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Mexican-themed NYE party - racist, right?

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BobLobla · 05/11/2022 13:20

Just been invited by very good friends to their NYE party which promises to have a Mexican theme and everyone must wear a long droopy moustache and a sombrero. Already I am cringing as I think this is pretty racist. Don't think I’ll go… but do I say something privately to my friends about the fact that this seems really off? Do I just dip out and not say anything to avoid awkwardness?

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ElFusilado · 05/11/2022 15:28

Arayes · 05/11/2022 15:23

Oh, a white man has come to tell us all that none of the 126 MILLION Mexicans in Mexico have a problem with white people dressing up as them..

Its OK everyone, you can all stop talking now, a WHITE MAN has spoken! GAME OVER.

What would we do without White English Men. Phew.

That's right.

Coyoacan · 05/11/2022 15:29

And Mexican isn't a race

Explain. But first explain what a race is though, as race is a nineteenth century term.

Hellsmovie · 05/11/2022 15:30

ElFusilado · 05/11/2022 15:28

That's right.

You fucked up by saying your a man.

Caroffee · 05/11/2022 15:30

Don't go if it offends your Woke sensibilities.

Blossomtoes · 05/11/2022 15:31

Hellsmovie · 05/11/2022 15:30

You fucked up by saying your a man.

Yup. Big mistake. MN hates men.

userxx · 05/11/2022 15:31

I'd be going for the food. I love Mexican food, is that allowed or will I offend someone.

ElFusilado · 05/11/2022 15:32

Hellsmovie · 05/11/2022 15:30

You fucked up by saying your a man.

True, I should have pretended to be a white woman who's never been to Latin America - clearly they are the only people qualified to talk about the subject.

MintyFreshOne · 05/11/2022 15:32

JaneJeffer · 05/11/2022 15:04

We're a culture not a costume <Daily Mail sad face> this is NOT who I am and this is NOT OKAY

😆😆😂😂🤣🙃

JaneJeffer · 05/11/2022 15:32

Avocados are problematic I believe @userxx

Discovereads · 05/11/2022 15:32

Mexican is not a culture imho that has historically been oppressed and ridiculed by white Europeans. Mexican culture is a fusion of Spanish and Native American culture due to Spanish colonisation and the Spanish empire.

Teentrauma · 05/11/2022 15:32

A friend of mine has an annual NYE party with a food & fancy dress theme. One year it was Chinese, they served Chinese food and worn traditional Chinese costumes. Another year it was Indian, same idea. Maybe this year is Mexican??? Dunno. We don't get invited as, firstly, there's only a dozen or so of them (so more like a dinner party) and, secondly, we live at the other end of the country. I'll let you know this year's theme when I see the pics on Facebook!

I'll say that, when I've seen the past pics, it's crossed my mind that some people could take offence but, honestly, I think my friend would be mortified at the suggestion. I think they're just having a fun evening with lovely food and drink and I think people should calm down tbh.

Coyoacan · 05/11/2022 15:33

You do know that 1/3rd of Mexicans are “white people”? Why do you keep insisting that Mexican is a race?

What third would that be?

I live in Mexico and we do not have those types of classifications for a start. There is a small percentage of wealthy people who are generally lighter skinned and have more European blood.

Discovereads · 05/11/2022 15:34

Coyoacan · 05/11/2022 15:29

And Mexican isn't a race

Explain. But first explain what a race is though, as race is a nineteenth century term.

Thats in response to posters making this a Mexican vs. White people thing. Millions of Mexicans are white people.

NormaTheWife · 05/11/2022 15:34

BobLobla · 05/11/2022 13:33

That’s a good point about the theme versus the ‘dress code’. Think I will message them privately.

Bet they can't wait for you to attend.

ElFusilado · 05/11/2022 15:35

Coyoacan · 05/11/2022 15:33

You do know that 1/3rd of Mexicans are “white people”? Why do you keep insisting that Mexican is a race?

What third would that be?

I live in Mexico and we do not have those types of classifications for a start. There is a small percentage of wealthy people who are generally lighter skinned and have more European blood.

There's also the German Mennonites of the North - there's only about 100,000 of them, though.

1/3rd is a vast overestimation imo.

Arayes · 05/11/2022 15:37

In further explanations for the terminally stupid, we have to explain that racism is being used to cover racism AND Xenophobia, in a simple shorthand anyone with half a brain can understand...

Gotta love racists pretendigng they aren't racist because some of the people they're being racist/xenophobic about are lighter skinned than others!

blippi123 · 05/11/2022 15:38

You don't have to go

They can do what they want it their own house

ElFusilado · 05/11/2022 15:38

Arayes · 05/11/2022 15:37

In further explanations for the terminally stupid, we have to explain that racism is being used to cover racism AND Xenophobia, in a simple shorthand anyone with half a brain can understand...

Gotta love racists pretendigng they aren't racist because some of the people they're being racist/xenophobic about are lighter skinned than others!

What's your favourite place you visited in LatAm, miss?

TreadLight · 05/11/2022 15:40

Arayes · 05/11/2022 15:37

In further explanations for the terminally stupid, we have to explain that racism is being used to cover racism AND Xenophobia, in a simple shorthand anyone with half a brain can understand...

Gotta love racists pretendigng they aren't racist because some of the people they're being racist/xenophobic about are lighter skinned than others!

But it's generally accepted you can can't be racist towards white people.

Oblomov22 · 05/11/2022 15:40

@Arayes

Why is it so stupid?
Loads of other posters have posted the same.

Arayes · 05/11/2022 15:41

Blossomtoes · 05/11/2022 15:27

H, the irony. On the thread where a load of white women are pontificating that said 126 million Mexicans will be offended. What would we do without white British women? Talk about an own goal. 😂

I'm neither White nor British, assuming that I am shows your racism even more.
Go on, see if you can get any more offensive....

Discovereads · 05/11/2022 15:41

Coyoacan · 05/11/2022 15:33

You do know that 1/3rd of Mexicans are “white people”? Why do you keep insisting that Mexican is a race?

What third would that be?

I live in Mexico and we do not have those types of classifications for a start. There is a small percentage of wealthy people who are generally lighter skinned and have more European blood.

No you don’t use those terms, but doesn’t change the fact that insofar as the internationally recognised categories of races go, you have white, black, Asian, Native American & mixed race just like the rest of the Americas.

Coyoacan · 05/11/2022 15:41

@Discovereads

Please don't apply that racist term to Mexico. There are all shades of skin colour in Mexico, but nearly everyone born in Mexico is of mixed descent.

catandcoffee · 05/11/2022 15:42

2bazookas · 05/11/2022 14:04

Years ago we held a "Tarts and Vicars" party... I didn't invite any Mexicans, was this racist?

@2bazookas I'm confused and don't understand what you're saying.

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