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Skidding Car - friend's husband today "couldn't resist the opportunity"

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alwaysmovingforwards · 05/11/2022 19:02

Sorry, bit of a long one..

I flew back to the UK today and my friend's husband had kindly agreed to give me a lift home from the airport. Such a lovely gesture - saves me either a hefty taxi bill or 2+hrs on public transport. My friend lives close to me and her husband owns companies on the industrial estates near the airport , so he's always doing that route. I get on really well with both of them and their family, they're all lovely people, seem very happy and lead a very nice lifestyle. It was my friend who made the offer and we arranged a couple of weeks ago, he then followed up on text to say it's no problem just let him flight details etc which I did.

Anyway, we arranged for me to get the airport bus 10mins to the long stay carpark to avoid the airport fees, which makes sense. So I get there and he arrives shortly after. It's a massive carpark and pretty much empty so he pulls up right next to the little shelter thing, we say hi, he gives me a hand putting my bag in the boot and I get in and buckle up. As we pull away I'm saying thank you and was about to ask how everyone is, but he's smiling and says "sorry, just can't resist the opportunity..."

He then accelerates his car really quickly, turns and the whole car starts skidding sideways! The engine sounds incredibly loud and must be revving right up to full power and we're literally sliding on the wet carpark in a big circle, totally terrifying. I don't know if he was in control because the steering wheel was moving around quickly but didn't seem to correlate with the direction of the car. It's one of the most shocking things I've ever experienced and I don't like roller coasters etc.

He then slows, chuckles "just couldn't resist it" again and calmly drives to the barriers, exits smoothly towards the motorway, puts the radio on and then casually starts asking how my trip was.. as if that whole thing didn't happen! I tried to speak on the way home, to be polite and make small talk, but in all honesty I was feeling very ill and my legs were shaky 40mins later when he dropped me off.

Should I tell my friend what an abolosute idiot her husband actually is? On one had I really appreciate the gesture of giving me a lift and value our friendship, but on the other this was an incredibly dangerous and shocking incident she should be aware of.

It's so weird, because up until now I thought he was a really nice guy. But I just can't see him in the same way any more. I know he likes fast cars because she's told me that the stables at their house have been converted into garages and he has various cars in there. I've been in the car with him before and he's been a really good confident driver, very safe and smooth. He's in his early 50s FFS!

To make matters worse, I called my parents when home to say hi after my trip. I spoke to my Dad as even though he's in his 70s, he knows lots about cars and I explained what happened and he sort of laughed and said "well, once every now and again, why not eh..."
Seriously WTF?!?

So AIBU to be so shocked and upset by this? I still feel nauseous now.

Or is there a weird parallel universe I've just discovered where respectable, responsible, grown arse men with kids and wives and businesses, that should know better, see it as perfectly acceptable to be doing skidding and sliding and loud engine revving in their cars?

OP posts:
catandcoffee · 05/11/2022 22:08

I thought you were going to say he made a pass at you... as in he couldn't resist the opportunity 😂

TheMossEnthusiast · 05/11/2022 22:09

You were shaking for 40 plus minutes after he did a donut in an empty carpark ..?

BuryingAcorns · 05/11/2022 22:14

Ginglymostomatidae · 05/11/2022 19:07

Did you die though?

Why did I hear this said in Catheirne Tate's schoolgirl Lauren voice?

fannyfartlet · 05/11/2022 22:15

lifeinthehills · 05/11/2022 21:34

The skid goes out of control and they end up hitting a fence, or pole, or something? What if you hit a slippery patch and lose traction? I have no personal experience of this sort of thing, I admit.

The point is to lose traction. That's how the car slides. It's done by turning off the traction control and the wheels spinning faster than they can grip. The idea of doing in a carpark is that there is plenty of open space so nothing to hit. The vehicle is also traveling at very slow speeds although the wheels are turning very quickly. It's perfectly safe in the right environment.

OnaBegonia · 05/11/2022 22:18

this was an incredibly dangerous and shocking incident
Are you always a bit in the dramatic side? or have you had a very sheltered life that this is such a shock??
Calm yourself down fgs

Managinggenzoclock · 05/11/2022 22:19

Its not my idea of a good time but I wouldn’t see this as a big deal to be honest.

