Is this weird to you?

[Nobodyyou]

Genuine question. Do you think it's weird or inappropriate for a godfather to ask to the personal care of two young children (nappy wearing age - under two years of age)
Godfather non blood related and is a family friend. When visiting asks to change nappies and bath children.
I think it's not right interested in mumsnet views please

If you don’t trust him why did you make him a godfather?

This isn't my children but a family I know

I don't see any good reason why a man would volunteer to change nappies for a kid who is not his or related to him.

Weird as fuck

As long as he also plays with them, and feeds them and does other activities (non-naked) I wouldn’t find it at all weird - I would think it’s lovely he wants to be involved in the daily care of his godchildren and bond with them.

However, go with your gut instinct - if you have any ‘ick’ feelings then don’t allow it.
But surely you trust him if you asked him to be a godfather?

I've offered to change nappies of friends kids before, same as I've offered to take them to the toilet if I've been going with mine or whatever.

If the parents trust him and aren't concerned at all I don't see why you should be.

I agree interested whether this is the majority of mumsnet users view too

I think it's weird, yes.

If he's godfather surely he's a trusted friend and meant to be a figure in the child's life? Does he have his own DC? Does he do non personal care things with the DC?

He's not the godfather of children but a family I know

No a single male no children of his own.
He does other activities too but asks parents to bath their children and to change their nappies

Yes I’d be concerned about this.

I don't think it's normal and it makes me uncomfortable I appreciate this may not be a feeling shared by others but wondered if I was in the majority or minority with my feelings on this matter

Are you male or female?

For me it would depend on a couple things.

Does he do other care, as PP said (make dinner, play with them, etc)?

Is he a father too himself? (So all in the spirit of just chipping in)

If no to both these, I find it a bit odd.

So he does other activities, so general care for the DC? I don't think it's odd, no. If it was only nappy changing, that would be weird imo. If he's getting involved in it all then it's not weird - it sounds like a great godparent.

He plays with them. He enjoys taking them out to parks with the parents but also volunteers to take the children out by himself, which he does.

He is not a father

It needs a context -

if he’s generally involved in the kids’ lives and is saying - while you cook dinner I’ll bath the kids and put them into bed, no worries - not weird.

If he’s specifically saying hey can I change the kids’ nappies and give them a bath when I come round - that’s weird.

I suspect it’s the former or your friend would be concerned. Do you not trust that your friend knows what she’s doing with her own friends?

So not weird that the parents don't ask him to personal care (nappies bath) but he will ask to do it every time he visits?

anyone specifically volunteering to do personal care or nappy changes is a bit weird...

He specifically asks when he visits.

I don't truth their judgment (the parents judgement)

Yes, I do find it weird and sinister that he actually asks to do it. That’s a strange thing for a single childless man to do.

I think this too

I do and I find it weird this isn't apparent to the parents

There's a big difference between being in the house when the babies parents are cooking dinner or something and offering to change them when they've done a poo that really can't be ignored. And just dropping into their house and saying 'can I change a nappy'

He doesn't drop in as he doesn't live locally to them, but when he visits he specifically asks, every visit to do these things.

Super weird and creepy. Do they let him?