To be annoyed at my friend being overly generous?

[Fantasticfourty]

My ds (10) started guitar lessons at school but after first four weeks needed to supply his own guitar, we planned to get him one for Xmas so I asked in my friends group chat if anyone had one we could borrow for a couple of months, one of my friends immediately said yes and dropped it off that night.
the next few weeks after the instructor had visited school my son would come out and say his tutor had said what a great guitar he had, was it his mum or dads etc, I assumed he was just being nice and encouraging, we were at parents evening last night and the note from the tutor (who wasn’t there) said my son was progressing extremely quickly and had he been getting extra lessons from the owner of the “fantastic guitar” my husband and I (and the class teacher) were all a bit puzzled and we moved on.
this morning I googled the guitar and it’s worth £12,000! It’s in a soft case (not a hard one) my friend brought it in and I’ve been putting it in the boot with shopping and bags etc all rattling around! I’m mortified! I’d never have let my son take it, he has dyspraxia and can be clumsy (as can I!) I’m actually annoyed she didn’t tell me! I’m having a panic attack thinking about it in the boot with tins of soup rolling around on way home from school etc my husband thinks it’s funny, my friend is well off but has kids of her own so knows what they can be like! Aibu to be annoyed at her for not telling me the value?

What a lovely friend you have! And she's right. Musical instruments should be played and your son will have the best opportunity to learn on such a high quality guitar. I'm annoyed that you're annoyed! Not only unreasonable but a very odd response to their kindness.
Be grateful to your lovely friends and take care of their guitar.

I don’t think you should be annoyed as such, but it is a bit baffling that they would lend you such a valuable item.

It isn’t really. He’s got a lot of guitars and this one wasn’t being used. Some people just don’t care about material stuff.

Just let your son carry on playing it and enjoying it - if she isn't worried about it you shouldn't - it is a very generous and nice thing she has done!

You have a nice friend and it's great your DS is doing so well.

I was a bit confused about this though....

said my son was progressing extremely quickly and had he been getting extra lessons from the owner of the “fantastic guitar” my husband and I (and the class teacher) were all a bit puzzled and we moved on.

Was your friend's husband giving extra lessons to your son.

What a lovely friend.

Maybe ask her if it is insured, explain your worries.

I think even if you didn’t realise it was worth thousands you shouldn’t have been flinging someone else’s musical instrument in your boot with the shopping. I’d be looking after it carefully whether it cost £100 or £10,000. It’s not your property to fling about.

She just sounds generous.

She didn’t mind I’d looked it up, I was just confused by the tutor mentioning it, I didn’t actually look it up to find out the value, I looked it up cause I’d never heard of the make

So someone lends you something, you fling it in the boot with the shopping rattling around...and you only give a damn after you learn the monetary value of it?!

You're a CF. Have respect for other people's things, regardless of the value.

That’s a nice thing to say ;) I’m annoyed because she knows I’m clumsy! She barely lets me carry a round of drinks from the bar! I’m just surprised she was happy for me to take care of an expensive musical instruments without even a hard case 🤣

I think it's a bit unreasonable to be annoyed with your friend about this OP.

Having a hard case will make all the difference. This wonderful guitar has clearly inspired your son. Keep a hold of it until Santa brings your son one at Xmas. Tell your son your friend is extremely generous so can he try really hard to look after it. Don't send it back as it would seem like a kick in the teeth to your kind friend. They probably really do want it to be used not mothballed.

I think it's always best to be careful with any instruments or gifts just in case it's fragile.

I’m starting to get annoyed that you’re annoyed!

Genuine question… how should I transport it? I try not to carry anything loose in the car for safety reasons but I’m perhaps being over cautious, where wouid you put it?

I feel so sorry for your friend. She’s done an absolutely lovely thing, and you’re bitching about her on the internet.

How about treating items you have borrowed from other people with care and respect, regardless of their value?

Exactly. It's so horrible.

Agree with this

Hang on - you accepted an expensive instrument off a friend, who didn’t have to lend it to you (I mean how much did you think guitars cost?!) and you’re annoyed that she helped you out?

This is peak MN martyring right here. Get a grip.

Don't be annoyed with her. Your son is lucky to have the use of a good quality instrument and his progress will have undoubtedly been improved because of it. A cheap guitar doesn't always keep in tune as well and will not be as comfortable to play. I would obviously make sure it's insured and that he takes care of it. I carry mine in a hard case secured to the rear seat of the car. Out of interest, I'd love to know what it is - a Martin perhaps?

Can understand your surprise, £9K is still a lot, but if he is a collector, the guitar is most likely covered by insurance. A good guitar does make a big difference though (especially if you have to listen to it at home).

How sad

To be “annoyed”

You should have phoned and thanked her personally and then had a chat with her about your concern

You are being nuts.

It’s her husbands guitar, he has lots, they have kids. So he knows what it’s worth and what kids can do to stuff and is happy with loaning it.

If you’d broken it that’s on them - they are clearly insured and not bothered.

Relax and stop being such a spoil sport fuss pot. It’s a great way for your son to start guitar. Very possibly they’ll agree a long term loan when he’s older and for all you know he’ll make a career of it, or it will be a great creative hobby that will sustain him through life. Meanwhile your friend and her husband are happy his expensive unused toy isn’t just gathering dust on a wall.

So chill out and don’t spoil everyone’s pleasure.