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Boyfriend booked a cheaper room ...aibu?

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phoneeeehommmeee · 30/10/2022 12:22

Going on holiday in a week
Me and boyfriend said to make it special we will stay in hotel night before and night we arrive home (due to late arrival )
Anyway we decided to stay in double tree and I said I would book going and he would book coming back (we both agreed )
So I book and pay £115
He then tells me last night for the hotel home he has booked premier in £49

Am I being a mug here ?
I said you said to stay at double tree ?
He says I know but this was cheaper

Now I have only booked and pay on arrival
Do I cancel and book a premier inn for night before too?
But I love the room we have it's a runway view and it will be lovely

Aibu ? What do I do ?

OP posts:
allthegoodusernameshavegone · 30/10/2022 15:43

Premier inn v Hilton there’s not much in it in terms of standard of accommodation, but value for money Premier inn wins hands down.

LookItsMeAgain · 30/10/2022 15:44

Hoppinggreen · 30/10/2022 13:11

You know, the “my BF is a Dick” clause

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LOL!!! I must re-read the small print.. 😆

PutinSmellsPassItOn · 30/10/2022 15:45

I've stayed in a double tree Hilton.....they're glorified premier inns. No way in hell would.I spend an extra £100 to look.at a runway. Book the Premier inn and spend the money you'll save on a.nice meal or first class train tickets home.

Shaaameless · 30/10/2022 15:52

I always find the PI to be very noisy, but the breakfast’s good. Why don’t you just stick with the DT & the PI, you might like it. I usually stay at the Ibis for 1 nighters as it’s cheapest. I’ve had a view of the runway there too, & didn’t move away from the window 😄

autienotnaughty · 30/10/2022 16:01

Change it to a single and tell him to book a premier inn. Cheeky sod!!

autienotnaughty · 30/10/2022 16:03

In seriousness I would say shall we keep the double tree for way there and you pay me the excess. Or shall I cancel and go with premier inn?

MovingOnUpp · 30/10/2022 16:11

Ask him to transfer you £33.

Outtasteamandluck · 30/10/2022 16:12

Yeah cancel and book premier inn

astarsheis · 30/10/2022 16:15

Can't beat a premier inn for short stay. Comfy bed and clean...all you need for airport stay.
Sounds like he's being the more sensible one here

Taillighttoobright · 30/10/2022 16:16

PutinSmellsPassItOn · 30/10/2022 15:45

I've stayed in a double tree Hilton.....they're glorified premier inns. No way in hell would.I spend an extra £100 to look.at a runway. Book the Premier inn and spend the money you'll save on a.nice meal or first class train tickets home.

I would definitely pay extra to look at a runway! That would be beyond cool!
Be honest to him and say you feel a bit mugged off and how can he help you to stop feeling like that?

Orangello · 30/10/2022 16:16

People who don't get it:

Let's imagine your BF tells you: Hey let's go out to eat, you will pay this Saturday, I will pay next. I really want to go to Gordon Ramsay Bar&Grill.
You go, you pay.
Next Saturday he takes you to McDonalds. When you say that hey, didn't we agree on Gordon, he says 'But it's cheaper'.

I mean it's still food and all, but not what you agreed, is it?

Marmite17 · 30/10/2022 16:20

Total the cost of both stays and go halves.

Allsnotwell · 30/10/2022 16:22

Can't beat a premier inn for short stay. Comfy bed and clean...all you need for airport stay.
Sounds like he's being the more sensible one here

Why are we expecting the OP to except less?

Is her money less valuable than his? Does their agreement not have value? Is he being validated because he somehow cheated the OP who is now disgruntled?

We don’t need men to drag us down…

Marmite17 · 30/10/2022 16:32

I do get wanting the runway view, I'd love it. But not everyone's cup of tea.
Apart from the view, I'd pick Premier Inn over a more expensive, but likely very similar, hotel for 1 night.

Silvers11 · 30/10/2022 16:34

I don't think this is actually a problem, unless he is normally tight? We always prefer Premier Inns for many things if we are only using it for a base to sleep in. The rooms are fine and the beds are always comfortable. Absolutely makes sense to stay in a cheap option if you are returning late and just need to have a bed to sleep on before returning home next morning!

The accommodation heading out sounds a bit different, in as much as you will be spending more time there and, perfectly a nice thought to spend somewhere possibly more upmarket than a premier Inn at the start of a much looked forward to holiday. I wouldn't be too sure that it will be any better than the Premier Inn though - and a runway view will no doubt be noisy....

In any case, as others have said, I would just ask him if he thinks you should just go with the Premier Inn too or does he want to split the difference and give you £33

Twillow · 30/10/2022 16:40

Ask him to refund you the difference in cost. Cheeky thing.

Travis1 · 30/10/2022 16:46

Personally I love a premier inn especially the breakfast the next day. Make sure he’s paying for that it’s normally about £13 each

greenhousegal · 30/10/2022 16:48

Cancel the holiday. This will not end well, unless he agrees to split the difference of the total cost of both hotels. If he does, fine stick with the Double Tree going out, and the Premier home. If he doesn't want to do that, it's not a good sign and you may be eating and drinking at the cheapest of establishments! Is this your first holiday with him? If yes, be wary. If no, you will know if the hotel thing is a one off.

Where are you going anyway? I always love to know where people are heading off to.

OldFan · 30/10/2022 17:03

Don't cut off your nose to spite your face @phoneeeehommmeee , if you really like the idea of the nicer place then keep it. But notch this up as a red flag that he can fail to deliver on promises and be a bit tight, sometimes sneakily.

niugboo · 30/10/2022 17:17

@MNchickens you cannnot be a hotel snob and stay in Hilton’s.

Haribosweets · 30/10/2022 17:20

Personally, leave it as it is! I love airports, planes and a view of runway night before departure would be amazing and excitement of start of holiday. Coming back, the last thing I would want to see is more planes knowing I wasn't going anywhere apart from home!

rookiemere · 30/10/2022 17:21

I'd stick with the two different hotels and set up the Splitwise app for the whole trip, otherwise he may be exactly the sort of person who orders the fillet steak when you're paying and spaghetti carbonara when it's his turn.

But then I'd probably choose a Premier Inn in preference to a Hilton as I like the reliability of the standard mattress and blacked out rooms.

90ssalamander · 30/10/2022 17:30

I guess have a conversation together. Maybe he doesn’t value the runway view so much (I wouldn’t) you could have a nice meal in the hotel for the price he’s saved by booking a more stranded view. I’m not sure he’s meant to do it to be difficult, just saw a much better value option. May be biased though as I quite like a premier inn….

blubberyboo · 30/10/2022 17:37

I think most established couples would kind of know what the others line of thinking was in this situation.

coming back from holiday isn’t as thrilling as the going part so he probably didn’t think it worth paying extra.

the mistake you are making is not talking this out and ensuring you are always compromising. I got from you that the luxury and nice view is a bit more important to you than him. So a nice view on way out is nice and basic hotel on way home is sensible. Problem is you should be splitting the cost of each hotel in half.
start talking

SiobhanSharpe · 30/10/2022 17:41

It's not about the differences between 2 and 4 hotels. (Or whatever they are) .
It's about his shitty behaviour. He is happy to benefit from the nicer hotel that you paid for, with his agreement, while you're most certainly not getting the same benefit when it was his turn to pay and he downgraded to a cheaper hotel and has seemingly pocketed the difference.
Tightness is one of the worst traits in a romantic partner and sucks all the joy from life. It can be a form of control as well as pathological meanness.