AIBU to think that people who put Christmas decorations up super early are just attention seekers?

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My neighbour has had her house decorated fully for Christmas now for almost two weeks- they started going up on Oct 31st. Fully lit tree in the window, outdoor lights, Christmas wreath on the door- the works.

She’s done this since she moved next door to me five years ago and I assume she did it before that too.

Since I’ve known her, she’s also posted on Insta and her WhatsApp status each year on either Christmas Day or the 26th to show her decorations coming down and a general “I can’t spend another minute looking at them” message.

If she put them up at Christmas and not at Halloween, she wouldn’t be looking at them for all that long.

She’s one of these “I’m daft me” types.

I know there are some exceptions where decorations are put up for different reasons like someone with a terminal illness, a family celebrating early before someone emigrates etc. but those are rare so I’m not factoring then into my thoughts around this.

Am I being unreasonable for thinking that someone who put Christmas decorations up at the end of Oct/early Nov is attention-seeking?

I’m amazed at how many people have energy to waste on being offended by Christmas decorations, some of us have much bigger problems in our lives and putting the decorations up brings us joy!
As I said earlier in the thread my family is out to make the most of Christmas whilst my husband is still around, we both love Christmas and getting into the spirit of it as early as possible. I’m going to strive to continue make Christmas as magical as possible for my children even when he is gone, I honestly don’t care if that offends people!

I'm amazed that you';re wittering about people being offended when not one person said they were. Annoyed is not offended, pissed off is not offended.

My point still stands, there’s more important things to be pissed over, I hate cancer, it’s taken too many from me already and it just keeps coming but I can’t do anything about that so we are trying to make our life as enjoyable as possible.

Why are you harassing this poster? She doesn't owe you an explanation for her own opinion.

When people are complaining about attention seeking, whining, snowflakes, instant gratification, not wanting to see lights, "cheering up November" like there's something inherently wrong with that and God knows what other rubbish, they're offended. You're allowed to be offended even if it is over something ridiculous.

And now you're going to be offended that people recognise that you're offended.

They're just Christmas decorations. We may be on the verge of societal collapse but it's not because your neighbour put up some lights in November for reasons you don't know and aren't anything to do with you. It's nuts what some people think are moral issues on here.

If you think my posts are abusive, report them. It's a discussion forum: read up on them if you don't know how they work.

I didn't say your posts are abusive.

It's not a discussion if the poster has made it clear she doesn't want to engage with you any further and you're still responding to her posts demanding answers for her own personal opinions. Unclench.

"cancer, so no-one else is allowed to ever complain about anything".

Hard pass.

Did I say that? I said there’s more important things to be offended over or annoyed at, surely Christmas lights should be pretty low down on that list? Seems like a huge waste of energy to me especially when it’s not hurting anyone.

Are we getting lectures about being irritated and minding our own business from someone complaining repeatedly about when other people put up their Christmas lights?

You accused me of harassing her, which is really close enough. So if you think my posts constitute the form of abuse that is harassment, report them. If you don't, stop making silly accusations.

She is free to ignore me, as are you. And since you are obviously so very calm and unclenched, I'm sure you won't mind letting me have the last word. It's all as inconsequential as when the neighbours switch on some lights.

Ooooo touchy too … ok Scrooge

There have been suggestions that it's class-connected on another thread. I'm not sure.

You have no idea, seriously.

I've always thought they were just people who really loved Christmas and the whole run up to it more than the day itself, so they wanted to extend that lovely time of twinkly lights and anticipation.

It's weird how some people only see the bad in other people I think

That's how I feel about it. I don't get lights and decorations up on November but it doesn't affect me so each to their own.

I do know what the OP means about some people though. If the person puts lights up by Halloween, then makes a fuss about it, then by boxing day (when most people are still celebrating Christmas cheer) is putting social media posts about how they had to get their decorations down, and they're the sort of 'I'm whacky, me' type, then they probably do seek attention and would be annoying. It's their personality that's the issue though, not the fact they decorate early.

Precisely so why judge others!!

I was just wondering that!

It would make sense. I'm getting the same nonsensical, moralistic, inexplicably angry vibes as we always get for the Christmas Eve box threads and how evil and tacky and common they are. And it's obvious that it's only because they're relatively affordable and easily available in budget places. We never get this attitude towards things the middle class likes at Christmas, like expensive tech or organic vegetables or seven foot high trees with soft white lights that came out of the John Lewis catalogue. On Mumsnet, when everyone seems to be up in moralistic arms over something that harms absolutely nobody and clearly has no moral value, it's almost always about class...or at least their perceptions of it.

Christmas Eve box threads in November, I'm definitely against.

Why judge people for throwing insults and denigration about fricking decorations and making spurious accusations of abuse when countered?

Because it's the Christmas spirit, obviously. Fa la la la la la la la la.

🥱🥱🥱 enjoy life love, you only have one!

My neighbour has an Easter wreath and bunny decorations, had a giant spider and web on the front of her house, with skeletons and pumpkins everywhere. There's already a Christmas tree in their front room, front bedroom and rear living room. Their full on Griswald lighting show is due any day now, the back garden's got light up reindeer roaming about too.

But why hijack the old traditions of an existing festival for your own ends, regardless of the fact that you've now ruined it for the majority?

Indeed, and I'm sure you have much more exciting things to do with yours than continue to be bored with me!

I love your description of her! I’ve never heard of before, but know the exact type you mean 🤣

Christmas is a hijack. And if you can't enjoy your celebrations unless everyone else is celebrating the same way, your celebrations are pretty crap.