Didn't give me friend half of what she paid?aibu?

[cheeeryybaby]

Went out with my friend on Saturday night.
Got to the end of the night and we went to pizza shop for food.
I said i only want garlic and chips which was £3.50
She was saying "ok we will share,il get things too"
I said "I only want garlic and chips as im not massively hungry tho"
She was very drunk and kept going on and on
She got to pizza shop and she was ordering all kinds
I gave her £5 and didn't bother asking for change
She ordered Kebab a pizza and my garlic and chips
It came to over £20
The next day she texts "hi just checked my bank statement I paid £20 in pizza shop but I only have £5 in my purse ? Did we go half's?"
I said no I only wanted garlic and chips but gave you £5

Anyway she went on and on saying I should have gave her £10 as it was food for both of us (I told her I didn't want any)
Now she's saying she can't waste that much money and asking for a extra £5

What do I do? It's only £5 do I just pay it?

If she gives her £5 then it is telling her it’s reasonable to demand that other people pay for food that she buys on a whim! Friends don’t expect other people to find their drunken antics.

"We agreed last night that I'd give you 5, and you've said you've got that. Sorry you spent more than you can afford meant to - you were really drunk! (And no, I didn't have any of yours - you wolfed it all down yourself, LOL!)"

Yes I know, I was disagreeing with the the person I quoted, her friend is the one threatening the friendship over the fiver, not the OP

Which one is the mean one @LydiaBennetsUglyBonnet ?

Don't send her the extra fiver op. I'd probably not ask for the £1.50 back but equally it'd be a while before I went out with her again.

I'd be telling her where to go tbh. It's not up to you to subsidise her because she's over indulged whilst drunk. If you do give her the fiver, she'll do this again as she'll know you're a pushover. Just say no.

Tell her she owes you £1.50 .

No, don’t pay. If she can’t afford it, maybe she will think about that before going out and getting pissed in future (presumably she also spent a fair bit on booze).

Actually friend, you owe me £1.50 if you're going to get picky about it

She didn't listen, and now she's trying it on. Tell her no.

She's a CF, just reply with "ha ha good one, why would I pay for food I didn't order or eat, in fact, mine came to £3.50 so you actually owe me £1.50 lol". Bet she doesn't offer you the £1.50

UANBU she’s a CF order separately in future.

She was very drunk

Now she's saying she can't waste that much money

Your friend needs to stop blaming her drink problem on other people OP. Maybe take a step back for a while?

i find this really weird too. If it was a takeaway for a meal back home, like a Chinese, then perhaps. But for end of the night drunk food takeaway, it wouldn’t have even occurred to me, or to my friends, to do anything other than order what I wanted and pay for it myself. And I’ve had many, many, drunken end of night visits to takeaways over the years.

Different ballgame if your friend didn’t have any money at the time though and you were buying her something. But that’s not the case in your scenario.

I would reply saying - I only ordered garlic Mayo and chips as I wasn’t hungry, I didn’t eat any of the food you ordered.
Mine came to £3.50 but I gave you £5, so I actually paid more than I should have.
I’m not going to pay you for the food that you ate.

She is being a CF.

Don’t you dare pay it, OP.

Text her to say she owes you £1.50 and you want it asap.

Take back control.

Just reply saying, no I only asked for garlic and chips. You ordered other stuff, I told you I didn't want anything else. I didn't eat any of your food. I struggled eating my chips, if I'm honest. Next time only order what you'll eat.

The whole set up seems weird to me to be honest. You're married with a child, why keep score of who pays what? You have an income of 100k together as a team.

What do I do? It's only £5 do I just pay it?
WHAT?
Pay her money you didn't spend, just so you can stay friends with her?
She's bullying you. Don't allow it.

That text btw - "hi friend - thanks for calling me a liar. You banged on & on about ordering a load of stuff I didn't want & trying to make me pay for half of your food. I ordered £3.50 worth of food but gave you a fiver & didn't even ask you for my change. Stop being a dick about this."

Wrong thread?!

I think I'd reply something like 'lol how drunk were you last night!? I can't believe you've forgotten we had had a massive discussion where I kept telling you I only wanted garlic and chips and you insisted you were starving and bought enough for for 5. Have you really forgotten me insisting I didnt want anything else?

Why would you do that?
Why would your go-to solution be to pander to a bully who is basically beating you up behind the bike sheds for your lunch money?

Absolutely no to the extra £5. Tell her to fuck off the cheeky mare!

Just order and buy your own from now on.

Send her the money and add that you won't go out with her again or else she stops drinking so much
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Was she too drunk to remember? I wouldn't lose a friend over £5