This is an interesting post as it’s a conversation we’ve been having.
I'm self-employed and I work F/T. Our circumstances are about to change where our outgoings will shrink considerably.
DP is currently off work sick - probably won’t be well enough to return til January. Currently the financial burden on me is significant but when we move and it changes, life will be easier financially.
I enjoy working. I enjoy what I do and as I’m self employed I have both flexibility and the ability to earn more if needed.
dP hates working. He’s never found a job that he loves. He regularly gets ill and struggles with chronic, low-grade symptoms that make his life miserable. He’s grumpy, snappy and constantly tired, plus he’s uninterested/unengaged in household stuff that needs sorting. I literally do everything.
When he’s off sick, even though he’s unwell he’s so much nicer to be around! And he takes a proper interest in the house/things that need to be done.
By his own admission he’s a bit of a lazy git, and I’m the opposite (I have adhd so I don’t stop!). But as a package, our lives are just more enjoyable when he’s not at work.
We are considering if he could work part-time, maybe 2-3 days a week. It would be a radical change but he’s not a piss-taker - he’s always worked and paid more than his share financially.
We both just think life is too short to spend it being miserable if you don’t have to be.