To be annoyed at Prince Harry's memoir title SPARE

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I have zero interest in this couple who seem to enjoy making a living on moaning about how they are poorly treated in Britain. Just saw the headline news and the cover of Harry's memoir with his face and one single word SPARE.

Get a life for goodness sake. I'm about his age and never once thought of him as a spare. He kinda invented his own tale.

he's grown up in a gilded cage.. privilege doesn't make for a happy life, or prevent you from hating every moment of it.

spare is a good title.

But lots of people are, in his words, 'spares'. Every second or third child in a family. Princess Anne and Andrew are spares. The late Queen's father was a 'spare' and ended up king. No one else ever complained and made a big deal out of it. It also seems a bit hypocritical he is complaining about being the spare when he doesn't want the throne anyway? Surely he should be relieved he's the spare? That's the way I see it anyway.

Thank you for saying so, but as I find whinging, moaning, self-pity, lack of self awareness, anger, rudeness, immaturity, lack of manners and disloyalty to be deeply unattractive qualities, it probably would never have been a runner.

It's fair to say that the only person who was willing to take on the Harry challenge happened to crave his money and connections to fulfil her huge ambitions for elevating her own wealth and status. The women whom he dated who already had access to these things let him go.

Yes, I too think he needs someone more compassionate about his trauma. What you’ve described sounds like symptoms of trauma. And… just being a normal imperfect human being.

True. Trauma is unattractive… but helping someone through trauma can be admirable and that’s probably what’s going for his wife.

Yes, I too think he needs someone more compassionate about his trauma. What you’ve described sounds like symptoms of trauma. And… just being a normal imperfect human being. True. Trauma is unattractive… but helping someone through trauma can be admirable and that’s probably what’s going for his wife

He didn’t display any of these unattractive qualities until he met his wife, at least not publicly. Looking at old pictures of him compared to the later ones, it’s as if someone has sucked out all the fun and joy, he looks like a completely different person.

For all his wealth and privilege, I will never get the image of that little boy having to walk behind his mother's coffin on the day if her funeral. No wonder the kid has issues and why shouldn't he let the public know what life's really like for him growing up in that way. Who in their right mind thought that was a good idea?

Quite.

And it’s worth noting that a great number of people have lost a parent at the same age and struggled terribly with it, yet manage to conduct themselves with dignity. I very much dislike that Harry is given a platform upon which he preaches about mental health when his own mental health is clearly in utter rags. Time to go quiet, get sorted and enjoy what he has whilst he works through it all, I think.

Good idea! Although I may just wait until it hits the charity shops...

Well, Ann was never in line of the throne with some male heirs around, so Andrew was the spare. Yep, totally normal person. No issues there....

For people who couldn't care less about H&M, y'all seem to know a lot about them. I've never seen such pandemonium over a five letter word.

Mental health is taboo. And I don’t know if one has to be “cured” to talk about their mental health struggles. He has a platform because of his background and he’s using it to talk about something taboo. That’s it.

I really like Harry and Meghan. I also like William and Kate. I may read the book. I'm neither keen nor averse. Title is fine.

Can you provide evidence? The before and after pictures you’re talking about?

@Alighttouchonthetiller
And it’s worth noting that a great number of people have lost a parent at the same age and struggled terribly with it, yet manage to conduct themselves with dignity.

As pp have said, even his mum was concerned how being the spare. So there were concerns about him before he lost a parent at a young age.

You're failing to recognise he had different pressures to the “great number of people” who you’re generalising. A “great number of people” do not grow up as the spare to the throne…

Get some perspective and seek to be fair.

*How being a spare would impact Harry.

Yeah. I’m all for being fair and hearing different sides of a story. So I might give it a go out if curiosity…

I do think this book will sell well because people will be curious and there will be a big marketing campaign too.

I bet those who dislike Harry will still buy the book and be the most likely to read it too… where else can they get their ammunition?!

He's a disgrace. Needs to grow up and stop trying to damage the royal family and the UK.

Actually I think they’ll leak so much of it that no one will need to buy the book. A bit like that awful oprah interview, I’ve never watched it but I’ve seen every clip reported a thousand times.

As for the whole spare idea… it honestly never seemed to bother him at all until she came along, he was absolutely living his best life imaginable! He had all the perks of being so high up the food chain and very little of the responsibility.

If a book can damage the Royal Family then it is pretty flimsy.

Not true. There are loads of reports that Harry wanted to leave the Royal Family before he met Meghan.

@Owlcation There is no need for nay marketing campaign beyond a few press releases. Those who obsessively hate Meghan and Harry are giving the book loads of publicity.

By ‘leak’ do you mean selling extracts for newspapers to print?! They’ll still be making money while whetting peoples’ appetite for the book.

And what if he does book signings too? I bet that will get some critics queuing for a signature from a royal at their local bookstore, even if it’s not a royal they like.

How do you know you got the full story in the Oprah interview? Sounds like you saw the highlights and decided that was as good as the whole thing.

The sum of the whole is usually greater than the parts.

YABU

i don’t think it’s Harry who needs to get a life…

Making the case for all publicity is good publicity.

I don't think there's resentment towards Harry, just a feeling that he needs to move forward with his life and that all this drip feeding of allegations against his own family are negative for all concerned.I think most people would love to see him settled and happy but he certainly doesn't seem happy.