Help! Nowhere to park!

[Guessie]

I know someone will come along and tell me I need to move to a house with it's own parking space, but those are few and far between and way out of my budget where I live! I've lived in my house for 6 months and never had this happen. I can't park! I have a 4 year old asleep in the car and I can't find anywhere within my permit zone to park. I've never seen it so busy. I'm currently sat in my car on double yellows in the hope that someone will move but at this time of night it's unlikely. What do I do? Pay for overnight parking and get a taxi? Can't really afford that but might have to. I could cry right now. I'm so stressed out. Been driving round the permit zone intermittently in the hope that someone will move for the last 45 mins but no joy.

I don't think anyone's been harsh on them. It's a name that's stuck out on a number of other threads.

Anyone else think of Lady Mary from Downtown Abbey when reading Intru’s posts, that sneery, upper class supercilious tone to her voice. Looking down on the plebs.

I don't know. Public information is public information. If you've seen a name pop up several times with a consistent sort of attitude, why can't you say so? In real life you would recall things people have said before.

I hear you, but it feels a bit odd that some of the posters on here are denouncing Intru, Purplebutterflies and Badgirlirl for being nasty by, er, being nastier.

Really pleased you found a space in the end!! Bizarre the number of clueless & unpleasant people on this thread who are so one eyed they can’t imagine a life different to their own🤷🏼‍♀️. FWIW many parts of congested cities have parking permits which cover certain zones only so you’ll only be able to park freely within a limited distance of your home. Many houses have been turned into flats meaning there could be 3/4 cars for each terraced property which, if you’re capable at basic maths in any way, will tell you….. And on top of this the parking wardens will have your vehicle ticketed (bad enough) and towed (horrific cost) before you’ve been a couple of minutes over in controlled zones without a permit….

I bought my terraced town house 14 months ago and the lack of parking is driving me crazy....its not permit where i am but on the street....i love my house but i think the lack of parking will push me to move house sooner rather than later.

This thread!

this is why i love AIBU

Glad you got parked up in the end OP.

Glad you got this sorted @Guessie! I've been in similar positions when I'm staying in a place like this.

Luckily where I live no parking permits... yet.

I saw a lovely traffic warden out mid-afternoon yesterday near a park where everyone knows you can park on yellow lines on Sundays. Trying his luck obviously.

I find this perfectly plausible. There are lots of areas where street after street is restricted to residents’ parking only. The worst are the ones where the parking permits are in contiguous zones, meaning that you are limited to a very specific area for your own permit AND surrounded by similarly limited streets where your permit doesn’t apply.

Stalking is hunting someone down or doing advanced search. I did neither. I caught up on this thread, went to another and started reading. That post was there. Normally I would ignore but this poster left a nasty taste in the mouth, as evidenced by a lot of other posters. Turns out they were nasty on other threads too according to other PPs here. So no. Not below the belt.

I don’t think it’s stalking, the aristo thread was happening at the same time as this thread. It’s easy for names to stick in the mind when you’ve just read a thread.

I sometimes wonder about the etiquette of this. I rarely AS but I have a good memory and I will remember if a particular username is nasty.

I think it's bad manners to quote someone's posts from another thread entirely.

OP, I'm glad you got the parking situation resolved. Fancy us poor folk daring to run a car though, eh?

@Intru and the others saying it is unlikely not to be a space anywhere on a Sunday evening, have a think. Sunday is the busiest evening in a residential area as, the majority of people are at home on a Sunday evening, more than any other, with their cars parked outside their houses. Sunday is regularly the worst evening in the city I live in to find a space.

Glad you got home OK OP. You clearly picked a moment when people were having a bad day and needed to be chippy to a women on the internet to get it off their chests.

I've never seen anything wrong with using AS to see what someone's said in the past. We choose what to put on here and we know it's public. I've had people tell me they know I'm awful because I've talked about this topic before or they don't like something I said three weeks ago or whatever. Name changing is easy enough if you want a clean slate.

Why would you CARRY a four-year-old for two miles? That's insane. We don't have a car - my kids were walking 1.5 miles each way to school from the time they started primary, and much longer distances at weekends etc. I really, really would consider the option of ditching the car.

Why would you CARRY a four-year-old for two miles? That's insane.
Because it was 9.45 pm and the 4 year old was asleep.

People generally wake up if you get them out of a car. No one, unless they are Arnold Schwarzenegger, can carry a 4-year-old for 2 miles. It's not remotely plausible.

Glad you're back ok.

You need a Plan B though. This will not be a one off.

I wouldn't be able to cope with that, would be a definite, move house for me! (or ditch the car and use public transport to get to work etc) I used to live in a terraced house in Sheffield as a student and this happened pretty regularly. With a child, it's not something you want to be stressing about on a daily basis.

Appreciate you say you can't afford to get somewhere else where you are - have you thought of moving somewhere cheaper in general in the UK? What line of work are you in?

I've lived all around the UK and once you make the move you'll wonder why you didn't do it sooner!

4yo must have walked. It wasn't 2 miles, OP found a nearer spot.

Same. I can see a few names on this thread alone who are on my mental ‘wide berth’ list, some for really upsetting comments.

That's good, because it was a really tough spot she was in, which could only have been resolved by paying for overnight parking or a taxi home, and she had no money to afford that due to being totally skint.

Remembering whether certain users are, in your opinion, ‘nasty’, is a world away from dredging up posts those users have made on other threads. That’s because the post-dredging invariably fuels a stream of invective and spite, which is kind of ironic when the invective is directed at posters who are themselves being attacked for being ‘nasty’. Is that how you plan to eradicate perceived nastiness on the internet? By being nastier back? How successful do you think that will be?

It’s not in the spirit of reasoned debate. In my view, each thread is a separate self-contained discussion. Unless it’s the ‘are skinny jeans out of fashion’ thread, which comes around every three weeks and is the same every time!

You can disagree with other posters’ stances on a thread but generating such bile that you search for that poster and announce to the thread, e.g., “Yeah, nobody listen to HER because she’s a bitch! Look at what she said about dog owners in 2019!” feels unpleasant and spiteful. Like, I’ve decided that you’re a mean girl and now I’m going to make you change your ways by being even meaner. Not civilised, not adult, not reasonable.The posters doing it can see no fault in their own behaviour, of course.

I recognise names of posters who have disagreed with me on other threads, some of whom get quite vicious when I dispute that e.g. taxes are too high in the U.K., but so what? I wouldn’t dream of saying, “I’ve seen you on other threads and you are horrible” or whatever.

Was that all directed at me, @Iamthewombat?