What's the most wildly inappropriate thing to ever happen to you?

[badassbaby]

I'll start...
When I was 19 I was working as a waitress in a holiday hotel.
I was having a wild, incredibly exciting relationship with the hotel manager, who was a good 15 years older than me.
Guests would fill out feedback forms on the hotel.
One day my boss (Restaurant manager) called me into his office. He showed me a feedback form that stated the guests weren't able to get a proper nights sleep, due to incredibly load love making all night long from the room above them.
The restaurant manager then pointed out that the room in question was the hotel managers room (his boss)
I can't remember what I responded, but when I think about it now, what the hell was he thinking of?!? And why question me about it and not the hotel manager?
I had the arrogance of youth so of course carried on exactly as before 😂
So what's yours?

So many....

First proper boyfriend when I was 17.... he was 29!

Worked in a pub as a waitress at 17, manager used to follow me into the basement whenever I went down there and practically force himself on me.... he was in his mid 40s and had kids older then me.

Someone I worked with (guy) telling me I couldn't wear a certain dress to a Xmas party as my boobs weren't big enough.... I was 20

Sure there are others but these are first that come to mind.....

Most of these posts are horrific. I'm so sorry so many of us have been put through things like this.

I have so many examples. I worked in a pub when I was 18 and I reported one of the regulars to the landlady. She told me it was just his way, don't be so dramatic, he didn't mean anything by it. This was after he pinned me to the bandit, ripped down my pants and tried to get his hand inside my knickers. He was trying to kiss me and was licking my face. I literally had to scream in his ear and push him off me in front of a half full pub. I left at the end of my shift. Everyone seemed to think I was overreacting and a bit of a spoilsport.

Probably a few months before this, I went on a date with a guy my friend knew. He was 32 but he seemed nice. He took me to a forest about 30 miles away. We went to a nearby pub and he bought me a drink. We chatted, it seemed to be going ok. He bought me another drink, I said I didn't really want it as he wasn't drinking but he insisted. Then, he bought me another before I was even half way through. And another before I'd even took a sip. I told him I wasn't going to drink them and I'd like to go home as I had work in the morning. He agreed and when we got back to his car, he drove into the woods and told me he wouldn't take me home unless I at least gave him a blow job. I didn't know what to do. I didn't have a phone back then, didn't really know where I was and he just kept shouting at me. I started crying and he just kept telling me to suck him off and he'd take me home. I didn't but I did start to give him a hand job. He kept pulling my hair and trying to push my head down but that just made me cry more. He gave up eventually and just dropped me off in town 2 miles from my house. When I told my friend, she was surprised as he seemed nice but just said nevermind, plenty more fish, etc.

There was never anyone telling you to call the police back then. Even my mum just kind of brushed it under the carpet. "That's men for you..."

So many sad stories, sorry to all who have carried this with them over the years. There are some despicable humans out there.

Unfortunately I've had many inappropriate things happen. It's much too prevalent isn't it? I worry for my daughter in this world.

I can remember being about five and this creepy dad at the kids party I was at (busy house full of kids and their parents mid 80s). He was sitting at the top of the stairs arm around me and stroking me talking in my ear. I felt like his doll if that makes sense. He made me sit there I was held there. Made me feel sick. I was at the top of the stairs to get away from him as he had been following me around and I didn't like it. Too much attention. Adults too busy to be aware. I was quiet too.

Also my parents allowing me to be "pen pals" with a guy aged 18 (I was 14). I didn't like it but was being polite and doing as I was told, he'd obviously asked to write and seemed whiter than white, very personable. My mum seemed to think it was innocent enough.

My mum acted like I was lucky. He had gone away to work. He genuinely thought I was interested and described his days as you would to a gf. It was very strange. He just kept writing letters. He told me what he does to himself thinking about me. I never told anyone, was embarrassed.

He hung around with my older cousins so I had seen him on and off over the years and he was always staring at me, once asked me to go into some bushes with him when I was about 12. I just refused, scared and confused and the others laughed like it was normal. He always made me feel wary and uncomfortable.

