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Boyfriend booked a cheaper room ...aibu?

192 replies

phoneeeehommmeee · 30/10/2022 12:22

Going on holiday in a week
Me and boyfriend said to make it special we will stay in hotel night before and night we arrive home (due to late arrival )
Anyway we decided to stay in double tree and I said I would book going and he would book coming back (we both agreed )
So I book and pay £115
He then tells me last night for the hotel home he has booked premier in £49

Am I being a mug here ?
I said you said to stay at double tree ?
He says I know but this was cheaper

Now I have only booked and pay on arrival
Do I cancel and book a premier inn for night before too?
But I love the room we have it's a runway view and it will be lovely

Aibu ? What do I do ?

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ScarierThanBoo · 30/10/2022 12:24

Tight bastard! Chuck him and go alone, or cancel and claim on your holiday insurance.

SirDavidAttenborough · 30/10/2022 12:25

I’d go with the premierinn. Much more fun things to do with the extra £132

SirDavidAttenborough · 30/10/2022 12:25

ScarierThanBoo · 30/10/2022 12:24

Tight bastard! Chuck him and go alone, or cancel and claim on your holiday insurance.

FFS. What basis would you claim on travel insurance?!

ClocksGoingBackwards · 30/10/2022 12:25

If the nice airport room matters to you and you’ll enjoy it, then keep it. It is a bit tight of your boyfriend to do what he’s done, but unless he’s tight with everything I wouldn’t hold it against him.

DarkMatternix · 30/10/2022 12:27

ScarierThanBoo · 30/10/2022 12:24

Tight bastard! Chuck him and go alone, or cancel and claim on your holiday insurance.

In what world would this ever be covered by insurance

BlackberryCat · 30/10/2022 12:28

SirDavidAttenborough · 30/10/2022 12:25

FFS. What basis would you claim on travel insurance?!

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Sometimes I hope people do follow the bonkers advice on Mumsnet just for comedy value. I’d love to hear the conversation with the insurance company. I’m sure it would give them all a good laugh!

TimeForMeToF1y · 30/10/2022 12:29

What is lovely about a runway view? Will there be planes going diring the night anyway and wouldn't that keep you awake

I'm not you but I'd go for the premier inn too

RishisProudMum · 30/10/2022 12:30

Ask him why he’s changed the plan. He knew what it cost to begin with and agreed to it, and you’ve fulfilled your end and expect him to do so. Have a conversation.

Yarrawonga · 30/10/2022 12:30

FFS. What basis would you claim on travel insurance?!

I doubt that that was a serious suggestion.

Ponoka7 · 30/10/2022 12:30

He owes you dinner while on holiday. Just ask him what else he is paying for because he needs to spend an extra £65.

BlackberryCat · 30/10/2022 12:30

No advice but he should pay you for half your room and you pay him for half his room so it’s fair. It’s hard to tell how big a deal this is. I think it depends on how tight he is with money generally.

rookiemere · 30/10/2022 12:30

I'm with your boyfriend. I like Premier Inns and tbh I wouldn't expect the room at the Hilton would be that much nicer.

If your expectation is that you both spend £x amount, then tell him that, or tell him to use the savings to book a Premier Inn breakfast buffet and take you out for a nice meal on holiday.

RishisProudMum · 30/10/2022 12:31

TimeForMeToF1y · 30/10/2022 12:29

What is lovely about a runway view? Will there be planes going diring the night anyway and wouldn't that keep you awake

I'm not you but I'd go for the premier inn too

I didn’t understand the runway view bit, either, but I guess some people like that sort of thing?

sevenbyseven · 30/10/2022 12:31

Cancel yours too and book Premier Inn. They're perfectly nice and I don't see what's so great about a runway view personally!

Alternatively ask your boyfriend if you can go halves on each.

Covetthee · 30/10/2022 12:31

If you’re arriving late then I would say premier inn is fine for sleep and then going home in the morning , esp after a holiday.

i wouldn’t be fussed if it’s a one off but if he does things like this regularly then it’s understandable.

SpookabooAtTheZoo · 30/10/2022 12:32

No he doesn't get to have nice things on your dime. When you spoke to him about it, it sounds like the idea for the DoubleTree came from him in the first place so he should have followed through. Cancel and book the Premier Inn if it's still available and when he asks, tell him. And if he's like this on the actual holiday, dump his arse when you get back.

ilovesooty · 30/10/2022 12:33

ScarierThanBoo · 30/10/2022 12:24

Tight bastard! Chuck him and go alone, or cancel and claim on your holiday insurance.

Seriously?

Original poster
phoneeeehommmeee · 30/10/2022 12:33

I'm a bit of a geek and love airports /planes etc but it was his idea about double tree
I think he's looked at price and changed his mind tbh

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RandomMusings7 · 30/10/2022 12:36

Oh, what he did was really rude. He thinks it's fine to have nice things on your dime... cheap bastard.

If you are set on the more expensive hotel, then tell him you each need to pay half of the accommodation so (115+49)/2=82 pounds. He owes you 33 pounds.

OrigamiOwls · 30/10/2022 12:37

That is definitely tight of him. He's happy to have something nice when it's your money. When it's his money he's going for the cheapest.

RealBecca · 30/10/2022 12:38

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RishisProudMum · 30/10/2022 12:39

phoneeeehommmeee · 30/10/2022 12:33

I'm a bit of a geek and love airports /planes etc but it was his idea about double tree
I think he's looked at price and changed his mind tbh

So talk to him about it. If he wants to stay at Premier Inn because of cost, that’s fine. You can spend both nights there, or he can pay you back for some of the Doubletree costs, or he can pay for something else on holiday.

Again, you need to have a conversation.

MNchickens · 30/10/2022 12:41

YANBU

Although we only ever stay in Hiltons in this country so are hotel snobs of sorts

I’d be pissed, especially if it was his suggestion in the first place

FabFitFifties · 30/10/2022 12:50

I don't think the hotel coming home isn't a big deal - it's not like the excitement of seeing the planes before you go. I'd keep things as they are but ask him to go halves. I'd also ask that if he is going to change plans again, he needs to run it by you. There's no need to fall out about it - but a pattern if this behaviour would not be acceptable, and a no for me, as while I'm happy to compromise, I like to choose to do so.

FabFitFifties · 30/10/2022 12:51

Should say is a big deal 🙄