To not like leaving the house?

[RoomOfRequirement]

I love being at home. I love being 'lazy' at home.

I dread when friends ask me to make plans which is crazy, because I always enjoy myself when I'm out! But I find having plans a waste of annual leave or days off when I could enjoy doing nothing so much more.

When I do have to run errands or make plans, I try to lump them all together, or on a day I already have to be out, to minimize the 'wasted' days off.

Also oddly, if I am roped into something with little notice on the day, that feels 'better' than dreading it up to that point, even if it's an enjoyable outing.

I am also one of those people who fixates on time, so if I need to be at the doctor or meeting a friend at 2pm I feel like I can't relax in the house at all until then which I know is crazy! So I try to plan everything for 8 or 9am.

I know IABU. I'm just hoping there are others like me about! Also can we be friends 😁

I have found my people!

@RoomOfRequirement

I'm sorry for what you've been through. It sounds v tough.

However, posters can't be expected to know what your personal experience was during the pandemic, and even those who worked outside home during the pandemic had periods of confinement at home due to the pandemic (ie no socialising, no meeting family, shops & services closed) so it's still not unreasonable.

Hello, friends. May I join the club?

@Caughtupinsomething with you on the wrapping presents etc with lights twinkling! I make a big thing of putting the tree up with a Christmas movie on, mince pies and some fizz. Same for wrapping presents - I’ll wait for an evening when DH out, crack something open and put a Christmas movie on and hit it in one go.

excited we are having 2 trees this year - we were renting the last 2 years, tiny house then tiny flat as we couldn’t find a house we liked so this year going all out on the Christmas sparkle now we have our own place, no neighbours to piss off and the space!

@RoomOfRequirement agree so much. I also didn't get furloughed or able to work from home. It was an extremely stressful time at work and I've never worked harder. Sadly the bar just got raised and now hasn't really lowered.

I don't even work but dislike leaving home!
My mobilty isn't great & I live at the top of a hill & don't drive. I do enjoy the occasional day out, usually with DD1 who does drive, but am more than happy at home, especially with MN's help so I can keep in touch with what's going on in mumsnetters' world too!

I am exactly the same.
I struggled with depression and anxiety, and thought that was why I liked being at home so much, but now that's treated I've realised this is just who I am!
I love it. Give me a book, the TV and my bath and I'm occupied for as long as I need to be.
I have to go to a party this Saturday and honestly I'm already trying to work out what's the earliest I could possibly leave without looking rude!

I love being at home too.

However, I have noticed a chilled weekend pottering about at home seems to fly by whilst if I have plans on both days, it feels like the weekend was a nice long break.

This thread feels like I’ve been welcomed home. Totally am joining the club as a functioning member of society, but absolutely could have written the OP.

Also - can we talk about the feeling when plans get cancelled? Absolutely better than heroin, right there!🤣

@LinesAndDot omg I LOVE it when plans are cancelled and I can whack on my pjs and sit under a blanket in front of the tv!

DH is out Friday night and was going to invite a friend over but instead am treating self to duck spring rolls, some form of yummy ready meal, posh chocs and a film. Can’t bloody wait

Plans being cancelled is the best. Or when DH is going somewhere and he decides to take the kids with him. Bliss.

Nowhere to me is as nice as my own home. I've finally got everything as I want it and all my hobbies (crafting/reading/sewing etc) can all be done here. I have a nice garden for "fresh air". I have a big bedroom (desk and armchair are in here) and decent sized kitchen and 2 reception rooms, so if I get bored in one room I can move 😁I invested in a good coffee machine during lockdown, so going out for coffee now just feels like a rip off! I'd rather watch a film at home than go to the cinema (much comfier and can take breaks as I want). I'd rather drink at home than go to the pub (too noisy and expensive). I have never felt that desire to go out just for the sake of leaving the house. I forced myself when I had young DC and worked out of the home. Now the DC are grown and I wfh I don't need to!

My only exception is going on holiday. Then I love to be out and about exploring. Lying around on a beach would be my idea of hell. So I'm like a different person when I'm away. But that's because it's new/different I guess. I don't have the same enthusiasm here.

I've always been a home body, I never get bored. I do activities outside the home, at least 3 times a week but each week I have to talk myself into going and then love it once I'm there.

I wfh, and do so quite happily. My office is empty and I'm often the only one on the entire floor and that is really isolating (but I'm still forced to do it once a week).

DH hates staying in, gets bored but never actually knows what he wants to be doing.

I tell him only boring people get bored. There is always something to do, whether its TV, reading, housework, exercise etc.

Mines a mixture of not wanting to go anywhere but also not wanting to be home alone doing nothing. Plus also being unable to relax at home until I’ve done “the thing” I’ve got planned… very draining combination

admittedly I have anxiety and depression

Everything you have written and described is me 100%

I like to be out in the warm weather but now it is getting cold I like going out less and less. I drove child to college, drop off then return home to the warm. Have breakfast then see if I can find anything on Netflix. Have lunch, do a few jobs around house then set off to collect child. Get back make dinner. Snuggle up on sofa in evening.

There is a middle ground.

Life passes quickly.

It's comfortable but not exactly living life and can get out of control when you end up never wanting to see anyone or go anywhere.

@MooseAndSquirrelLoveFlannel I never get bored, either! I don't understand bored, tbh.
Oh - actually, yes I do - when I'm out in a group of people & trying to sneakily look at the time on my phone to see if I can go home.. aren't I awful! ;-)

Bored? I don't understand either. My house has all of the things I love 😆

Hello @RoomOfRequirement I also love being at home, relaxing and pottering around. I’m a real bookworm and can spend hours reading my kindle. I do like to get out for a few hours on a Saturday or Sunday just for a change of scene and some fresh air but nowhere is as lovely as home 😊