Is this weird to you?

[Nobodyyou]

Genuine question. Do you think it's weird or inappropriate for a godfather to ask to the personal care of two young children (nappy wearing age - under two years of age)
Godfather non blood related and is a family friend. When visiting asks to change nappies and bath children.
I think it's not right interested in mumsnet views please

Do you know him? Sorry if I've missed that info in your posts.

He shouldn't be anywhere near their private parts. What's wrong with their parents?!

It is alarming isn't it?! 😳

I don't know him. But met him twice.

Please do speak to someone, as well as the parents.

This is one of those posts that make me feel really uncomfortable. It screams WRONG DOER if that helps in you're decision.

I refuse to believe it's done with innocent intentions. To add to the bath from earlier, my abuser was friendly, love d making me laugh, played with me, tickled me etc.

This man is making my flesh crawl just reading about him.

I am going to report it. This thread has clarified my thoughts and feelings. I knew it was off but due to things I can't and don't want to discuss I was hesitant. But this has been helpful. Appreciate the input.

p.s. that skin crawl, I get it. I am the same 💐

I'm glad your reporting. Better to be safe than sorry.

Boiled

NSPCC is a good source of advice for this sort of thing OP.

Yes thank you I will contact them

Well I think you're getting answers to support your views, OP, but it's really hard to judge out of context. All my siblings would offer to change nappies etc just because it's often seen as the drudge side of parenting and those who play with a baby then hand it over the moment any work needs doing were looked on as a bit lightweight. So for me there's nothing inherently suspicious about a godfather changing the odd nappy or offering to do bathtime, especially if the parents encourage this and find it helpful. Having said that, if you feel it's odd and you know the family well you may have a good sense of whether boundaries are being pushed. If they say no thanks to the offers of help is he relieved or disappointed? Certainly worth sharing your concerns with them as it may make them think twice or look more carefully. I'm not sure whether you'd get anywhere "reporting" it (to whom? Social care? Police? NSPCC?) and expecting them to take action if it's something within normal boundaries but it may be the missing piece of a jigsaw so could be worth doing nonetheless.

Thanks, I fully appreciate what you are saying. Absolutely, there are people like your siblings, who help with baby personal care and do it with pure intentions just to be helpful. I am aware that could be the case here. However as I have said before, I have got several issues related to the family as a whole and to reveal the full picture would be outing so I can't. I suspect if I did though that would give you the context that is probably missing, or pieces of a jigsaw as you say, and you would likely agree that I should act on this information.

I am going to report to our local councils safeguarding hub.

I think you are making the right decision @Nobodyyou

It's unusual, that's for sure. I am not sure that you have enough info to raise a safeguarding concern OP, but it is a bit odd.

When my children were tiny a local young male acquaintance kept offering to babysit we didn't accept his offer he subsequently was arrested for taking pervy photos of young children so lucky escape. It is totally weird to change nappies or bathe children in any normal circumstance imo.

Other peoples children

😳did you get a weird feeling about him? Is this why you declined his offers? Thank goodness you did whatever the reason!

Sorry, missed your question, I'm aunt.

It's super weird. Anyone asking can they change nappies is weird. Offering to help is one thing, asking every time they visit is to fulfil a strange need of theirs 😷

I'm a woman with no kids. I'm no more likely to ask to change a child's nappy than I am to ask an adult if I can wipe their arse.

I think it sounds very strange.