To be furious at DH for giving DD2 coffee?

[chldev]

DD2 turned 2 just over a week ago. We also had a 3yo and I'm 7 months pregnant. DH went to Starbucks and got himself a coffee, I came down stairs and he was giving DD2 a drink of it. I'm already exhausted due to this pregnancy, DD2 is now running around and it's safe to say she won't nap. DH doesn't seem to think it's an issue and that I'm BU to be furious.

AIBU?

why not all go to watch the football , a good run round in the rain and cold will wear them out nicely .

😱 that's a shocking thing to say!

A proper drink? I don’t think YABU. I will happily give my kids foam from coffee and I started drinking coffee regularly myself at about 10, so I’m not massively uptight about it… but to me it’s just one of those things that you have a conversation about first.

It's a Starbucks. There wouldn't have been that much coffee in there to start with.

I'm sure you're exhausted and overwhelmed but you're overreacting. Assume she'll nap as normal and carry on accordingly- there's no reason to do anything different.

The whole drink = YANBU, He's a prick.
A big sip/slurp of it - YABU it's just a drink, Tell him to cancel his Footy and let him chase her/drag her off the ceiling.

She is probably picking up on your angsty vibes and can’t relax.

Crikey. Mine were drinking coffee at that age with breakfast, along with tea.
A little drink won't harm her, it's not quite a pint of lager is it.

American Academy of Pediatrics says there’s currently no proven safe dose of caffeine for children.

No proven safe dose is the main point here though. Many things haven’t been proved safe for children because obviously there are dubious ethical issues about testing products on children.

A sip or two will be fine. I find it hard to believe a 2 year old would drink enough coffee to be wired and not nap. If she isn’t napping it’s much more likely down to something else.
You’re overreacting.

My DH thought I was giving DD coffee from a young age because I ordered her babyccinos 😂

Amazed she drank it! I remember trying my dad's coffee as a kid and finding it awful.

Couldn't get worked up about a sip.

Agree with pp. Why don't you all go to football together.

Outside air is marvelous stuff for reducing tension, and for DC to let off some steam.

But I do think yabu about the sip. I haven't come across a 2 yr old child yet that actually even likes coffee. Unless is a loaded milk and sugar.

Do you ever let her eat chocolate because there will be more caffeine in that versus a single sip, even a big one, of Starbucks coffee? If she’s refusing her nap that is not why. Put the TV on for some quiet time instead and let it go.

Luckynumbereight is one of those morons that likes to jump on a thread say something for a reaction (because obviously nothing they do in their real life is of interest to anyone) then go away. Ignore.

OP a big slurp of coffee really isn’t going to have an effect on a 2yo like that, give them a little bit to get their energy out of them then try a nap

I’m with you, OP. DH would have been told he was on child duty until she slept, whether that was two hours or ten. And it would have been ten manic hours.

My mum used to put coffee in my baby bottle, not advisable obviously but I'm totally fine and was totally fine and slept like, well, a baby.

This!

Exactly. There’s no “proven” safe quantity, and yet virtually no one would caution against the occasional square of chocolate for a kid… which contains caffeine.

You’ve said it was a drink. That’s really open to interpretation and gives no indication as to how much. Is that a couple of sips? 5 gulps? Half the thing? What?

DD tries my coffee if she wants. There is a high chance YABU.

This. There’s so many studies where a group of children were given sugar, and a group weren’t. The parents were made to guess the ‘sugar’ group and the results were 50/50. The parents who thought that sugar affected their children’s behaviour were the parents who were found to be more critical of their children’s behaviour in general anyway

Hmmmm. I think a sip is fine, a "drink" is not. That said, I let mine drink tea at that age, although that does have less caffeine in and of course I made it a milky one.

There's caffeine in loads of things. A sip from a chain coffee won't make any difference unless it was a decent one maybe from an espresso. If she's running about the likelihood is she'd have been doing that without the coffee too

A sip though ....

He plays football every Sunday? What time do you get off? That’s the issue. Does he share the load.

The real issue is that he's leaving you heavily pregnant with two toddlers while he goes off for a nice time.