To start a thread about the joy of living alone?

[KnitFastDieWarm]

Recently divorced, just moved into my own place for the first time ever at the grand old age of 35. The feeling of utter contentment and joy I feel when i close the door on the world and curl up on my sofa, in my tidy flat that’s exactly how I like it and
how I left it, is beyond anything I imagined.

I thought I’d be lonely but i have DC half the week and every other weekend, plenty of friends and hobbies, a job i love, and my life just feels…finally right.

Anyone else relate? It feels almost criminally indulgent to enjoy peace and solitude so much!

I have lived alone since my divorce years ago and the novelty and the pleasure never wears off. My sofa, my bed, my remote, what I want for dinner, staying up till 2am to watch a film or going to bed at 8pm with tea, biscuits and a book. The pleasures are endless.

Noo bloody football/football kit that's been in the boot for a week/golf/golf weekends for a start....

I couldn’t agree more !!
I moved into my own place when I divorced 5 years ago and I love it
Teenage DS spends 2 or 3 nights a week at his dads and when he’s there I enjoy the peace and space of my own house
I love having time for work , hobbies and friends .
it rocks !! Enjoy your space OP

Congratulations! Living alone is much underrated. You can't put a price on peace.

And getting home from work on Friday night with the weekend shopping and thinking 'I don't have to talk to ANYONE for two days if I don't want to.'

God I loved living alone. I miss it so so much. Enjoy it OP!

Me too.

YANBU, hope you enjoy your new found bliss.

I had 6 years living alone in my early 20’s. It was perfect.

Congratulations! Totally with you, living alone is awesome. I can't tell you how much I treasure having my own space. Never lonely because my children are mostly there and when they're at their dads I have my cat. Love being able to do what I want, when I want, without having to consult anyone else. Enjoy it!

This thread is making me think
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Im not single but DP lives 15 minutes down the road. We've been together 6 years, happily. See each other twice a week or so.

I love my own space with nobody else to consider when I'm at home. Decorated how I like it, I spend my time at home exactly how I choose to. Its very peaceful.

I was married previously and already know, Im completely uninterested in living with a man again. Friends are surprised but I think - why does a woman have to live with a man? Its not compulsory. Our relationship is good. Maybe it wouldnt be if we were living together, who knows. But we don't, so its no issue.

Glad you're enjoying your lifestyle OP🙂

I've lived on my own for years. I wouldn't give it up for anyone.

I bloody love it. Everything just as I want it and the whole bed to myself.

I lived with a partner for several years and really struggled with it - OK, we only had a small house but even if there was a separate wing I could have retreated to, just knowing someone else was there all the damn time drove me insane.

Me three.

I am sure rich widowhood would suit me 🙄

Me neither.

You have children so you appreciate your days off alone much more. I don't often get a child free weekend when I can just lounge around the house. When I do it's bliss I can watch what I want and cook if I wish!

Enjoy it OP

I loved living alone and I miss everything you mention, OP. My house was IMMACULATE, I tell you.

I had a little two bedroomed terraced house with an upstairs bathroom. I used one room as my bedroom with just my books and bed in it, and used the second room as a dressing room. It was like a suite.

My house was minimal and all of my cupboards and drawers were really tidy.

I used to get a Sunday paper delivered every week and spend the morning reading it in bed.

Im not single but DP lives 15 minutes down the road. We've been together 6 years, happily. See each other twice a week or so.

if i ever get into another serious relationship this would be the ideal set up! a lovely balance of time together and personal space.

As it is i’m very much enjoying making up for lost time (largely sexless marriage) by having a few friends with benefits - lovely gents who i count as genuine friends. i have them on call for when i fancy a bit of fun and affection (and really good sex and excellent cuddles). Then they head home and leave me to my box sets, PJs and starfishing in bed 😁 It’s the dream!

you can choose the wallpaper that you like.no compromises are necessary.

I've been single for 18 years and since, DS left for uni

Have relished living alone. Although I missed him terribly at the start he's now finished uni has a flat of his own and I have my life back. I go where I want, when I want and it's great!

I haven't live with a man for almost 10 years. I have a DP of 4 years and we will never live together. I love it.

The only time I've hated it was during the lockdowns, especially the first one. I went months without an in real life conversation with another person and I think there has still been some residual damage to my mental health from that time.
Pandemics aside though I adore living by myself. Everything that happens in my flat is my choice - the decor, what's on the TV, the temperature, what's for tea. Wonderful!

You are all making me very, very jealous. But in six months time I will be in your situation. Can’t bloody wait!

Just in the process of getting the marital home ready to sell.

Clearly I’m not alone in this! 😂

I think ‘eccentric spinster’ needs to be more of an obvious option to young women - i wish someone had said to 20 year old me ‘it’s ok to enjoy your own company and go your own way in life - you won’t be lonely, far from it’.

Since my divorce i often find myself thinking of Jane Austen’s lines in Emma:

‘I have none of the usual inducements of women to marry… I am sure I should be a fool to change such a situation as mine. Fortune I do not want; employment I do not want; consequence I do not want.’

I feel very content.

Apparently*, statistically, married men live longer than single men and single women longer than married women.

Which suggests to me that men are parasites and feed off women.

• Apparently because I can't find s the source right now.