To not like leaving the house?

[RoomOfRequirement]

I love being at home. I love being 'lazy' at home.

I dread when friends ask me to make plans which is crazy, because I always enjoy myself when I'm out! But I find having plans a waste of annual leave or days off when I could enjoy doing nothing so much more.

When I do have to run errands or make plans, I try to lump them all together, or on a day I already have to be out, to minimize the 'wasted' days off.

Also oddly, if I am roped into something with little notice on the day, that feels 'better' than dreading it up to that point, even if it's an enjoyable outing.

I am also one of those people who fixates on time, so if I need to be at the doctor or meeting a friend at 2pm I feel like I can't relax in the house at all until then which I know is crazy! So I try to plan everything for 8 or 9am.

I know IABU. I'm just hoping there are others like me about! Also can we be friends 😁

I am agoraphobic and have only left my house about 4 times (for doctors appointments) in 9 years.
Ive learned to like my own company over the years

I actually quite enjoyed lockdown...

Lockdown was just my normal
Life

Oh yes, I lOVED lockdown. Absolutely no social expectations- I think that's what made a lot of people like us change their way of thinking.

I absolutely could have written this.
I don't work Mondays and look forward to peace and being at home. I agreed to a client meeting at 3 because it was important and it ruined my whole day, it was all I could focus on.

Yep

I could of written your post op you’ve described me!

This is me also. It doesn’t help I wfh completely. I definitely stopped going out after lockdown and just didn’t seem the need to get back into the normal habits. And yes i can’t relax if I have plans later. I like socialising once I’m out though but the thought fills with me dread. have been referred for an asd/adhd assessment as apparently many of these are traits but we will see.

I'm a little like this. I rarely have the house all to myself so when I do get the chance I love spending the day alone doing what I want mainly reading, TV, sorting my own stuff. If I have to shop or run errands I'm like you in rushing about to get home as quickly as possible. Other people's (teenagers) noise gets on my nerves!

Nothing wrong with enjoying a lazy day at home. I do enjoy them but after a day or two I’m keen to get back to my routine of going to the office etc. I do enjoy nights out with friends, but I am often guilty of thinking oh I wish I had a lazy night watching telly in bed, but I don’t ever cancel for that reason and always enjoy myself. I do prefer lunch time catch ups instead though! Best of both worlds then

I am ,like this. My happiest days are when I dont have to leave home even for shopping or short appointment or to vist anyone, and when nobody is coming to my house.

I could easily become reclusive.
Ive not admitted this before as I thought it was odd behaviour so its good to know OP and others feel the same

My job is very "peopley" so on my days off I really value having some time to myself at home. I've always liked my own company and have never really understood how people get bored when there is so much music, so many books and films to be enjoyed. When I make plans to go out with friends I always start to regret it a bit a few hours before and I think 'I wish I could stay home with DH and the DC tonight' but once I'm out I always have a good time. I found lockdown tough, not because I couldn't leave the house other than to go to work (that was fine) but DH and DC couldn't either so I never got the house to myself!

@RoomOfRequirement

have you not had enough of staying home after the pandemic?

@keepcalm11

have you not had enough of staying home after the pandemic?

Those that say they never go out and hate going out etc and love being home

how do you go on…

for work?

Seeing your pals?

Getting your hair cut and that kind of thing?

do you just not bother??

This is me! I love my home and I don’t like going out of having people over. When I go out I have a good time but most the time I make plans to do nothing at home… bliss!

OP, you've described me. I try to make all my appointments or shopping trips (I hate shopping) or anything really first thing in the morning, and preferably grouped together.

Home is safe.

The part around being fixated on time makes me wonder if you are ND tbh

this isn’t normal

Online forums are full of people like you OP. It’s not really reflective of the world, because it is self selecting as an “at home” way of socialising.

YANBU! I am EXACTLY the same and loved lockdown when we couldn't go out.

This used to me! Then I had a child and realised a day at home with a bored toddler was basically hell on earth so I’ve been forced to change. I’m looking forward to the day again where home is a relaxing space 🙂

Definitely found my tribe! Love being at home, definitely aim to get errands out the way first thing, i really get the 'i can't relax properly until whatever thing needs doing is done', the rushing home, all of it! Happily could live in isolation, i don't enjoy visitors, and especially not the ones who show up unannounced, god reading that back i sound so miserable, i'm not i just like being alone, like a lot!

I used to be like that, but because I now wfh full time, I can’t wait to get out on a weekend.

No like to get out and about it's exercise too.
I think the odd day at home is OK but wouldn't like it all the time.

It's also going to be expensive if your at home in the winter all day with the bills.

When I worked in an office I couldn't wait to get home, away from work pressure. I started WFH in 2018 (because I'm a trend setter) and then realised I was wasting so much time going to the office and speaking to real people, hearing inane conversations across the office that I didn't care about.
If I have to meet someone at 2pm then I will hardly sleep the night before. (I've always been like this though) I worry about not waking up in time, (although i always wake up 10 minutes before the alarm clock, even at the weekend).