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Is it cheeky to ask if you’re a homeowner?

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Shutthegatepeter · 24/11/2022 09:22

I moved back to the village I grew up in just over 5 years ago. I lived here until I went to uni, moved away for 17 years, and now I’m back. This time I’m no longer living with my parents, I’m here with my husband and our 3 kids. We have a nice 4 bed home, it’s nothing really fancy or huge but we’re very lucky as it’s a lovely modest home in a nice area. I was out doing some gardening yesterday and bumped into someone who I went to high school with, sort of grew up with but we weren’t close or anything, but I’ve known him since we were in primary school together and we occasionally hung around with each other as teenagers. We started chatting, the usual long time no see, how are you etc. I told him I’m married now with 3 kids, he told me he has 2 kids and is in the middle of a separation, he was moving back in with his parents. I said I’m sorry to hear that and he then went on a 5min torrent of ranting about his ex! Which was awkward! He then said ‘’ this is a nice house, do you own it?’’

is it just me who thinks this is a weird question to ask someone? It’s like he was trying to suss out my financial situation. Maybe I’m just overthinking it but it seems like a really strange question to ask someone you don’t even know that well?

AIBU to think this is cheeky f*kery? 🤑

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peterpark · 24/11/2023 13:07

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Shutthegatepeter · 25/11/2022 17:44

Update ladies, and the moral of the story is to always trust your gut. The person mentioned sent me a friend request on fb yesterday, and I accepted. I guess I was trying to be nice, but it went against my gut feeling about this guy. This afternoon he sent me a series of inappropriate messages and has now been blocked. Seems like he’s on the hunt for a new woman and a new place to stay over the winter, and his snare tactic is slithering around in married women’s inboxes.

Always trust your gut! 😉

Sorry I'm obviously being very slow but why did he behave that way when he knew you were married, as well as having children of your own? Did he think you'd be so giddy by his unsolicited, unwanted attentions you'd capitulate immediately, throw you husband out and invite him into your home and life?🌹

Bleachmycloths · 24/11/2023 15:42

Yes, it’s a bit cheeky:
Do you own your car or did you get a loan/lease it?
Do you pay off your credit card every month?
I like your extension. Did you remortgage to pay for it?

Haydenn · 24/11/2023 16:01

There was a conversation on the relationship board about dating again and the amount of women who said that they are targeted but men who have recently separated and are looking to get back into a nice house because they can only afford a small flat or similar since they are paying towards 2 households is quite concerning.

Cocklodgers abound.

peterpark · 30/11/2023 15:01

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notacooldad · 01/12/2023 09:28

Do you own your car or did you get a loan/lease it?
Do you pay off your credit card every month?
I like your extension. Did you remortgage to pay for it?

All perfectly normal questions in my friendship group!🤣

OddityOddityOdd · 01/12/2023 09:56

I'm amazed that so many are alarmed at this question. If he's recently moved back and is living with his parents I'd assume he was asking about the local rental market, not about your personal finances. I wouldn't have a problem with anyone asking me.

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Katemax82 · 05/06/2024 07:56

At our last house we lived in this stuck up twat moved in next door (it was a very rich area) and knocked on the door to introduce himself. When we mentioned our landladies he was all like "ooh your rented are you?!"
Twat

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