The way he looked at me was unsettling. He kept saying I was gorgeous (I was 12 ffs). Anyway back to these letters, he said he wanted to lick my entire body amongst other things, which I won't go into. He was detailed let's just say that. I felt grossed out. Any other time I had to go see my cousin's or go to their gatherings he'd be there and always tried to sit next to me, very touchy feely and again saying you're beautiful.

The last time I spoke to him (I was 17) he was pulling at me and trying to physically get me to come with him. He said he wanted to take me round the back of the building and have sex (was a party in a pub). I felt sick. He was flustered, all red in the face. I said no about 10 times, he was persistent, and sat away from him but he continued to watch me. Even his older brother was weird like that too. Last saw him at a party of my cousin's (with my then bf) and he didn't come near me but stared, I felt safe, that he wouldn't dare go near me anymore.

Some women have been through much worse, I really think that's awful, so sorry for what some of you endured.

Also when I was nearly 15, another man at another family house party, in his 20s, made a point of hanging round me, put his hands down my pants eventually and followed me to a bedroom and tried to pin me (don't think I've ever felt so scared). He said I was a tease and I was asking for it. Luckily managed to escape as someone went to the bathroom and I yelled "wait for me". All the adults were drinking and I don't think I was properly supervised as a youngster, so predators know who to target.

Also had a letch of a manager once who kept upping my pay (I was with an agency who kept saying he loves you, what are you doing, keep doing it). I was early 20s but I looked about 15. He was powerful within his company and acted inappropriately. He was awful to other workers but too nice to me, positioned me so I was sitting typing in front of him at a right angle. Just very strange. He'd stare and smile and he'd ask me to keep breaking off to answer questions about my personal life.

I left on the day he asked me to stay and "help" with some tasks (weekend). He was being very creepy. Upon leaving he asked me to accompany him out for drinks and I said no my bf is waiting for me and he became flustered and said but you don't have a bf, I thought you said you were single? How is that even appropriate to say that? He got quite angry and I decided to join a different agency, just felt like he was going to try it on if I stayed. Saw him a year later drunk with his arm round a woman (in a possessive way like he owned her) who wasn't his wife. Horrid man.

Thankfully no other incidents since then other than being asked by a bar man, in early 2000s, to show him my tits, should be easy he said, as I was wearing a boob tube (as I was paying for my drink). Twat.

Long post but shows you it's often numerous incidents...

My own stories of inappropriate behaviour are nowhere near as bad as some here, but I'll share anyway.

I had people like bus drivers tell me I was beautiful or make inappropriate comments.

Another was a priest in a confessional. That sounds like nonsense as most confessionals in church have a divider between you, so you're not even technically in the same room or even see the priest. This was in school where a small room was set aside for an informal confession at school; a set up of two facing chairs. It might have been during advent.

I've built it up there but at the end the priest asked for a Christmas kiss. I'm afraid that I was 15 and very timid and I did kiss him on the cheek. I know it sounds like nothing, and possibly wasn't, but I felt uncomfortable and over 20 years later I do think it was inappropriate.

I asked a friend what happened in her confession, she just shrugged and she just talked about the penance, so I didn't tell her. I did confide in another friend from school years later (if he's reading here it's obviously outing👋) and he was able to identify him (he wasn't from my church so I didn't know him) and said he wasn't surprised as he was over-friendly sort.

The worst if these were from older men to my teenage self. I'm quite aloof and cold to strange men now, possibly as a consequence of earlier poor behaviour from some.

Not sure over what extended period of time but being locked in a bathroom all day, at aged 3, when a social worker asked my adoptive mother why i was locked in the bathroom, she replied " He likes it in there". I was a forced adoption (1962), even more inappropriate tbh.

I’m really pleased to hear that . I hope it helps you I really do .💐

I’m shocked that a lot of the mums & other older women didn’t stand up for young girls or actively went along with the sexual abuse .

