AIBU to think when staying in hotel should not go down to breakfast in pyjamas

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Last night stayed overnight in a City Centre hotel and a family all came down to breakfast wearing their pyjamas,looking like they had all jumped out of bed , it was 9am so still had time to shower and dress before breakfast finished , AIBU to think this is not appropriate

I haven't but o have let my kids before, didn't realise it was so taboo

Personally I'd mind my own business and couldn't care less what anyone else is wearing. But maybe your family is that dull and boring you had nothing else to be getting on with at breakfast.

We are really not dull and boring 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣i

Would anyone get worked up then if I decided to sit at the breakfast table and pick my nose and eat it while I had my coffee and read the paper?

Would people not judge and just think 'well she's not hurting anyone is she'

Ive pretty much stayed at hotels around the world....I also worked at the Intercontinental group of hotels when I was in my early twenties...and never once have I seen anyone, ever, come down to breakfast in an hotel, in their nightwear....

I think its unhygienic. People do all sorts of things while they're sleeping - pick their noses, scratch their bottoms, dribble, sweat buckets. Not to mention having sex! Going down to a hotel breakfast in PJs and scattering all their dried bodily secretions over the croissants is just grim, and disrespectful to other guests. People, please wash and dress before you leave your hotel room in the morning!

1. you have sex when you're sleeping??

2. people do all those things when they are awake and fully clothed too. (Well they probably aren't fully clothed when having sex)

On MN you are not allowed to notice anything that most would raise an eyebrow about. If you do you then are getting worked up apparently. Or the tedious 'pearl clutching' expression. You must always claim you would not notice these things, maybe wear a blindfold or something just to be sure.

Ooooooooooooooo

Thankfully I’ve never been in a hotel where people have done this. I would think it was lazy and dirty. Have a shower and put some clean clothes on!

I'd never do it, but I've seen plenty that have

Exactly.

Meanwhile, in the real world - unless you’re a dull-minded robot, you observe, notice and form an internal opinion about things all the time. Literally - all the time.

And there’s not a single thing anyone can do about someone’s internal thoughts and opinions.

And there’s not a single thing anyone can do about someone’s internal thoughts and opinions.

I'm sure I got reprimanded on here by a poster once for confessing to an internal thought I had about something but it didn't actually leave my mouth in RL. 😆How very dare I have a thought about something-how rude of me.

That's absolutely fine, nobody would notice and it's none of their business if they do anyway apparently, nobody cares what you do. Blow your nose on the tablecloth too it's all fine.

1 Actually, most people reach a state of sexual arousal several times a night, whilst sleeping. In men, it's known as nocturnal emissions or wet dreams, but it happens to women, too. So, lots of bodily secretions on nightwear.

2 True, some people might do most of the above while awake and fully clothed - but it's much less likely, and one would hope they'd wash their hands afterwards, whereas if they've done these things in their sleep, they wouldn't know about it so wouldn't necessarily wash their hands.

In conclusion, somebody wearing their used nightwear is basically a walking Petri dish and shouldn't be permitted to enter a hotel restaurant until they've got dressed.

Then being a 'dull minded robot' has served me very well, since I have no interest in forming an opinion on anybody's appearance except my own. I do form an opinion about 'things' I see; architecture, parks and gardens, displays in shops. Not random members of the public getting on with their lives.

For the poster who asked about picking her nose, I wouldn't judge or not judge, because I wouldn't even notice. The idea that other people just aren't that fascinating to some seems to be a big difference between the views on the thread?

..... apart from the majority of people on this thread who are, as far as is generally assumed, real life people.....

To be totally honest I doubt that I would even notice what anyone else is wearing 🤷🏻‍♀️ I have too much of my own stuff going on. If it doesn’t affect me then it’s none of my business

Was it a budget hotel? I can't imagine a nice hotel letting them in the restaurant

Agree

Stayed in a fairly expensive provincial hotel recently, where a woman decided that the only reasonable way to select nice juicy sausages for her dog was to walk him into the restaurant.
Nobody said a word, so I'm guessing nightwear is also acceptable.

Yuck.

As my darling late mother once said to me when she was setting the table to eat alone, instead of having dinner on a lap tray, "one has to maintain one's standards, dear". And actually I think she was right.

It's not that I want a regimented society where sticking to strict rules of etiquette is the only thing that keeps you acceptable to others, but I do think we owe it to the people we come into contact with to be clean, and dressed in a way which won't make them uncomfortable.

(I'd have felt as uneasy as you did, OP, if a woman had come to breakfast in a low cut skin tight dress with her boobs barely staying concealed. Or a bloke in a satin suit with half his buttons undone and a bloody great gold medallion!😅 )

It's just good manners to dress in ways which fit the situation and surroundings. Not to understand that makes me feel the person's lacking something and I do judge them, because I suppose I was brought up to think that standards matter.

(I never know whether to laugh or cry at the viral compilations of Walmart shoppers!)

Not nice.

Room service ?

Really ? Only 1% of hotels have room service ? Nah….think you have that the wrong way round.