Sick of fiend inviting me to stay?

[PistachioGreenn]

Any activity we do my friend will always say “you should stay at mine”.

I like meeting up with friend but I don’t feel the need to constantly stay at her house. I’m an adult I have my own house.

Like we met for lunch and a couple of drinks (in a town that’s about same distance for both of us to get to but in opposite directions) and she asked if I was staying at hers.

… Like why would I carry around an overnight bag to stay at hers? And stay at hers when it would be the same distance for me to get home?

That’s just one example. She doesn’t live alone either so it’s not a loneliness thing.

Carry a protecting crystal and wave it at her while saying in a massive loud voice, in the middle of Costa, or where ever she does the inviting GET THEE BACK TO THE FOUL UNDERWORLD WHERE YOU BELONG FIEND !!!!

Or just say no ta, it's just as easy to go home from here.

I too am disappointed that it's not the Halloween kind of fiend. 🎃

I've read this before op.

She’s lonely?

A bit needy?

Why not just say when are you gonna get that I don’t want to stay every time we meet up?!
It’s doing my head in so enough already!

Otherwise if she’s unable to accept normal boundaries then you may not be able to continue the friendship.

I’d find it v tiresome constantly having to say you don’t want to.

Sounds like she wants to party more than you do & you staying at hers means it can go on far later than you going your separate ways.

What a fiend. She maybe thinks you could make an evening of it , leisurely breakfast- you know ? Like something nice to do ?

Ghost her she sounds like a horror .

(Irony ) or just say no thanks ?

I'm actually upset now no one offers me to stay over. I didn't know this was a thing 😭

Just say there is nowhere like your own bed, but thanks anyway.
I have a friend who asks the same - offering a take away and to stay over when her partner is away - I just politely decline. I do prefer my own bed!

Just say “no thanks I like sleeping in my own bed”.

She sounds like a lovely warm host with her door wide open for friends.
Of all the problems in the world, this should be least of your worries.
You should be happy you have nice friends. Chill x

Nothing. People just think it’s hilarious because I put fiend instead of friend.

She’s being polite/ friendly/ thoughtful

Ahh, but if she drugs OP and slices her open in the night, she won't have to ask...

@Pixiedust1234 😂😂😂

It is a kind of funny typo. Lighten up!

And just tell your friend that you dont enjoy sleepovers and dont what her to keep asking. She is your friend. You can say stuff like that to a friend.

Yeah it's a pain I had a friend like this they just don't take the hint do they, she would also outstay her welcome if she came to mine I had to politely kick her out a few times.

She must be a lesbian, there's no other explanation for it.

Tell her you have bladder issues which affect you while you sleep

I'd just say that you never get a good nights sleep unless you're in your own bed

Could you say something like
‘It’s kind of you to always offer but I am far too attached to my own bed to stay anywhere else. It’s great that we can always find somewhere to meet that means we can both get home afterwards’?

How do you continue to stay no. Because she asks this every single time.

FFS why are you resentful towards you friend when the answer is straight forward.

"No thanks"
"not this time"
"No, I prefer sleeping in my own bed"
Etc etc

It's an invitation, she's not abducting you. Say no and stop making it a big deal.

Me and my friends love having sleepover we spoon in the bed we are nearly 50 there's 3 of us

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Did ye aye is the new response to this i think

I wouldn’t want to stay with a fiend, either.

Just keep saying no thanks, don't worry about being repetative. It isn't more awkward than friend continuing to ask.

Ah the fiend thing is funny.

Presuming it’s a typo and she’s not after a virgin sacrifice or whatever then I do empathise as I had a friend like this. I’ve just had to accept it really. I sort of called her on it and she happily admitted she’s a homebody and just loves staying in (her own house, will decline dinner at mine for instance). I did stop going for a while but realised I did in fact miss our catch ups but o guess that decision is different t for everyone

How about you just communicate with your friend?

Tell her kindly that you want her to stop asking you to stay over as you'd rather be at home.

Why complicate things? It doesn't have to be confrontational.