My hubby was a union rep for many years. He lost count of the amount of women who came to him to report inapropriate behaviour, groping, sexual comments and outright sexual assualt. These women had turned to the union as HR/management refused to do anything about it. He said all of these guys had at least 5 previous complaints but some had up to 17! He said some of these girls were only 18 years old and utterly terrified . He worked for several different companies and it was always the same story. We even saw 2 of the guys he was trying to get sacked on the local news after they had been tried for rape !

When I was about seven I was sitting in a science lesson at junior school. I was daydreaming a bit and the male teacher noticed, so he suddenly asked me a question to catch me out.

I remember just blushing and being speechless, and he very solemnly asked me to stand up, come to the front of the class and bend over his desk. This was summer in the late 70s so I was wearing a very short skirt and my knickers would have been showing to everyone.

He then picked up a long ruler and pretended to slowly spank me about five times!

I only told someone about this for the first time a year ago, as I was so ashamed at the time and thought I must have deserved it - all the classic reactions. I shudder to think what else that creep got away with.

I’m amazed at the attitudes of some of the parents in some of these posts. I used to go to church with my mum when I was a young teen. At about age 13 I had a new dress and my first pair of high heels. There was a guy who must have been in his mid 20’s eyeing me up very obviously. I felt uncomfortable but my mum thought it was wonderful. I was a child for goodness sake!

OMG...this is the most disturbing one I've read on here - that poor girl.

I’ve remembered another one from when I was about 9 or 10. We had a supply teacher at primary school, as our normal teacher was unwell.

We were learning about the holocaust and the supply teacher was telling us about how the poor women in the concentration camps would have their heads shaved. He stood right behind me and gathered up all my hair in his hands like in a ponytail and started touching my neck telling me that if my head was shaved I would be cold. Just utterly inappropriate.

A taxi driver kept me locked in the taxi until I agreed to go on a date with him the next day, he finally let me out (at 2am) and I walked past my house so he didn't know where I lived and of course never showed up for said 'date' so frightening. It seems to be a common occurrence sadly, the amount of times I've been groped, sexually harrassed and even assaulted by males is ridiculous. I dread to think how it is for very attractive women as I would say I'm average looking.

I’ve had a few when I was younger. Similar experiences

has a creepy experience last year
I was working with a team in work one day a week. Everyone seemed normal & we had been for drinks
a week before the Xmas party (full workplace) I got an email from a guy in my team asking if I would meet him in his hotel room after the party to get a feel of my tits.
His reason was “they look fantastic & id just like to get it out my system”

I couldn’t believe it. Screen shot, forward on email to my manager & copied on the IT director. I asked them to get access to his Sent folder
was swiftly dealt with & he handed in his notice. Dead to rights

This as a man, has made me rethink everything! I was lucky, that all the women around were very strong, unusual!

Huh?

@Whattodoagainandagain how do you mean all the women around were strong?

I don't mean to jump on wording but I don't understand - will guarantee if you met any of these posters in real life, you'd think they were strong women.

I'm outspoken around others, for example, but when men have behaved inappropriately with me I'm usually stunned into silence. Add in age as a factor, when young or it's a trusted figure, you don't know how to react.

Look maybe it’s me and my circle of friends I have for years, but always called shit behaviour out!

I’m really confused as to what you’re getting at here? Are you suggesting that those who have shared experiences have let this stuff happen to us?

You shouldn't be talking like that if you've read the thread. How awful.

Age 10/11. Catching bus into town. It’s busy and there are no spare seats so I’m holding on to the rail. Old man tells me to come over and sit on his lap…which I do…as don’t want to appear rude. Post #metoo I look back on that memory and think WTAF???

It's not for women to call out shit behaviour. It's for men to stop acting shit. You are part of the problem.

No problem at all x

And it's not on women to 'be strong'. It's for men to realise right from wrong. This is simple stuff.

When I was in the Army cadets, I had an affair with one of the instructors. I was only 14 and he was 20 so what he saw in me I’ve got no idea. I thought he was amazing and I thought we were in love but looking back I realise he was a bit of a creep and a perv. My parents lived in a bungalow and he’d climb in the window when they were asleep and get into bed with me.