to be a bit hurt when

[WinkyWinkola]

DH, in the cab on his way home, tells the driver that he wishes he were single when he sees some of the staff at his new (and old) place of work as they are really good looking. Especially when he tells me he never notices women.. . .. . Heavens, I'm a dumbo, aren't I?

He really should make sure he knows how to work his new mobile, make it locked and not ringing all and sundry without his knowledge.

I know, I know, snoopers always hear what they don't want to hear but I wasn't exactly snooping, was I?

My dad's phone rang me accidentally once - he was mowing the lawn . I had to ring the house and get my stepmum to go out and yell at him, because it was repeatedly ringing me and it was LOUD!

I think it probably was male bravado and wouldn't worry about it too much.

DH has accidentley called me many times. And done nothing worse than random pocket rustling, what sounded like typing on a keyboard, getting on a train. etc
Every time I too have yelled down the phone trying to get him to hang up.
It's annoying as when it happens you can't call out. One time he didn't realise for three hours.

I agree - lots of men make silly comments like that that they wouldn't DREAM of meaning for even a second. Was the cab driver "leading" the conversation?

I agree - lots of men make silly comments like that that they wouldn't DREAM of meaning for even a second. Was the cab driver "leading" the conversation?

What did you say to him Winky?

He got in and I told him he needs to sort out his 'phone because I'd heard his conversation with the taxi driver.

Told him what I'd heard and he said he'd meant when he was at his old place of work, not now. Ho hum. He was still married to me at his last place. He was unconcerned and said he'd rather die than be without me and the children. Hmmm, bit of a contradiction there.

I couldn't really be bothered to go beyond that because it would have turned into a, "Yes you did," / "No I didn't," type conversation which goes nowhere. I should have hung up as soon as I realised he wasn't intending to call me. Snoopers never hear or find what they want to hear or find.

Never mind. Thanks for listening.

Oh poor you winkywinkola, I'd be gutted too and to know about the lovely girls at his work. I'd be paronoid forever!! But one bril thing was in the phrase 'I wish I were single' because it clearly states he wouldnt cheat on you which is a fantastic thing to know and hear. So look on the bright side and feel over the moon because not everyone can trust a man but it looks like your man has morals!

Sorry it wasn't a perfect outcome Winky but could have been a lot worse too.
All of us do a bit of 'window shopping' occasionally

Really really important to let this go. Of course he doesn't see it as important because it was a throw away comment intended for another bloke. I have said it to friends and it was used only as an expression and nothing to do with reality. I think it is lovely that he said he would rather die without you and the children and I think that that is the reality and what you must focus on. Getting overly upset about this will open the way to worry and doubt and battles that can never be resolved.

If he is otherwise lovely to you and you are happy in your relationship then, please move away from this incident. I wish you well.

I agree, try not to be hurt, but have lots of fun with him.

I overheard my DH buying fags when his phone went off accidentally - although he had sworn he had given up!

All I can say is knowledge is power . . . .use it

Oh that was kind of annoying resolution - not the grovelling apology you should have got. But the words 'I wish I was single' communicate 'I am married and it is for life' so that's something...

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