NumberTheory · 05/11/2022 22:21

I’m with your friend’s DH. One of my favourite days out was at a skid pan. A wet empty car park is heaven for this, you so rarely get the opportunity.

QueenBeex · 05/11/2022 22:24

This post made me laugh Halo I'm glad you got out alive OPGrin

Unseelie · 05/11/2022 22:24

He scared you on purpose, he’s a creep. You were so shocked and upset that you were still shakey 40 minutes later, and he didn’t even notice? I don’t believe that. He knew.

He could have had a play with the car in the carpark before picking you up, or, having picked you up, he could have asked if you minded him doing some spins. Instead he chose to disempower and frighten you. What. A. Creep.

AthenaPopodopolous · 05/11/2022 22:24

That’s hilarious OP. Daft man pulling boy racer stunts. Tell your friend to tell her husband you will never get in a car again with him though.

OohMrBingley · 05/11/2022 22:33

Should I tell my friend what an abolosute idiot her husband actually is?

If you do, get ready for her face to go like this: 😐

Do you honestly think he hasn’t done similar in front of her?

NightAndShiningArmour · 05/11/2022 22:33

😂😂😂did my DH give you a lift home?? 😂😂😂

Travis1 · 05/11/2022 22:37

BuryingAcorns · 05/11/2022 22:14

Why did I hear this said in Catheirne Tate's schoolgirl Lauren voice?

I heard it more like this guy 🤣

Skidding Car - friend's husband today "couldn't resist the opportunity"
Skidding Car - friend's husband today "couldn't resist the opportunity"
CrampMcBastard · 05/11/2022 22:41

Travis1 · 05/11/2022 22:37

I heard it more like this guy 🤣

I was getting more Angela from
The Office (US) vibes!

Fingeronthebutton · 05/11/2022 22:43

Hilarious 😂 A grown woman takes the time to write all that bumph about a bloke having a bit of fun a a car park.
BTW, I don’t believe it, liars always give too much detail. Remember that.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 05/11/2022 22:44

He absolutely should not have done that with you in the car, without your agreement. Fine on his own, but not with an unsuspecting passenger.

LaGioconda · 05/11/2022 22:44

Sorry, I've just never been skidding in an out of control car before.

The thing is, the car wasn't out of control. It's pretty clear he's an experienced driver and I bet he's done this quite often before, so he knew exactly what he was doing.

Blocked · 05/11/2022 22:45

Mamarsupial · 05/11/2022 19:17

He was showing off.
I wouldn’t have been impressed either, but you are acting like he did a drive by shooting or something. Calm down.

I can't stop laughing at this Grin

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 05/11/2022 22:45

Unseelie · 05/11/2022 22:24

He scared you on purpose, he’s a creep. You were so shocked and upset that you were still shakey 40 minutes later, and he didn’t even notice? I don’t believe that. He knew.

He could have had a play with the car in the carpark before picking you up, or, having picked you up, he could have asked if you minded him doing some spins. Instead he chose to disempower and frighten you. What. A. Creep.

Exactly all of this. Can’t believe some of the replies you’ve had OP

Paramummy3 · 05/11/2022 22:45

He did a donut in an empty car park, once you were safely in the car with your seatbelt on??

probably not worth calling his wife to tell her, she may rather hear about your holiday if you are close friends

Shade17 · 05/11/2022 22:46

Arsing around in empty car parks is always a laugh, tends to be good form to warn passengers though. Much more fun in the dry though, lots more smoke!

Herejustforthisone · 05/11/2022 22:46

Shaky and sick forty minutes after an impromptu donut? 🤣 this place is fucking insane.

KillingLoneliness · 05/11/2022 22:48

Meh he was just having some fun, he did a doughnut in an empty carpark, really couldn’t get worked up over it, obviously you didn’t enjoy it but it was harmless albeit a bit silly.

KillingLoneliness · 05/11/2022 22:50

I bet his wife already knows as he has most probably done it with her in the car before.

SunflowerTed · 05/11/2022 22:50

Rockingcloggs · 05/11/2022 19:27

Yes, yes tell his wife and please do let us know what she thinks of her terrible husband who you used to think of as 'a really nice guy' but don't now because he pratted about a bit for a laugh in an empty car park 🙄

I know! He probably is still a really nice guy to the rest of the world!