Friend has posted this on FB

[Conkersareback]

Am I missing a double meaning with this? Or should I be concerned that my friend is feeling low and I should reach out to her? It's an
unusual type of thing for her to do if she is publicly saying how she feels.

You sound like a lovely, caring person and I'd rather have you and your friend as friends, rather than some of the nasty posters on here.

Yes, definitely use terms like suicide and specifically ask if they've had thoughts of killing themselves or harming themselves. This is the advice I've been given too.

Don't beat about the bush with mental health concerns, it's right to talk about it.

There are some really mean people on here this morning.
Check in on yr friend, OP. She’s lucky to have you.

@Conkersareback have you managed to get hold of your friend yet? So sorry for the downright nastiness of some PPs on here, please ignore them, they clearly lack empathy and have no understanding of how MH issues can present. You are a great friend, please let us know your friend is ok x

This.

She's still not active, I'll get it until 11 then contact anyway.

I will update.

She’s posted it for attention.

Well I hope so, hopefully she'll get the attention she needs, not just from me but from others.

And as so many have said, what is wrong with that ? It's a cry for help/support/a listening ear. We all need attention sometimes.

Yes!

I can't stand this attention seeking bollocks where people signpost that there's an issue but don't tell you what it is. It just leads to lots of "are you OK?" messages and posts like this on mn. Attention seeking at it's worst and one of the reasons I deleted my FB account years ago.

That’s an outdated school of thought @singlemomof3. There isn’t the stigma around being mentally unwell that there was years ago.
People are reaching out more now and that is a good thing.

Attention seeking is asking for help, really, isn't it?

I posted an image once that I thought was funny but was essentially saying nobody cares about me when I was having a bad day (I don’t often post memes and things)

My friend from work messaged me telling she cared about me and asking if everything was okay. I was totally fine and slightly embarrassed but I was really touched and grateful that she would reach right out when she got the impression I might be feeling really low.

It made me think more carefully about what I post as I don’t want to worry anyone unnecessarily. Your friend might have just related and shared without thinking about the implications, or she might be feeling like shit and desperately trying to express herself. Either way, you checking is incredibly kind and will make her feel very loved I’m sure.

Odd world we live in where you need to ask before you check if your friend is ok.

I suppose that's me added to the nasty list then.

For clarification, it's not the messages asking for help that I can't stomach, it's the vague passive aggressive posts that hint at an issue and that requires others to respond and dig for it. Why do that?

Or desperately needing help and didn't know how else to say it. Not everything is attention seeking

I agree. You know her OP. I’d say if you are posting on here about it, you are concerned enough to wonder what is behind it. In which case speak to her. She sounds like she’s very low. It’s a cry to be heard and acknowledged imo.

Are you saying a person with mental health issues giving a cry for help is a 'bad thing'? What exactly are you saying, @ShiningStarQueen ?

I don't know. If only mentally unwell people could just be orderly and unassuming and nice to be around with perfect communication skills! It's a real puzzler, you're right.

I can't stand this attention seeking bollocks where people signpost that there's an issue but don't tell you what it is. It just leads to lots of "are you OK?" messages

Gracious!

it's the vague passive aggressive posts that hint at an issue and that requires others to respond and dig for it.

That is clearly not what the OP/this thread is about. It is about someone who never does that.

I read those exact same words recently in a novel. Can't remember the name of the book.

I'd ring her now anyway.

I don't think there's anything vague about the message the OP's friend has posted - it's clear she's feeling worthless and questioning the purpose of her existence.

It seems that you probably couldn’t really be friends with anyone

So people can only express their feelings/ask for help if they post a detailed account of their past trauma/abuse/struggles?