Should siblings share shoes?

[Redcrocodile]

Just that really.

My DH says yes and he wants us to keep all shoes from our DD and pass them to DS who is 2years younger, as long as they don’t have holes and they are not severely damaged.

I would happily keep things like crocs, wellies, slippers etc. but to keep proper shoes sound weird to me.

We normally have 1-2 pairs of shoes for our DD per size (i.e. per year) and although they are properly worn and look tired, they are not severely damaged.

Would it be ok for another kid to wear them in the future?

Absolutely not.

One of my croc flip flops got stolen by DPs parents dog. DPs mum is the same size and has the same pair of crocs so gave me her half while she found mine.

As kind as this was now we both have unwearable pairs of shoes because the shoes change to the shape of your foot!!!!

A cheap pair is better than someone else pair.

Does your dh wear second hand shoes op? My feet are completely fucked from wearing hand-me-down and cheap, ill fitting shoes as a child, so it's a no from me.

I went to a private school with some very wealthy girls. Most of us had a couple of pairs of dress shoes, Birkenstocks, tennis shoes, and trainers. Generally we wore our school shoes on weekends as well.
New properly fitted shoes are vital to long term foot health. Everything else but underwear can be secondhand, but shoes need to be bought with careful measurements.

Not everyone has need of so much support and my experience has been the polar opposite. I've been barefoot as much as I can be my whole life (I hate wearing shoes), and for nearly 10 years I have worn 'barefoot' shoes wherever possible when it isn't practical to be barefoot (my walking boots and work boots do not have a barefoot-friendly option sadly). I have good arches and no pain despite walking a good number of miles every day.
I agree ballet pumps are the work of the devil though... they offer no support but are also deforming and prevent your foot working as it should both in flex and allowing your toes to splay. It is the worst of both worlds.

I am passing down the very occasional pair that are not completely trashed.

But even new shoes I get off the internet. Shoe shops where I am are very expensive and have a tiny, really boring range.

Also the occasional times I have done a shoe shop fitting, the shoes have quite often turned out to not actually fit that well.

I have flat feet as does my mother as does one of my children. My mother is still fit as a fiddle in her eighties and was bought up poor as a church mouse. I would doubt very much a pair of Clark’s made their way onto her feet.

I’m actually one of the few parents who still has their year 6 in made to measure shoes. Most kids have been wearing trainers to school for years. So I won’t be flagellating myself down the streets just yet.

My eldest seems to destroy his trainers so there’s not much to be passed on

But yes, wellies, slippers, snow boots or barely worn shoes have all been passed on to DC2. Sometimes you just need a spare pair and old ones are handy for that.

My DC only had one pair of shoes at a time plus wellies and slippers . I used to get their feet measured and buy to fit. I would keep and reuse wellies etc but the shoes or trainers tended to wear out. I only once was able to pass on a pair from DC1 to 2.

Nope.

Things like wellies, crocs and slippers I've passed onto other people, but other shoes, no.
I have twins, so don't pass things between my own kids, but I've never taken on secondhand shoes for either of them, apart from wellies.
I grew up fairly poor, but my mum always insisted on getting our feet measured, and were wearing decent shoes up until we were teenagers. So I do similar for my own two.