To ask you to admit doing the annoying things people on MN complain about?

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For an anonymous internet forum, it continually strikes me as odd that people very rarely admit to engaging in the problematic or annoying behaviours complained about on here - it's always someone else doing it, apparently. Whether it's hogging the middle lane on the motorway, having kids who are out of control in public places, being a noisy neighbour or not picking up dog poo, people on MN constantly complain about these things happening around them but if no one on here admits to doing it, who are all these offenders? For example, several people in my neighbourhood are leaving their dog's poo around constantly, but when this is brought up on here every single dog owner loudly exclaims that it it's these dog owners who give them a bad name, that they never go out walking without carrying several bags for good measure! Same with bad driving - people on here love calling out driving pet peeves, but surely at least some people on here are engaging in those very same behaviours e.g. tailgating, driving too slowly or bad parking, that everyone complains about?

Are people on here just squeaky clean or in denial? I admit it, I do hog the middle lane sometimes, there you go 😬

I love weddings! And I don't even mind being invited without my OH 🤷‍♀️

I've taken my other child with me to birthday parties after asking the parent. And... they took theirs to mine! A reciprocal agreement that worked for both DDs nursery/reception/yr1 classes as shift work and travelling for work was a really common scenario... and some single parents.

I smoke. If I'm smoking in a pub garden and other people object/ask me to move, I smile sweetly and direct them to the non-smoking area called 'inside'.

Even worse, I'm on MN and I don't have children 😁

See @SavoirFlair - I don’t middle lane hog as a rule, but can see it’s easier than always having to be looking to move out to overtake slow lorries etc in the inside lane, then back in, then looking forward to assess the speed of the cars /lorries further up and time space to move out again, as well keeping an eye on roads joining the motorway and if you’d need to move over to make space for cars joining. Much easier to just stay in the middle lane once you’ve moved out.

you get to your destination at the same time, just having had to make less effort.

I sometimes find myself hogging the middle lane; not all the time but occasionally - it's simply because I forget to pull over 🤷🏼‍♀️ as soon as I realise, I do... Sometimes I remember because someone might flash me, sometimes it's because someone has to make a point and undertake me like an utter twatt to remind me 🙄

I also am sometimes guilty of having what some might call "out of control" kids, due to DS 7 having ADHD and me being distracted by DD or something (or sometimes just wanting to not be on his case all the time)

I think some people are just Massively intolerant that other people are different or of what others might be going through in their lives. 🤷🏼‍♀️

Oh and I also have a loo brush 😆

I do some of them and couldn't care less

Have a toilet brush in every loo

We used Gina Ford and thought her books were bloody brilliant. DS slept through from very early and is still an amazing sleeper at 9yrs.

When mums say they are struggling with babies sleep, getting theirs to go through the night etc. I always smugly think should have read Gina Ford. Very anti mumsnet hive but not bothered as we all sleep til 8am at the weekends.

I don't do any of the things in your OP but I do use way too much fabric conditioner and scent beads which is a sin here.

No one is perfect, but I think when people are moaning on here about something nobody will want to admit to the behaviour in case of a pile on.

I had a friend (Y) who is guilty of being a complete know it all. You can tell her anything, and until she finds out for herself she'll doubt you. When she does find out she acts as if she's the only one who has heard the information and go on and on about it. She'll tell you things as gospel even if it's not true, she's always got some on the 'inside' who informs her of things 'oh I knew about that already, x told me that was going to happen..'

One of our other friends was moaning to us as a group about her boss being the exact same as Y, and Y was like 'oh there's nothing worse..' with a completely straight face.
I think a lot of people lack self-awareness of their behaviour.

Neither do I. I don't think anyone could argue with that after what happened to that poor lady in Liverpool.

Whether it's hogging the middle lane on the motorway, having kids who are out of control in public places, being a noisy neighbour or not picking up dog poo I don't do any of these things.

The vast majority of people do not do these things, which is why so many people moan about them.

I try to be a considerate community member, as do most of my neighbours.

I don’t answer the door to the Evri man, I don’t want a strange man taking a photo of my arse, as has happened.

I have a cleaner and a nanny and I don't work (am looking for a job though!)

I also sing really loudly in church, at weddings etc. In fact it was reading something on here which made me realise that everyone else probably finds it super annoying 😳

Also I love weddings, and hens!

Ha - we used Gina Ford as well and it really worked for us. DC don’t seem to have suffered either.

It’s not a decision. It tended to happen when I was travelling a lot on the M1 and would have lorries on the inside lane and speeding lunatics in Audis on the outside lane. I’d be constantly weaving in and out between lorries. So I stayed put.

And then the huge wagging finger of MN would break through the clouds, and admonish me (much as you just did), so I’d sigh and pull in between a couple of Eddie Stobarts for two minutes or so, before finding myself back in the middle lane.

The topic of a thread is usually implied in the thread title. Posters who have some kind of vested interest then post on the thread. If it is an 'I hate my MIL or 'I hate my SIL ' the thread attracts posters who want to get off their chests how much they hate their MILs. Responses tend to be very one sided. I see the posters who always appear on step parenting threads or LTB threads, pop up straight away.
I know in real life you wouldn't have so many instructions to LTB or go non contact. It is inevitable on a forum like MN that you get advice from over invested posters.
This means the overwhelming 'advice ' on many threads is so one sided and it is easy to get the impression that certain things are the standard MN reaction to any situation. Loo brushes, dog poo bags, answering the door, LTB, setting up 'Boundaries' often come from the over invested posters.
It is why many people disregard 'advice' on a public forum when you don't know the real life circumstances of over invested, hard line posters.

So do I!
But I don't expect my cleaner to use my toilet brush - I always clean the toilets before she arrives!

I'm usually absolutely awful at parallel parking and often won't even attempt it if a car is likely to pass. I will drive round and look for an easier space. If no one us waiting I can do it fine. I wouldn't park inconsiderately though

I use loads of words and phrases that people hate on MN.

My DH calls me ‘hun’ and I don’t mind.

I love my MIL.

I think teachers are amazing human beings!

I don't eke out leftovers, I chuck them away.

My husband and I thank each other for all the jobs/childcare we each do. I am also a SAHM.

I have and use, loo brushes.

I vote Tory and voted for Brexit.

I have 3 children to 3 different dad's not ideal but maybe balanced out by lapping those who drive in the middle lane.

I used to have wind chimes. I took them down after Mumsnet collectively assured me they were the Devil’s work and made me the worst neighbour ever. I miss them :(

I not only let my DH play golf at weekends, I also play golf myself

I've got a giant SUV and a 3 litre petrol for fun weekend driving. I will sit at the nicest table available in a cafe even if it's for four and there's only two of us! I love my birthday as an adult, and all other birthdays regardless of the age of the birthday person.

I staunchly uphold the tradition of blue and pink jobs in my house. I do all the cleaning and most of the cooking, have never taken out a bin in my life, can count on one hand the times I've put petrol in my car and haven't the first idea how to change a tyre.

I also let my DH play golf (careful that information can be identifying!!) and play myself.

@Mrstumbletap which Gina Ford book please, currently 7 months pregnant haven’t slept at all throughout pregnancy thanks to sciatica so need all the help I can get on the other side!