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Religion, the Church of England and State Ceremonies

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cakeorwine · 13/11/2022 11:25

I know we have an established church. I get that. And that's probably the answer to this question.

I do feel uncomfortable with the role that religion - specifically the Church of England - plays in State Ceremonies.

Watching the Cenotaph events on Remembrance Sunday. A moving event - but it does have a lot of religious elements. Prayers, hymns and The Lord's Prayer.

I think that anything religious should stick to events that are just for people of that religion. Or if it is multi-faith, then involve other faiths.

Remembrance Sunday is a national event. Keep religion out of it and just stick to remembering the people who died.

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Kendodd · 13/11/2022 12:16

With regard the question though, yabu. As a confirmed athiest, I actually like the religious aspect.

Jourdain11 · 13/11/2022 12:17

I'm not religious, but I personally couldn't care less about singing "God Save the King". If you don't believe in it, God is just a word. I'm French and the words of the Marseillaise don't really reflect my beliefs either, but I don't have any issue with singing it!

I remember seeing the Russian Great Patriotic War remembrance event one year (I think it was 2015) and it was something else. "And here are the newest post-Soviet era tanks." "Here are some missiles, just to remind everyone that we have them."

Historically Remembrance is a more conflicted thing in France. There were so many deep divisions in society after the occupation and a lot of bitterness and recriminations against those seen to have collaborated.

BagOfBollocks · 13/11/2022 12:18

MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 13/11/2022 12:05

It depends how you define Christian country

Country where the state religion is Christian. HTH.

Painful isn't it? 😬

cakeorwine · 13/11/2022 12:19

MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 13/11/2022 12:13

*Either have a range of faiths with their hymns etc and people who aren't religious also saying poems - or have none at all.

I don't have a problem with a diverse ceremony*

What you have a problem with isn't of interest to anyone. We have a Remembrance Sunday ceremony that suits millions of people. Go away and sort out your own 'diverse' ceremony for next year and come back and tell us how well that went.

Poems, FGS. This isn't your nan's memorial service.

Poems can be very powerful.

They shall grow not old, as we that are left grow old:
Age shall not weary them, nor the years condemn.
At the going down of the sun and in the morning
We will remember them.

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Redwineandroses · 13/11/2022 12:21

BagOfBollocks · 13/11/2022 12:18

Painful isn't it? 😬

It really is. I doubt the OP would go to any other country who used their state religion as part of their ceremony and demand they change it to represent all.

cakeorwine · 13/11/2022 12:22

BagOfBollocks · 13/11/2022 12:18

Painful isn't it? 😬

That's a definition. I am not sure if that is representative of the population as a whole.

As I said, it will be interesting to see the answers to the census in how many people in this county are Christian.

If the State religion is Christianity but not many people are Christian, is it a Christian country?

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funnymummmy · 13/11/2022 12:22

cakeorwine · 13/11/2022 12:09

Either have a range of faiths with their hymns etc and people who aren't religious also saying poems - or have none at all.

I don't have a problem with a diverse ceremony.

What is it specifically that you dislike about Christian hymns etc that are different in non-Christian ones? If you find the whole religious aspect offputting, why do you want more religion (as long as it's not more Christianity)? It sounds like you have a problem with Christianity rather than genuinely wanting a non-religious service as the other religions tenets are very similar in terms of being anachronistic in the modern world.

You are free to arrange a diverse, non-denominational service if you want, I promise nobody from the Church of England is going to hunt you down and force you to sing Christian prayers!

Georgeskitchen · 13/11/2022 12:23

If you care to visit Manchester on Remembrance Sunday you may find that the service included prayers offered by Muslim, Jewish Sikh leaders.
Many of these groups fought and many died for our country

MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 13/11/2022 12:24

Poems can be very powerful

I don't disagree with that. In their place. Which, rightly or wrongly, isn't the national service we have every November

You could include this one

“Good-morning, good-morning!” the General said
When we met him last week on our way to the line.
Now the soldiers he smiled at are most of 'em dead,
And we're cursing his staff for incompetent swine.
“He's a cheery old card,” grunted Harry to Jack
As they slogged up to Arras with rifle and pack.

