To not want to cut my boys hair?

[Manchestermummax3]

14 month old little boy - his hair is gorgeous! (I know I'm biased) it's a little wild yes, but that's kinda what I love. It doesn't bother him in anyway (not in his eyes etc)

But my god everyone won't stfu making comments that he should have it cut now because people might mistake him for a girl 😒

He still obviously has quite fine 'baby' hair & getting him to sit still long enough would be mission impossible anyway.
His dad wants it cut too & I just don't want to. Neither of us trumps the other in terms of reasons or rights of course.
He wants it cut because he does, I don't want it cut because I don't basically.

We both are basically unreasonable aren't we? 🤣

Also, if any of you lovely lot have some great comebacks when others bring it up please do share! I've seen some of the most brilliant witty responses on other threads!

I have a boy whose hair is long. Yours has decent hair - mine needed sorting at that age, and I did eventually get it cut, but then it grew and I let it. Cut again right before starting school, prepped him, he knew what was happening, totally fine, no issues at all and we stepped out and he looked at me and said "I never want you to do that again." Other than one very conservative trim, we haven't. It's down to his bum. I have a friend who has 3 sons who all have long hair, one in secondary now. They've been fine. Mine will correct people, and people are often very apologetic, but honestly neither of us mind. It's understandable, it's how we process the world (and he does look decidedly Legolas-esque). He knows a) that people just make mistakes because more girls have long hair than boys, and b) that there's nothing wrong with girls, they aren't gross, they're just the other human sex. I would love it if he wanted it cut, I'm the idiot that has to brush it. It's always been his choice. People will get over it eventually!

Gorgeous hair. Don't let anyone cut it.

I’m amazed so many people seem to want the poor lad to be brushing his fringe out of his eyes for years! Unless OP is willing to clip it back it looks like a pain in the bum!

Funny how nobody seems to bother when it's a girl who's constantly knocking hair out of their eyes. Plenty of suggestions to trim the fringe or use hairbands etc. I do know of someone who never brushed their son's long hair because she wanted to give him bodily autonomy and it looked... well, you can imagine. That's my line. Long hair is fine as long as it's cared for, or it's cut. I appreciate that's hard if kids are neurodiverse.

He is gorgeous- just don’t cut it! My 4 year old boy has hair past his shoulders, people mistake him for a girl all the time. He doesn’t care, I just say no he’s very much a boy (obviously from the way he acts and dresses). Little boys in the North seem to wear their hair so short, it’s a shame

A bit of a trim is all it needs - looks a bit in his eyes. It looks like average straight hair to me - I think with proper curls a slightly wild look can be very striking on toddlers, but with average straight hair you need to keep it tidy or it looks straggly and neglected.

My boys always got mistaken for girls when they were little, never bothered me. I’m guessing it’s why mums of girls put those ridiculous bows on their heads when they have no hair - in case, shock horror, someone might mistake them for a boy 😱.

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I have a DS5 he has long hair, people do always confuse him for a girl, but I just correct them. Another child (aged 7) did ask me the other why I wanted him to look like a girl, I said I don't but I am a rock chic and we do it the other way round, the girls have short hair and the boys have long. My DH also has long hair.

Our boy is 22 months and has similar length / style to your boy's, and it's lemon blond. I'm also very biased - I think we are both very lucky to have toddlers with such lovely locks 😍I have no intention of cutting his hair anytime soon.

Ours does periodically get mistaken for a girl too (or a "strong, independent woman" the other day 😂), despite me dressing him in typical boy clothes, and my thinking he looks like a boy in his face, as much as any toddler can. I just smile and nod. I'm lucky though my OH doesn't have an opinion on it either way - I think he's mainly relieved I'm taking less interest in his own hair, and trying to convince him to let it grow a couple more inches 😂I know it's the wrong answer, but if it were me I'd insist on leaving it uncut for now.

This is our 18 month old. We've had comments from MIL about having his hair cut but I adore his curls so we're keeping them. They're not in his way and we can manage them. He gets mistaken for a girl but it doesn't bother us.

My 5 year old has long hair, no one gives us any agro about it because his dad has long hair too. He does get mistaken for a girl by new people, but it doesn't bother me, and he is old enough to correct them himself.

I've been wondering if he will ask for it to be cut as he gets a bit older and wants to fit in a bit more, but so far he's not bothered, and I've not heard any other kids comment on it.

They do! But then little girls with long hair usually have it tied up or clipped back. It only seems to be little boys with long hair where the mum lets it flop in his face.

I am amazed (sadly I suppose) about how much support & lovely comments I've had this eve. My best friend is literally the only person that loves his hair the way it is.
By the way, dad is not an ogre or anything. I think he's just given into societies perception of what a 'boy' should look like.
The thing about a fringe that I may do, is that surely it has to go through that stage of awkwardness... if I cut/trim it then I'll just be doing the same in another couple of months?
I do have a couple plain headbands I use & have also popped the top into a ponytail (looks like a pineapple 🍍) that just seems to draw more attention that's negative.
He absolutely loves his hair being played with (by me) no one else lol he'll bring a comb to me.

Reminds me of a guy that does fitness classes. He grows his hair really long, cuts it and donates it, repeat. People get really weird about it and he is "it's just hair"

No fringe trims are pretty easy, although he might end up looking a bit odd with a straight across fringe but long hair! But his hair looks like it ‘grows forward’ if that makes sense so I would do something just because I bet it’s annoying for him. DD grew her fringe out so most days it was a ponytail with the fringe clipped back.

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Yeah that looks fine and out of his face.

Yes!! It absolutely does grow forward 🤣
It's long enough to tuck behind his ears & sweep over the front bit to the side but lasts seconds at the moment cos he's always throwing himself on/off/over something or someone lol

I would agree with your husband OP. I was expecting some lovely curls but it looks quite thin and straggly. I think if you have a fringe if you want to keep it long, or have it shaped around his face, it’ll fall better.

Tell the nay-sayers to toddle off. I have GSs with long hair and one of them is 11 - he looks lovely. And all of them had long hair till at least 4 - they looked smashing. What I can't stand is these little boys with their near-shaved heads with just a bit of hair left on top - it looks so brutal. Little thugs on the making. Grim.

Enjoy your boy's lovely hair - ignore any silly comments.

I love to see boys with long brown hair. It's always people banging on about long blond hair. Normally curls. Makes me cringe.

So because its not curly its not OK?

Why? Why would you not correct them?

Curly hair grows up and away from the eyes, like the previous poster’s photo. Straight hair grows into the eyes.

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Children aren’t thugs just because they don’t have their hair all over the place. If anything I’d say a tidy, neat, clean looking short haircut would give me the impression of care being taken over regular maintenance, rather than straggly looking hair all over a child’s face.