To ask my neighbour to take down Christmas decorations from my garden?

[MotherofGrinches]

I came home and saw that my neighbours had decorated their house ready for Christmas.

They had put one of their Christmas decorations on my garden without checking with me first. They seemed annoyed when I (very politely) asked them to put it on their own driveway instead.

So, was I being unreasonable? It was very close to the boundary, so I thought about letting it go, but it's a long time until Christmas!

And you sound like the neighbour across the road whose festive trash means my curtains have to be closed from about 3pm. Not everyone is cheap and vulgar!

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Did they move it?

I'm picturing a part of a set that just needed a bit of soft ground to put the last one in. Was it facing your way?

I've also got OP pointing at the invading decoration with contempt and declaring get that orf my land!

Read my previous post where I state I don’t decorate outside my home. I’m just not so far up my own backside I expect everyone else to be the same as me.

This. And shame on the previous posters for not mentioning.

That’s is bloody cheeky!

Yanbu! Given you've asked already, if it's still there I'd just take it out and put it in their garden. Either stake it in or rest against a fence/wall. It's your garden, xmas decorations or not, this would be my reply.

My next door neighbours go ott with their outdoor decorations. Nearly every inch of their house is covered with something and have a Santa on a sleigh which rests on the top of my front door canopy. I’m not fond but it’s not particularly hurting anyone so don’t say anything.

If its on your land they definitely should have asked you and yanbu.
However if it was December I probably would have let it go, early November I would have been grouchy too.

Have you actually spoken to them?

@funrunning snob solidarity

If it was me I would have left it, I mean the world is bloody miserable enough.

Yes!!😂😂😂

Just remove it and stick it in their garden

Job done ✅

Im surprised anyone would really care that much about it, but i guess its your flower bed.

Is it bad enough to be worth having an enemy next door? Which could possibly escallate into something worse over the months and years ahead. It is however far too early and a bit silly, but harmless nontheless. I always think several steps ahead before getting verbal with people that might annoy me, lots of experience in how not to do it.

So funny.

I'd just move it if it is really there. Then again I might just leave it if it looks pretty.

I would 100% let this go. Do people not want to maintain good relations with the people they live next door to? No way would i start a fight with someone i have to see every day for the next 30 years over something as trivial as a Christmas decoration in my flower bed

Pick it out and start a ritual fire in your garden wearing dark robes and thank them for the gift saying you were able to make the burning of the decoration part of your satanic ritual and that as you are satanist Christmas a different meaning for you.

Outdoor decorations in November is mad! They will be rained on and you will be utterly sick of them by the time Christmas arrives proper!
Could you develop a sudden desire to redevelop that part of the garden…

I can't comment without a photo of the offensive decorations. At the very least you need to provide a diagram. You know the rules!!

I’d have left it where it was and spray-painted it black. Can’t stand Christmas.

It doesn’t matter whether it was the usual
tacky crap or a minimalist designer masterpiece by a famous craftsman - the CF neighbours had NO right to stick it on OP’s land. How dare they, and without even asking permission. I would have been livid.

My immediate reaction to the idea of them putting the decorations on your land is that they were being incredibly entitled. But your explanation makes it sounds like your flower bed borders their drive. So, especially since Christmas decks are temporary, sticking a stake in right by their drive would allow them to, for instance, mark out the entrance with a light on either side, without it really having any detrimental impact on you or your flower bed?

If this was the sort of thing they were doing, I think a quick word with you before doing it would have been by far the better route for them to take. And you are, of course, within your rights to insist they don’t use your flower bed. But unless there are other issues with them it does sound pointlessly petty and not a particularly good way to develop friendly, ongoing relationships with people who you may not have much in common with but stand a good chance of needing cooperation with from time to time.

One of those little light stakes in your flower bed? So that their driveway was lined with lights and it just happens that it reaches a point where to do that they need a square inch of already tilled dirt?

totally your right to ask that it be removed. You have however likely earned yourself a nomination for the Ebenezer Scrooge Hall of Fame.