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Religion, the Church of England and State Ceremonies

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cakeorwine · 13/11/2022 11:25

I know we have an established church. I get that. And that's probably the answer to this question.

I do feel uncomfortable with the role that religion - specifically the Church of England - plays in State Ceremonies.

Watching the Cenotaph events on Remembrance Sunday. A moving event - but it does have a lot of religious elements. Prayers, hymns and The Lord's Prayer.

I think that anything religious should stick to events that are just for people of that religion. Or if it is multi-faith, then involve other faiths.

Remembrance Sunday is a national event. Keep religion out of it and just stick to remembering the people who died.

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PerfectPrepPrincess · 13/11/2022 11:27

This is a Christian Country this is what we do.

DripDripDripSugar · 13/11/2022 11:28

I’m an atheist but don’t have an issue with it.

cakeorwine · 13/11/2022 11:29

PerfectPrepPrincess · 13/11/2022 11:27

This is a Christian Country this is what we do.

What do you mean by "A Christian country"?

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Jaffacakeorisitabiscuit · 13/11/2022 11:29

Other faiths are represented. The prayers, hymns etc provide a dignified focus to remembrance.

RoseAndRose · 13/11/2022 11:30

They had representatives of 22 faiths at the Cenotaph, and the (short) religious part is fairly ecumenical

cakeorwine · 13/11/2022 11:31

Jaffacakeorisitabiscuit · 13/11/2022 11:29

Other faiths are represented. The prayers, hymns etc provide a dignified focus to remembrance.

It would be interesting to see what other countries do who don't have an established church but who do have national events.

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BagOfBollocks · 13/11/2022 11:31

cakeorwine · 13/11/2022 11:29

What do you mean by "A Christian country"?

She means this...

The official religion of the United Kingdom is Christianity, with the Church of England being the state church of its largest constituent region, England. The Church of England defines itself as neither fully Reformed (Protestant) nor fully Catholic.

Redwineandroses · 13/11/2022 11:32

cakeorwine · 13/11/2022 11:29

What do you mean by "A Christian country"?

I would have thought that means the core religion is Christianity and its what our traditions and culture is built around?

I'm not Christian but I don't mind remembrance Sunday having religious elements to it.

funnymummmy · 13/11/2022 11:32

I think that anything religious should stick to events that are just for people of that religion. Or if it is multi-faith, then involve other faiths.

Why, this is a Christian country (still headed by the Church of England) and was very religious until a few decades ago. It has been Christian for centuries. The majority of people that died in the wars fighting for this country were either Christian or nominally Christian. I never understand why people seem to have such a big problem with Christianity in this country. Nobody is forcing you to participate.

MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 13/11/2022 11:32

The CofE is the state church. Hence, it plays a role in state and public ceremonies. And at the Cenotaph it's about 10 minutes. The Cenotaph itself deliberately does not have religious insignia so that it can represent the dead of all faiths or none.

WeAreTheHeroes · 13/11/2022 11:34

The King is the Supreme Governor of the Church of England. He is head of state, the PM head of government.

The religious elements of all these state occasions is pared back to the minimum and they are usually very inclusive in terms of the diversity of those invited.

The UK is actually one of the most irreligious countries in the world. I was brought up in the Anglican faith, but don't believe in God, etc now. I'm not offended by the continued inclusion of religious elements. They bring comfort to people who believe.

cakeorwine · 13/11/2022 11:36

I never understand why people seem to have such a big problem with Christianity in this country. Nobody is forcing you to participate

I don't have a problem with Christianity. Worship who you want.
I do have an issue with a national event having a Church of England element to it with prayers.

And our anthem is God save the King. That is asking me to participate or be 'shamed' for not singing it.

The Church of England has a big hold in this country.

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Tinkerbyebye · 13/11/2022 11:36

The Church of England is our countries main religion , just as the Catholic Church is other countries church, or the Jewish Church, or Islam etc etc. At services like Remembrance Sunday then of course our church will lead, just as in other countries their religion will lead.

As others have said there were 22 other faiths represented, I really don’t see the issue

PerfectPrepPrincess · 13/11/2022 11:37

@cakeorwine our national religion is Christian our Royalty is Head of our branch of Christianity. We have been Christian for hundreds of years, we used to be Roman, then before that we were Pagan.

BagOfBollocks · 13/11/2022 11:37

And our anthem is God save the King. That is asking me to participate or be 'shamed' for not singing it.

Shamed indeed! 😂

MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 13/11/2022 11:39

That is asking me to participate or be 'shamed' for not singing it

How are you being shamed for not singing it and who's asking you to participate? from experience I can assure you that no-one's checking to see if you're singing, miming or staring benignly in front of you willing it to end because you're a republican .

cakeorwine · 13/11/2022 11:39

PerfectPrepPrincess · 13/11/2022 11:37

@cakeorwine our national religion is Christian our Royalty is Head of our branch of Christianity. We have been Christian for hundreds of years, we used to be Roman, then before that we were Pagan.

That's what I said in the OP.

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sashagabadon · 13/11/2022 11:40

I like all the religious aspects of Remembrance Sunday. It’s traditional and a nice part.

Jaffacakeorisitabiscuit · 13/11/2022 11:40

cakeorwine · 13/11/2022 11:31

It would be interesting to see what other countries do who don't have an established church but who do have national events.

Difficult to think of a country where religion is not represented in this context. Russia during the communist era perhaps? Putin has turned the Russian day of remembrance into a propoganda exercise, completely removing the focus from the act of remembrance. Not sure I'd like North Korea's take.

TBH I prefer the UK's way - solemn, dignified, the act of remembrance front and centre, some good tunes from the bands, a prayer and a hymn.

cakeorwine · 13/11/2022 11:40

MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 13/11/2022 11:39

That is asking me to participate or be 'shamed' for not singing it

How are you being shamed for not singing it and who's asking you to participate? from experience I can assure you that no-one's checking to see if you're singing, miming or staring benignly in front of you willing it to end because you're a republican .

It's unpatriotic apparently.

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Redwineandroses · 13/11/2022 11:40

cakeorwine · 13/11/2022 11:36

I never understand why people seem to have such a big problem with Christianity in this country. Nobody is forcing you to participate

I don't have a problem with Christianity. Worship who you want.
I do have an issue with a national event having a Church of England element to it with prayers.

And our anthem is God save the King. That is asking me to participate or be 'shamed' for not singing it.

The Church of England has a big hold in this country.

Well yes, of course The Church of England has a big hold in this country because it's the main religion and like I said, is what our traditions are based on throughout the year.

MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 13/11/2022 11:41

The Church of England has a big hold in this country

In what way? no-one's forced to go to church (unlike the 16th century, when if you didn't it was a heavy fine) and I find that the church plays no part in my day to day life.

sashagabadon · 13/11/2022 11:41

And I agree that no one cares if any one person does or does not sing god save the king.
luckily for all of us that live in the U.K. we are free to sing or not sing as we decide.

PerfectPrepPrincess · 13/11/2022 11:41

OP why are you asking stupid questions then.

cakeorwine · 13/11/2022 11:42

Jaffacakeorisitabiscuit · 13/11/2022 11:40

Difficult to think of a country where religion is not represented in this context. Russia during the communist era perhaps? Putin has turned the Russian day of remembrance into a propoganda exercise, completely removing the focus from the act of remembrance. Not sure I'd like North Korea's take.

TBH I prefer the UK's way - solemn, dignified, the act of remembrance front and centre, some good tunes from the bands, a prayer and a hymn.

Are you familiar with all the ways countries do this?

Or you just went for Russia and North Korea?

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