To think this woman was weird on the plane?

[ChicagoNoie]

Long haul back to London, overhead bin above me was full so I put it in the one opposite.

Woman behind me seemingly annoyed by this as she said challengingly that she wanted to put her bag in there. Then made me move my bag to the centre of the bin with a patronising “is that ok?” And put her bag in …

Then walked off to sit in her seat 4 rows away from the overhead bin. So no more entitled to use it than I was.

Aibu to think this is just odd, like she could have just placed her bag in the centre and left me alone?

Even when we left and she walked by down to get her bag she was smiling at me smugly.

I think it was a power trip which may be a general thing she tries with everyone or more targeted at other women/'prettier' women/people she is prejudiced against etc. Unfortunately you'll never really know.

I used to live in America, went on a day trip to Baltimore. Me and my friend are different ethnicities but both POC, waiting to get served in a coffee shop and an older well-dressed southern white women stepped in front of me and ordered before giving me a disdainful sideways look.

I was about 24 at the time but looked about 17 (always used to get automatic child fares on travel and ID'd etc) so she probably expected me just to let it go. I instead spoke up assertively to the barista and told her this woman had blatantly skipped us then went ahead and made my order.

The (white) barista had seen what had happened so she did serve us first and also apologised, then she added ' sorry, that's just the way things are like here'. The barista's comment and her very apologetic and embarrassed tone noq makes me think it was a racial thing she was referring to when she said' that's the ways things are'. I didn't think of all this at the time but years later after receiving the same kind of look from certain demographics while on my travels in southern america, it all clicked what the barista meant.

If it was, day after and indulgent long haul holiday i had loved , I wouldn’t be starting a negative thread about an issue on the plane home! 😂 but we all get our kicks where we can I suppose!

Not ridiculous at all. This is what you said and I think it doesn't make you sound like you particularly like women?

Most women have experienced a female being nasty to them simply because they are jealous, obviously you are in the minority if it’s never happened to you.

You don’t need to look like a supermodel either.
Some women are insecure and take that out on women who they think are slightly prettier or younger then them, even if the other person would disagree.

Some women see other women as threats, it’s probably why women will often blame the OW more than their own DH if he’s been having an affair.

It happens all of the time.

You can usually tell as the women will go out of her way to try and start an argument with you by making comments or ‘accidentally’ pushing into you, to try and make you react.

There was no reason why this women acted the way she did and it sounds like she just had an issue with the OP for no reason - that sounds like jealousy.

we all get our kicks where we can I suppose!

You seem to get your kicks in posting pointless snide remarks, complete with passive-aggressive smiley faces. Nice.

Indulgent long haul holiday? I said it was work and holiday, can you read?

I was in Sydney and Brisbane for work all of October. Been there countless times. I then took three days in Bangkok as “holiday” on my return as I’ve not been since 2018. It’s hardly a relaxing holiday.

Dont you worry though, I have a holiday booked before the end of the year.

Only negative person here is you. I couldn’t imagine going into a thread to pick apart something that’s not even relevant to the OP. That’s when you know you’re sad and bitter getting kicks out of that.

She’s a weirdo. Some people are just odd and like to upset others. I used to let people like this get to me, now I smirk back whilst politely but firmly refusing to change what I’m doing (have also been known to openly laugh at their ridiculousness). I think my tolerance for bullish*t drops further the older I get.

It’s very easy to say be more assertive but in situations where it takes you off guard then it’s different.

I agree.

I also think there’s a fine line between being assertive and lowering yourself to their standard.

Some people are trying to get a confrontation and will try and escalate the situation.

I think you should stick up for yourself as often as you can but sometimes it is better to pick your battles and walk away, knowing that confrontation is exactly what they wanted and by walking away you have ‘won’.

From a security point of view, (after reading advice in the press), we always make a point of placing bags in the opposite overhead bins (and then if necessary forward rather than behind) so you can see your bags whenever the door is lifted.

Reports, mainly longhaul, of people rifling bags for valuables and cash when bags are placed in bins behind the owners field of vision.

Not ridiculous at all. This is what you said and I think it doesn't make you sound like you particularly like women?

If I didn’t like women then I wouldn’t be supporting OP would I 🤔

Has anyone actually read any of OP's rude responses to people disagreeing with her? Calling someone sad and bitter is not particularly nice. She claims to be a polite British person but maybe she was being the difficult person on the flight.

I have been on flights before where people have been absolute inconsiderate idiots. When I call them out on it they look shocked. I wonder how many of these people would give a different story to what I would?

I would not give it any headspace. Just visualise an eject button and let it go down the toilet. And then think about something nice.

What makes you think OP is a woman?

Completely agree.

Has anyone actually read any of OP's rude responses to people disagreeing with her?Calling someone sad and bitter is not particularly nice. She claims to be a polite British person but maybe she was being the difficult person on the flight.

Were you the women on the plane?

I think she was the jealous type though as I saw her again queuing up for customs and we would be stood next to each other (different rows) at certain points when the queue moved -

She was with a friend and they were talking to two men (unsure if they were all together or just met) and then next time I was near her the friend and both men were talking and she was stood there sunglasses on looking pissed at her friend getting the attention from both men.

Ooooh there was a bit of history before you’d even got on the flight…. “I think she was the jealous type” 😂

The fact you call me obsessive and yet here you still are. The irony.

And it’s not just me you’ve tried to argue with on this thread. And also now there’s been multiple occasions where you’ve had confrontations with people on planes.

You are the problem.

Even your attempt now to try and get everyone on a thread to “gang up” on me for my “rude responses” (doesn’t matter if the other person was rude clearly). People are more than capable of reading and reaching their own decision. They don’t need you bellowing across the thread like a psychotic town crier.

This was after the flight … you’re not the brightest spark are you. No question mark because it’s not needed.

You and Theblacksheepandme should message each other. I feel like you’d make amazing friends.

I never really thought about it, I kind of felt like there was an unwritten rule that you used the one above you. But I agree it’s a good idea.

Same reason you are taking the time to comment on it I expect.

You got me. You're a regular Enola aren't you?

Might work until you're in a forward row..

I'll admit I never heard of theft on board from the lockers being a significant problem but I guess it might happen.

Most folks I know lock whatever they put in the overhead bins and don't stow valuables up there, but it's a case of different strokes for different folks I guess...

Bloomin heck… anyone else thinking the OP needs a holiday?

@ChicagoNoie
Are you annoyed with the weird lady or are you really just annoyed with yourself for not standing up to the weird lady?

Bloomin heck … imagine repeating the same thing that no one found funny the first time.

I also replied to you to tell you I have a holiday booked as I know how invested you are. So your point is redundant and further proves my point that you’re not a bright spark.

What did you want me to do? Scream no and grab her suitcase and boot it across the aisle?

I do stand up for myself but did I want to sit in a potentially awkward situation for 11/12 hours. No. I chose the option preferable for me and didn’t give her the attitude she wanted.