive to put his wife and children back under the spotlight by taking part in this programme in the first place so soon after the split.

His wife (ex wife?) is by all accounts suffering from long Covid, she probably was just coming to terms with the split (which she found out about in shocking circumstances owing to a tabloid exposé remember). And their DCs lives, having been shattered, were probably just settling back in to some sort of routine and anonymity at school when he chooses to put the focus back on himself and his mistress again? You can imagine the comments from the DC's classmates! Hadn't he already done enough damage?

Totally despicable behaviour on his part if you ask me. Any decent parent worth worth their salt in similar circumstances would have kept their head down and away from press interest and taken some boring city advisory job to earn child support and spared their family more public comment.

By all accounts

Probably

Is there any proof of any of this or is it all assumed or taken from the papers?

britsabroad · 02/12/2022 08:02

I must admit I was really cynical about him going into the jungle, but he did manage to turn his public persona around and redeem himself to some extent. What I didn't like was his coming out of the jungle and embracing a half dressed Gina. That was not classy.
Yes affairs happen, they're in love, it's the "real deal". But considering how much pain they must have put their ex partners and kids through with the way that their relationship was exposed in all the tabloids - I think he should have not gone into the jungle, or gone into the jungle and have someone else meet him at the end. I thought it was selfish, arrogant and screamed "hey look at me and Gina, we are the real deal and we don't care what anyone else thinks".