Friend has posted this on FB

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Am I missing a double meaning with this? Or should I be concerned that my friend is feeling low and I should reach out to her? It's an
unusual type of thing for her to do if she is publicly saying how she feels.

It isn't remotely identifying if it's a well-shared meme. Your DARVO is quite disgusting, and yes, the world needs more good decent people like the OP, and less of those like you.

Well shared meme? 🤔

According to some piece of effluent earlier in the thread, apparently it is a meme that has been shared for a long time.

should I be concerned that my friend is feeling low and I should reach out to her?

what would you have done had anonymous posters on this thread said “ignore”?

It was a meme that several people recognised.

And as for asking whether she should respond, you have only to look at the number of ignorant, spiteful and self-congratulatory posts claiming that true mental ill-health never speaks, or if it does, it does in such a way that meets with the posters' personal approval. Is it any wonder some people remain unsure what to do when this attitude remains strong?

if it had featured on my feed in the early hours - it would have stuck out to me. I’ve never seen it. Had you?

I would check on her. It looks like a meme, in which case she could have shared it to 'support' someone else ('if you are a real friend, share this post on your wall'), rather than out of painful personal emotions. But she could be in a bad state, so best to contact her.

I tend to agree-
This sounds like a copy and pasted meme, BUT people who post them may resonate with the meme, and lack the wherewithal to articulate their own feelings.

I've seen it, more than once. The op hasn't said anything personal about her friend. Just that she's concerned. Doubt it would out anyone.

Probably reflected that maybe I was over reacting? Remember that it was 4 am when I saw it, I was also suffering a bad nights sleep and therefore I know I can be over anxious, due tiredness and everything being so much worse at that tone of night.

Do you ever suffer insomnia? It really does make you see things "differently".

Luckily, especially the early morning posters, like @endofthelinefinally, who I know had suffered trauma, said I was right.

I didn't want to be intrusive into a minor blip, but I do want to be there if a friend is reaching out.

Stop with the PA posts, just tell me you think IABU? Your PA remarks are so thinly veiled, it's embarrassing and shameful.

Thank you and DF is unlikely to be on here as she's not a mum, I do realise that not everyone is a mum on here, but law of averages.

She sounds vulnerable.

I agree, but she's always deemed so strong, I do understand that can be a facade.

I'm sure I'll speak to her tomorrow, today she was exhausted, with a mutual friend and ok.

Few friends have been in contact, we've agreed no point in all being there at the same time, better we have a shift system, so she's not over whelmed and always has someone to call on.

I don't think it's "red" alert, but let's not get past "amber" alert.

*seemed not deemed

You sound truly lovely OP as do your friends.

I'm quite disgusted by some of the heartless replies on here, so utterly depressing.

I’d rather have a friend who did that (without any outing details and in an effort to check on her instincts) and then followed up on it once those instincts were confirmed, than one who’d dismiss it altogether because the meme used came across as cringey or “attention-seeking”.

Why not ask her instead of asking mumsnet!!!!

Ask her what?

Did your exclamation mark get stuck on sticky keys?!!!!!!!!

Crikey, OP. Your thread has sadly brought out some of the worst on MN.

I've read the full thread and your recent update. Well done you for looking out for your friend. I've had similar situations and also lost people to suicide.

I'd also reiterate what some PP's have said regarding 'those who try to reach out are seen as attention seekers by some, but those same folk will say they wish friends had reached out when friends take their lives'

You did the right thing. In posting here, and in getting in touch with your friend.

To all the people who have asked why you are posting here - I suggest they take a good, hard look at themselves. A. It's a forum - it is it's very purpose and B. As the saying goes, 'if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all'

It has been a thought provoking thread.

Mental health issues have never been so prevalent. Especially after the struggles we have all faced in the last few years. It should bring us all together, really. Shame some posters seem to have absolutely zero compassion be apparently bored with it all.

We have more in common that unites us, than we do that divides us.

❤

I would rather respond to ten people who didn't need help, than miss one who did. This thread is baffling to me. So many people are struggling. It costs nothing to reach out.

OP, I think you sound a lovely, caring friend. I hope all is well with your friend ❤️

I'm glad you messaged her op, she's lucky to have so many people who care about her.

@LilyJasmine 👏 👏