My father's wife (Who hasn't got children herself)is constantly slagging me off to my DD in oh so subtle ways, and now is really getting on my nerves.
At Christmas, She bought her a bra. A PADDED bra. DD is quite young for her age, has no need for a bra, and has no interest in them. She was visibly embarrassed.
Now I recieve a phonecall from my sister (who lives next door to them-yes, they are so far up each others arses) asking if I would mind if Father's wife bought DD a ladyshave for her birthday.
WTF?!
Yes, of course I mind! "Happy Birthday, we think you've got hairy legs and need to shave them".
I am seething. As you may have gathered, relations with this part of the family (My father, his wife and my sister) are very strained, and they are constantly pushing the boundaries and making me feel like an inadequate parent.
But to give my daughter a ladyshave is outrageous! She isn't even hairy, and she is very light blonde as well.
It seems to me that Father's wife is trying to be able to say "I bought you your first bra" etc. etc.
Why can't they let her be a child? I don't think she should need to even think about if her legs need a shave or not.
Whenever things have come to a head in the past (as it has on many occasions) they have ended up turning things round so that it makes me feel as if I have been the unreasonable one, even though everyone else says I was in the right. I don't want these battles everytime a special occasion comes up.
What would you do?!