To wish I had a friend I could text every day?

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I wish I had a friend I could message regularly (like every day) just to chat inane rubbish to. Like what are you making for dinner, what are you up to today, sending silly screenshots of stuff - that kind of thing. Sometimes I feel so lonely and isolated and so miss a bit of superficial chat! Is it unrealistic to think any other mums would even have the time for this? Does anyone else feel the same?

YANBU for being lonely. Why are you so isolated?

I’m a bit different, I hate messaging people or phone calls. For me responding to chatty texts is a chore rather than a pleasure. It takes me weeks to reply to chatty texts.

Mee too life became to seriously a while ago.

On second thoughts I wouldn’t describe myself as isolated (despite stating that in my OP!) I do have friends who I see every three or four weeks or so. We all have young kids so it’s hard to coordinate.

The issue is that I wish I had someone to talk to more regularly, like every day. I do have DH but it’s not quite the same as chatting with fellow mum friends.

I kind of know how you feel. I do have lots of friends. Actually, I am rubbish at replying some of them sometimes. But I still feel a bit lonely. And my messages aren't the kind of 'what you upto' messages- they're more updates on what's going on in life.

I think you’d need to find someone who wants the same level of contact as you. Personally I can’t think of anything more dull than hearing someone else’s dinner plans every day!

Agree with pp YANU for being lonely. But also that does seem a high level of need you have. Is it really that you need that much contact, or is it that you need some practice tolerating your feelings?

Yes I get this. It's hard when you've got kids to keep up with a lot of friendships the way they used to be. I don't have a lot of spare time to be physically meeting up with friends but it would be nice to be more connected to people and just have someone to offload to/ text about random funny things.

One of your existing friends might like to do this too! You could test the waters by sending a couple of random messages and see how they reply.
I have a couple of friends that I regularly text random stuff to, it's nice. Not every day, more like a couple of times a week.

I have friends that I text a couple of times a week, asking how they are and how their week has gone etc.

The only person I message with the minutiae of my day like what's for dinner etc is my mum - I know I'm very lucky to have her. Do you have a family member who might like this level of contact?

I do this with my mum and sister. Absolute trivial stuff: what I cooked, where i went, details of our cats... We live in 3 different countries, so texts are our only way to keep up. When my mum goes I am going to be bereft.

I had someone like that. I knew her through a support forum and we both suffered from depression. We would text each other often in the morning when we both struggled to get out of bed and kind of walk each other through the baby steps we took to get out of bed and ready for the day. Or just random stuff about our day. Yes, it was a great support though I don't think I'd have time for it now with kids (or maybe even the interest).

I often think of her and miss her. We drifted apart after a while.

I don't have any advice op but just wanted to say I can relate.

Yes me too🥲

I don’t really have any friends at all and although I have a great DP I would love some girlfriends to message and to meet with.

Yanbu if that's your thing but I honestly can't imagine anything worse. I don't even speak to my husband every day!

I really miss this. Had it with my best friend and we fell out in July 2019, looking back it was madness not sorting things out.
Although I have other friends now it will never be the same as our inane tomfoolery and day to day chat.
Hoping by writing this I will feel better about it one day.

I've never had that.
However, since taking on care of my elderly father, I text my brother daily. Just a quick, 'Dad's ok, how are you?' It works for us.

Can’t you reach out and make up?

I have a couple of friends like this. We talk absolute rubbish or share tiktoks that make us laugh. It's nonsense but it keels me sane and happy. I'll be your friend 😄 you'll probably need to ghost me when you get fed up though!

Me too. Life is very lonely. I would love it to be a bit more fun and a friend or two would be lovely.

Start a thread on mumsnet, we'll talk shit with you every day about dinner plans and send daft gifs! Sounds like a nice thread actually, a break from the doom and gloom!

A friend of mine got married recently and invited a lady she met on mumsnet a few years before when they were both pregnant. They'd never met in person before, they were from different countries, but got together for the wedding and spent a few days together afterwards! They'd had one of those textshitallday friendships when they were at home with their newborns and they're now making plans to meet up again.

You never know!

I am the same as you. It’s shit.

Ok anyone want a small WhatsApp group? Happy to organise it if you pm me your numbers? We can text stupid stuff all day

Yes absolutely. I had two best friends in teens/twenties who I spoke to every day, we are still friends we have just drifted. Same in my thirties a close friend who we fell out. I've not had that sort of friendship for about ten years now . I really miss it.

Great idea.

be brave and send me your number and we can get chatting 😀

Did you start a whattsapp group yet?

No one has sent me their number yet 🥲