3 years ago, we announced we were pregnant with baby #1, a year after our wedding. I was 29, husband 30. In laws acted like we'd blown their minds and not in a good way. Within an hour after telling them, they had asked if the baby had been planned and weren't we worried that we didn't own a home yet?
Fast forward to now and I asked my husband to tell them about pregnancy #2 on his own, because I suspected they might be rude again. I've only heard the conversation via him, but he always gives them the benefit of the doubt, so it's likely what he told me is actually nicer than what they said. Apparently they seemed 'happy but surprised' and asked again if we'd been trying (inappropriate?!) Also mentioned that we'd 'have our hands full' and brought up the cost of living situation and whether this was the best timing. They passed on their congratulations via DH but haven't messaged me or anything since to say it personally. We now own our home if that makes any difference.
They adore our older child so part of me hoped they'd be pleased with another grandchild. They don't have any other grandchildren and probably won't after this. We're not asking them for money or babysitting or anything, so I'm not sure why they aren't just happy.
They're very middle class (much more so than my parents) and had their kids in their late 30s/40s. Most of their friends' children are well into their 30s without kids yet or are late 30s and just having their first now. I think they find it embarrassing that we had kids so 'young' (I'm 32, DH 33 🙈).
AIBU to be a bit pissed off at dealing with this judgement as a married woman in her 30s? They're making me feel like a teenage mum.