To start a thread about the joy of living alone?

[KnitFastDieWarm]

Recently divorced, just moved into my own place for the first time ever at the grand old age of 35. The feeling of utter contentment and joy I feel when i close the door on the world and curl up on my sofa, in my tidy flat that’s exactly how I like it and
how I left it, is beyond anything I imagined.

I thought I’d be lonely but i have DC half the week and every other weekend, plenty of friends and hobbies, a job i love, and my life just feels…finally right.

Anyone else relate? It feels almost criminally indulgent to enjoy peace and solitude so much!

I'm the same. My boyfriend lives an hour away so we see each most weekends which is always lovely. But he's poorly this weekend so I'm home alone with far too much food from M& S, plenty of my favourite tipple, the fire is lit and there is peace and quiet.

Why anyone wants to get married after getting divorced is beyond me.

There are no down sides!!! Love it!

I live alone and love it.
I can do whatever I want, whenever.

@Toomanysleepycats Im excited on your behalf! I was stuck living with exH for nearly a year after separating so i feel your pain - it will all be worth it.

How old are your dc

Hi ladies I have a 2 week old baby girl just wondering when it is safe to start using them sleeping bags for baby midwives are saying not to use them as unsafe

I've lived alone for 6 years. I loved it from the second my ex moved out. I'm about to buy my first house, and everything about it is my choice - location, size, layout all suit me perfectly. I can't wait to decorate it to my own taste too!

Living alone is bliss.

My DS is grown and flown, my partner does not live with me and I love solo living. Just the dogs and me. I have books galore, I can eat food that I like and can prance about to workout videos with no judgement. It’s wonderful.

Its not unreasonable at all and it’s a growing lifestyle choice.

I love the thought of you prancing about to a workout video 😂

I have mixed feelings on this . It is great to do whatever, whenever. But I do sometimes feel lonely.

My one regret is not living alone before DH.

how to rectify that…. 🤔😆

This thread might just be enough to make me long for divorce.
I lived on my own for years and loved it.
Can't wait for my daughter to go to Uni. I'll happily drive hours to see my daughter if it means I can enjoy my house to myself.

I LOVE it! My grandmother is always asking when I will re-marry but I honestly couldn't think of anything worse. I watch what I want, I eat what I want, I decorate my home as I want, I spend my evenings as I want. Better still, I don't get woken up by snoring, my home is tidier and I don't have to spend my weekends with someone else's friends/family.

I also love living on my own and plan never to live with a man again. The peace and space are wonderful. Happy for a man to stay the night but then also happy when he goes back to his place the next day!

Bloody love it!

Me too. After five years I still can't get over the joy of my house staying exactly how I left it. If it's tidy when I go to bed it's still tidy in the morning. If it's tidy when I go to work it's still tidy when I come home. I absolutely love that. If I am honest, I do sometimes feel a bit lonely but the pros outweigh the cons.

Oh I am so jealous 😫, spent the whole day doing washing and cooking a meal I won't eat but everyone else loves! I fancy watching the Holiday with a bottle of wine on my own 🌲

Lived alone till I met Dh at 27. I crave living alone often. Or having a little mini place in the middle of nowhere that I could nip off to every now and then.

I absolutely loved living alone. I enjoyed being able to be selfish if that makes sense- can decorate when I want, eat when I want, make noise when I want (within reason as was in a flat with neighbours), take a bath whenever I felt like it. As much as I love now living with my DH I do sometimes miss living alone

Bit like the King and Queen. Bet they both like their time alone. It is becoming more and more frequent to have your own space. But sadly, most people who might prefer to live alone cannot afford it on their own.

So..... living alone is often something only those who can afford it these days can do.

I live alone and have done since I left home. I never married or had children. I have a dearly loved partner of more than 20 years. We are getting on a bit now and set in our ways so living apart works great. We are called Charlie and Cam.

I live ‘together apart’ and it’s the most sensible decision I’ve made in years and years. I love my space, I love being able to come home from work, eat when I want, watch what I want, just the freedom. I’m married and DH lives about an hour away in a home he has to live in for work. We see each other every weekend and sometimes during the week if we want to. I know he’s there if I want to see him. I lived with him for six years and it wasn’t him I needed to move from but the outside influences that interfered in our lives too much. It’s strengthened our marriage. We will possibly live together again when we retire, but who knows? I enjoy it as it is.

Hello - I think you posted in the wrong thread, I think you can ask MN to move it though where you would get the answers you need, probably ‘parenting’

I've never lived with anyone - I've never wanted children so the biological imperative was never there to find a permanent man. I am much too old ever to want to, I love my space and peace, in my own little personal heaven, free to have company or not when I choose.

I do agree with a PP though that lockdown was a bit odd with months of not seeing another person face to face. Covid has affected lots of people in different ways I suppose, and I would rather have been alone than to have been shut up with a load of other people months on end.

I absolutely LOVE living alone, I will never live with a man

If you're looking for upsides, @KnitFastDieWarm

This half-term, I

-had sprouts and bacon for breakfast one day because I wanted to an no one told me it was weird
-on a similar trail of thought, had an entire tray of chilli chicken to myself and no one was eating more than half their share
-got up at 4.30am with a short nap at 3pm and gone to bed at 10pm and no one told me off for getting up early/ sleeping during the day/ going to bed too early
-binge watched Scrubs because I could
-danced around the house in underwear to cheesy, classic and slightly weird music (anything from musicals to metal) without anyone telling me to turn it down or put some clothes on
-hugged my duvet
-spent a day in period pain with hot chocolate, a hot water bottle and a rotation of Disney+ and gaming time, then painkillers and bed at 8.30pm to get over it without anyone commenting or wanting to talk to me when all I wanted to do was be left the fuck alone
-went to work when I wanted to to earn overtime money and worked at my pace throughout the week without anyone wanting my time for themselves
-walked to the dentist in the pouring rain because I could without anyone moaning at me or telling me to take the car
-got lost on my way to find the new shop site I've been looking for without feeling the slightest bit embarassed

In short, living alone is bliss. You get to do what you want, when you want and even if I find myself in a relationship again sometime I'm not moving them in with me, ever.