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AIBU?

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to not want to collaborate with annoying co-worker?

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russetmellow · 09/11/2022 20:45

My line manager invited expressions of interest from colleagues for an individual to undertake a specific project with a very fast turnaround. It's an area I've a lot of experience in (more than colleagues) and I'd love to do the project and could do it super-fast. I applied, outlining experience etc.

I got an email today saying two of us applied and as such what would I think of sharing the project? The other person is notoriously tricky and hasn't even 10% of the experience I do in the area - our line manager even indiscreetly described them as 'a very difficult person.' Think someone who gets very huffy if they feel overlooked, walks out in a temper at times etc. I haven't had to work very closely with them before but have seen how they behave and have been at the receiving end of their deeply intemperate behaviour.

I asked the line manager if we could split the task and they said 'well wouldn't you like to work as a team?' I said something along the lines of thinking it would be quickest to work individually - but let's see what the other person thinks.

AIBU to be a bit pissed off that the terms have changed from an individual taking on the project, and that if I have to work with this other person it's likely to take much longer and be trickier (due to their personality) than if I just did it alone? NB I work in a sector where individual projects are the absolute norm and I rarely if ever work as part of a team on this sort of thing. Any advice for how I can handle this?

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billy1966 · 14/11/2022 21:35

LolaSmiles · 14/11/2022 20:52

Runningintolife gives good advice.

Know your worth and be assertive. You volunteered on one set of terms and they're trying to change things to an arrangement that doesn't suit you.

You hold the cards. They can either let you work independently and manage the fall out from moody colleague, or they can hand the project over to the moody colleague and accept the poorer quality that comes with it. What they can't have is all the quality of your work, and pass the hot potato of the moody colleague onto you to deal with.

Agree.

OP, your LM is a snake.

Stop giving them opportunities to make a fool of you.

Decide what you want and be prepared to only do that.

Working with this difficult colleague is not in your interests.

Do not let your guard down with this LM, even for a minute.

Peekachoochoo · 14/11/2022 22:00

russetmellow · 14/11/2022 15:52

I've a meeting on Thursday w LM about it so will try to come up with a solution before then. My current instinct is to outline my concerns to the LM and ask if extra time will be allocated to it now that it's changed from what was originally outlined. Or ask if we can split the tasks so I can get on with it, control how much time it takes and the LM can deal with managing the other person.

Oh err....

"Try to come up with a solution." I don't think you are going to get the result you want with this approach.

IncompleteSenten · 15/11/2022 04:18

russetmellow · 14/11/2022 15:52

I've a meeting on Thursday w LM about it so will try to come up with a solution before then. My current instinct is to outline my concerns to the LM and ask if extra time will be allocated to it now that it's changed from what was originally outlined. Or ask if we can split the tasks so I can get on with it, control how much time it takes and the LM can deal with managing the other person.

That's going to end badly.

russetmellow · 15/11/2022 07:22

IncompleteSenten · 15/11/2022 04:18

That's going to end badly.

How come? (I mean that genuinely) Is it too avoidant of the issue?

OP posts:
billy1966 · 15/11/2022 09:40

IncompleteSenten · 15/11/2022 04:18

That's going to end badly.

Your LM is going to make a fool out of you AGAIN, if you treat this as a negotiation 🤷🏻‍♀️.

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