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AIBU?

To think that it is ok to jump the queue when with an infant?

504 replies

Eole · 24/10/2022 19:42

DH, DC (3 months) and I were flying for the first time today to see family, long expected break!
We had booked priority, lounges and everything we could to relieve a bit of the stress.
Priority queue was quite long to check in luggage and we started queuing nicely.
Another mum came along and told us we could jump the queue which we did gladly as baby started stirring a little bit.
However it enraged some of the people in the queue, literally shouting that it was very out of order and that was no such thing as baby class, and what is wrong with you people etc.
Interestingly, every other step in the airport (security, customs, boarding) we were invited nicely by the staff to jump the queue.

So YANBU, of course you can jump the queue when with an infant
YABU no, you should queue like everyone else

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YellowAndGreenToBeSeen · 24/10/2022 19:43

If offered by the person in front of you, fine. But only to take their place. I’d be very pissed off if you went to the front of the queue just because you had a baby.

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 24/10/2022 19:43

It's not jumping the queue if the staff invite you to the front. It's not like you elbowed people out of the way!

Frankly when I travel child free I'm so happy not to have to look after kids that I'd not give a hoot if I was last to board.

pd339 · 24/10/2022 19:44

Queue like everyone else!

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 24/10/2022 19:45

pd339 · 24/10/2022 19:44

Queue like everyone else!

She did! The staff approached her and brought her to the front.

AnApparitionQuipped · 24/10/2022 19:45

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 24/10/2022 19:43

It's not jumping the queue if the staff invite you to the front. It's not like you elbowed people out of the way!

Frankly when I travel child free I'm so happy not to have to look after kids that I'd not give a hoot if I was last to board.

But OP says another mum 'invited' her to jump the queue, not the staff. If this person was giving up her own place to swap with OP, fine, but otherwise the OP shouldn't have jumped the queue.

User19876 · 24/10/2022 19:45

Usually they invite people with young children up first. I wouldn’t have jumped the queue unless invited personally but I wouldn’t have an issue with you doing it. The people shouting at you were unreasonable too though.

RufustheFloralmissingreindeer · 24/10/2022 19:45

Used to be that parents of babies and toddlers would be seated first on a plane

they would announce it over the tannoy and you’d be amazed at all the people that would get on with nary a child in sight…or maybe you wouldn’t be 🤔

GodInventedAmazon · 24/10/2022 19:45

I think if an airline personnel had gestured to you to come first it would be OK
I personally would have been happy for you to go ahead of me but it could have come across as entitled to others
People are strange

pd339 · 24/10/2022 19:46

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 24/10/2022 19:45

She did! The staff approached her and brought her to the front.

No. Read the post.

AnApparitionQuipped · 24/10/2022 19:46

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 24/10/2022 19:45

She did! The staff approached her and brought her to the front.

No - read the OP

"Priority queue was quite long to check in luggage and we started queuing nicely.
Another mum came along and told us we could jump the queue which we did gladly as baby started stirring a little bit ..."

DDivaStar · 24/10/2022 19:46

It sounds like it's allowed but I don't see why you should get denial treatment.

Icecreamandapplepie · 24/10/2022 19:46

Doing anything with a baby is hard.

Depends on a lot tho. If baby was tiny and just sleeping and it was a very long queue then I can see why some may get a bit cross.

Baby screaming or crying then go through!

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 24/10/2022 19:47

every other step in the airport (security, customs, boarding) we were invited nicely by the staff to jump the queue

Sorry I took this to mean the whole lot.

Still can't get worked up. Everyone's got a seat on the plane so does it really matter if those with a greater need board first?

Why anyone stands in the queue is beyond me as there's a reserved seat so I don't actually need to queue - its not first come first served and when the planes full you get left behind.

Cantchooseaname · 24/10/2022 19:48

When travelling with a small infant/ child almost everyone everywhere has been lovely and made it as easy as possible, except LAX. That was hideous.

Midnights · 24/10/2022 19:48

At the priority check in queue - unless asked by a member of staff, then yes it's a bit rude! I'm not sure that it's a rule that you can queue jump either?

To board the plane, they normally announce that people who need extra time can pop on up, so that's not rude. Same for security, if a staff member wants to pull you forward, again not rude.

ElsieMc · 24/10/2022 19:48

I was ushered to the front of the queue in Menorca airport ladies by lovely spanish people who had obviously smelt the unfortunate odour from baby dd. Thats fine if invited. Tbh I would have been hacked off if you queue jumped. You are not more important if you have a baby. What do you mean by another mum told you to jump the queue? Is this even a thing.

Schoolchoicesucks · 24/10/2022 19:49

If invited to by staff, or there's an announcement that those travelling with babies can go to the front, of course you can.

If invited to go in front of someone else, of course you can.

Otherwise, of course not. Even if a randommer tells you to.

AffIt · 24/10/2022 19:49

I fly a lot and it's generally a given that priority boarding is given to people with disabilities or mobility issues and people with young children - I presume the idea is that they don't have to stand in line, which I appreciate would be tiresome.

However - and I expect a fulsome kicking for this - IME, it then holds up boarding, because people with small children often (expectedly so) travel with a lot of hand luggage, juggling children, trying to get sorted in seats etc.

Would it not be better to do a sort of 'reverse priority boarding' and chuck all the able-bodied / unimpeded people on and let them scrum it out first, then escort passengers with additional needs on last, so that they can sorted? Let them sit in comfort, have the relevant ground crew looking after them then take them on as the flight is more or less ready to go? Might have to load their hand luggage first, but maybe a sort of crack ground crew team could do this.

FleecyMcFleeceFace · 24/10/2022 19:49

Some rando suggested you jump the queue and you're feeling shocked at the reaction. Do you get out much?

Yes of course move to the front when staff invite you. Feel free to ask those in front if you have a baby or toddler-related emergency.

Otherwise, wait.

Eole · 24/10/2022 19:50

The other mum (also with an infant) told us the staff said it is ok to jump the queue and so told us to follow her.
Then the shouting happened, but in the end an airline lady at the check in counter invited us to jump the queue.
I was just a little bit taken aback it would trigger some proper shouting from other travellers.

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ToadSmall · 24/10/2022 19:50

We got shouted at by other passengers because we had priority boarding because dd is anaphylactic to peanuts and you have to clean the table and the arm rests and stuff when you get on.

I hate getting on first. I don't see why it's a good thing. Confused

edwinbear · 24/10/2022 19:50

It’s not really the done thing to jump the queue at check in, if that’s what you mean, baby or not. There is usually a separate family queue for security and they often call families with young children forward to board the plane first, which is fair enough. But check in, you queue with everyone else.

Lcb123 · 24/10/2022 19:51

Generally I don’t think you should. In that scenario I wouldn’t care - the plane won’t take off faster if you get on first. I say that as someone who specifically gets on last!

CornishGem1975 · 24/10/2022 19:51

At check-in? Err no. Having a baby doesn't prevent you from queuing.

FuchsAndMöhr · 24/10/2022 19:51

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 24/10/2022 19:45

She did! The staff approached her and brought her to the front.

No they didn’t 🙄

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