Compromising with partner on holiday

[Growingmyhairout]

We're currently on holiday together which is great, our first longer holiday together.
Back home my partner is very sociable, likes having a few beers and being out until the early hours.
I don't drink at all, and I like being in bed early, maybe that makes me boring but hey ho.
I'm not saying I need to be in bed by 9pm but i go by half midnight latest.
It doesn't affect us at all back home as he goes out late with friends but on holiday it's a different story I guess.
We're on a city break, my partner also wants to be up and out for 8am and spending the entire days walking round the city, as do I.
We have been staying out until midnight in bars etc so far. Which I think is reasonable.
The first day we were jet lagged and had had hardly any sleep and I felt like death going round the city.
My partner would happily be out until 2/3am then up at 8, and would spend the entire day out until 2am again.
I just can't do this. If I'm going to be out walking all day I need a decent sleep at a reasonable time.
I just think that it's also a holiday from work, not an endurance test. I don't want to return home feeling shattered and needing another holiday.
However I don't want to spoil his fun. I told him I needed adequate sleep at a reasonable time and he understood, but told me he could have stayed out longer.
I went on a city break with a former friend about 5 years ago. It was the same, she'd happily be out until 3am, exist on 5 hours' sleep then spend 12 hours walking around. I looked and felt awful all week, but then when I tried to set boundaries I was called a boring Grandma. She's no longer a friend.
Maybe if I were 18 ok, not in my 30s.
I've said I'll stay out until 2 once as a compromise this week, only if we can get a lie in.
I don't want to feel like a party pooper, but I just can't walk round for miles on end sleep deprived.
How would you compromise here?

Said friend expected me to be out until 3am when I had to be up at 6 for a flight, didn't ask me if that was ok just told me we would be doing that. When I said I was unhappy with that I was told to 'chill the fuck out and enjoy life"

How old are you? Have you had your blood levels checked recently?

Tricky…but yes, I’d stay out once or twice until 2am but maybe have a lie in the next morning. Can your DH go on a morning stroll without you? (And maybe come back with a coffee and a croissant for you?) My DP is a morning person and I’m not, sometimes I compromise when we’re on holidays and have plans for the day, and other times he goes on his own and comes back for me later.

I would just go back to the hotel on my own early - is that an option? My DH and I have very different interests .. on holiday he is skiing, cycling or hiking ... I am lazing by the pool. I go to bed at the time I want to go to bed.

I don't think I've ever stayed up until 2am in my life ... even on NYE .

Blood levels? No, why?
Sadly we've only got one key for our Airbnb so not an option,

There is the option for him to go out later one day though and me to join which could be a good compromise

Sleep in would be my suggestion. OH can go out in the morning and you can meet somewhere at lunch

Because if you're not that old, that level of tiredness is a bit excessive.

He gets up and out at 8am, you meet him mid-morning/lunch.

Is it? I don't think it's that abnormal to be tried after 5/6 hours' sleep and 12 plus hours' walking? That's not a holiday for me, it's an endurance test

Yeah some people are good at that and some people aren't. I don't think it's indicative of a health concern

Just compromise by agreeing each day whether it will be a late night OR an early start next day, not both?

I hate going in noisy pubs/clubs as it is but I'm going in them for him, but it's his bread and butter back home

If I get a bad night's sleep at home then work the next day I feel pretty rubbish all day, it's the same here.
Yeah I'll compromise that for once, it seems fair

It’s definitely quite a long day and a short sleep, and I totally understand wanting to take it a bit easier, but would you having a siesta and a couple of hours sleep after lunch help?

I don't think you're very compatible. Maybe you and the couple from the other holiday thread this morning should team up.

Yeah you're right, we did come back for a nap yesterday, well I napped and he waited, but I'll suggest it again. I think the concept with a city holiday is that you don't rest at all, you have to cram in absolutely everything whilst you're there and see/do everything, but again it's also a holiday from a busy work life for me and I wish I could take it a bit easier, but I will compromise once for the late night.

Took a day or two to recover from the jet lag which I don't think helped either

It sounds like you are not really that compatible. He’s a bit of a party animal and you are not. All perfectly fine and you manage it at home but it is all brought in sharp focus on holiday.

I must admit although I love going out for dinner and a few drinks staying out in pubs and clubs afterwards just for the sake of it bores me rigid. But I’m way older than you.

Even on city breaks I still want some time in the hotel room with a book and maybe a glass of wine.

She said she was in her 30s. Have you had your eyes tested recently?

No, my eyes are fine, there's biologically a fair bit of difference between 30 and 39.

I don't think that couples have to be compatible on absolutely every point, nobody exists like that who matches you on absolutely everything. It's about how you make it work I suppose.

You are not compatible.
Nothing wrong or right but you are not compatible.

For this trip suggest that you go back to the hotel in the afternoon and have a nap whilst he explores