But he did for them both by his plan of attack.

pigsDOfly · 13/11/2022 12:24

BagOfBollocks · 13/11/2022 12:02

And yes - my agenda is to ask questions about the role of religion and the State.

And yet you didn't even know what a PP meant by Christian country 🤷‍♀️

You should probably have started with Google and set your agenda after gaining some very basic knowledge.

As above.

You seem to have a very confused notion about the part the Christian church plays in your own country OP.

The Church (Christian/Church of England) and the state are completely entwined and the King/Queen is the head of the Church.

The Church of England is part of the state they cannot be separated. Hence any national occasion, like Remembrance Day, will have a religious element to it.

As the above poster says, perhaps you should Google the matter before posting on here as you clearly have no idea what you're talking about.

Speaking as an atheist, I really have no objection to any religious content on these occasion.

Nobody's making you watch anything that has a religious content. Maybe just don't watch them. And absolutely no one is forcing you to sing the national anthem.

ghasovreiksteen · 13/11/2022 12:24

Another fucking neo Marxist.

PortiasBiscuit · 13/11/2022 12:24

Other countries are available….

BagOfBollocks · 13/11/2022 12:25

If the State religion is Christianity but not many people are Christian, is it a Christian country?

OK, we've gone from painful to excruciating! 🤦

cakeorwine · 13/11/2022 12:25

Redwineandroses · 13/11/2022 12:21

It really is. I doubt the OP would go to any other country who used their state religion as part of their ceremony and demand they change it to represent all.

I live in this country.

So it's ok for people in the UK to question how things are done.

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MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 13/11/2022 12:26

ghasovreiksteen · 13/11/2022 12:24

Another fucking neo Marxist.

I think it's more 'oh no, I don't like this, it should be all about what I like, what about my opinions?' Solipsism on a grand scale.

funnymummmy · 13/11/2022 12:26

MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 13/11/2022 12:26

I think it's more 'oh no, I don't like this, it should be all about what I like, what about my opinions?' Solipsism on a grand scale.

And narcissism.

cakeorwine · 13/11/2022 12:27

BagOfBollocks · 13/11/2022 12:25

If the State religion is Christianity but not many people are Christian, is it a Christian country?

OK, we've gone from painful to excruciating! 🤦

That's not a very clear answer.

What do you think?

If less than half of the country are Christian, is it a Christian country?

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MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 13/11/2022 12:27

BagOfBollocks · 13/11/2022 12:18

Painful isn't it? 😬

I like the Socratic dialogue method. Lead them to it by baby steps.

Onlyforcake · 13/11/2022 12:28

Certainly outside of London on Armistice day (not remembrance sunday which is the c of e event for that) I see other faiths getting involved in remembrance events and parades. I think these are cities/ towns that have strong interfaith groups.

cakeorwine · 13/11/2022 12:28

MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 13/11/2022 12:27

I like the Socratic dialogue method. Lead them to it by baby steps.

If less than half of the UK is Christian, is it a Christian country?

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MuraRocker · 13/11/2022 12:29

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Kendodd · 13/11/2022 12:29

Ok op, 85% (in this highly scientific poll) think you're being unreasonable. Are you ready to accept, public opinion might not be with you?

cakeorwine · 13/11/2022 12:30

Kendodd · 13/11/2022 12:29

Ok op, 85% (in this highly scientific poll) think you're being unreasonable. Are you ready to accept, public opinion might not be with you?

It's not the first time public opinion is against me,

Doesn't mean that it can't be discussed though.

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BagOfBollocks · 13/11/2022 12:30

cakeorwine · 13/11/2022 12:27

That's not a very clear answer.

What do you think?

If less than half of the country are Christian, is it a Christian country?

Please don't ask me what I think as I'd likely be banned.

It's been painfully explained to you more than once, exactly what a Christian country is.

I'm cringing inside out for you here.

Gwenhwyfar · 13/11/2022 12:30

"At services like Remembrance Sunday then of course our church will lead, just as in other countries their religion will lead."

Many other countries have a separation of church and state.