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Feeling guilt at costing my parents £00000k

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Tead · 03/11/2022 06:21

About 12 years my parents came into some money and were all set to buy a buy to let house until I talked them out of it. The are immigrants and so look to me to explain things - I know that sounds odd.
i thought it would be too much of a hassle for them as they were in their early 60s but I knew nothing of property.
they changed their minds and just left the money in the bank.
the house sold 3 months ago and I am racked with guilt over what I did. They would have made hundreds thousands on their purchase. It’s been 3 months and I keep waking up at night thinking about my stupidity. I haven’t told anyone about this not even my wife. I have felt close to tears many times. I know I cannot make it us to them. This just makes me feel like an even bigger loser. I haven’t spoken to them about this. I feel ashamed of myself just looking at them. They are financially ok but I feel like I’ve failed them

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Ibizamumof4 · 05/11/2022 17:15

People win and lose in that type of thing even still now. It’s strange you still think about it literally not your fault at all

SezFrankly · 05/11/2022 20:21

You shouldn’t regret anything. It’s a complete waste of time and energy.

You made a sound decision at the time, based on your knowledge of your parent's experience. Imagine if they got a tenant who didn’t pay and wrecked the place. Not uncommon, unfortunately.

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