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To wish I had a friend I could text every day?

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1234a4321 · 23/10/2022 20:05

I wish I had a friend I could message regularly (like every day) just to chat inane rubbish to. Like what are you making for dinner, what are you up to today, sending silly screenshots of stuff - that kind of thing. Sometimes I feel so lonely and isolated and so miss a bit of superficial chat! Is it unrealistic to think any other mums would even have the time for this? Does anyone else feel the same?

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Melonapplepear · 26/10/2022 00:04

Hbh17 · 25/10/2022 08:14

I have good friends of over 40 years, and we do text fairly regularly, but I would feel hugely suffocated if I felt that it HAD to be every day. Talking about what to have for dinner would druve me nuts. Up to a week might pass between texts, which is fine, and it doesn't diminish the friendship.
Perhaps this is because our friendships go back pre mobiles (& I always hated phone calls anyway) & we live at quite a geographical distance. So we used to write, and it was a real treat to get a letter every few weeks.
So I think my point is that it's quality not quantity that counts.

You've had those friends longer than I've been alive 😅 but I love the sound of the letters. Seems so much more personal than the digital age we are in now which is all I've really known.

TheRealKatnissEverdeen · 26/10/2022 00:08

I've had a shit few days with work made better by ranting at my best mates. It's been like free therapy.
This thread has made me smile and I hope the connections work out. 🙂

Howmanysleepsnow · 26/10/2022 08:12

Anyone able to add me?

ToastAndBeans · 26/10/2022 11:34

Hi all
Can anyone add me? I've been a SAHM for many years and so lost touch over the years with work friends etc. Be lovely to have some new buddies.
I'm in NW x

girlfriend44 · 26/10/2022 14:13

Theres a west midlands one been set up is that what you mean?

Makemedoit · 26/10/2022 22:37

ToastAndBeans · 26/10/2022 11:34

Hi all
Can anyone add me? I've been a SAHM for many years and so lost touch over the years with work friends etc. Be lovely to have some new buddies.
I'm in NW x

Have messaged you

Razu45 · 28/10/2022 10:55

1234a4321 · 23/10/2022 20:18

On second thoughts I wouldn’t describe myself as isolated (despite stating that in my OP!) I do have friends who I see every three or four weeks or so. We all have young kids so it’s hard to coordinate.

The issue is that I wish I had someone to talk to more regularly, like every day. I do have DH but it’s not quite the same as chatting with fellow mum friends.

Why don’t you start more regularly dropping your friends messages? It will naturally ramp up if they’re keen but why don’t you take the initiative?

Razu45 · 28/10/2022 10:57

Hbh17 · 25/10/2022 08:14

I have good friends of over 40 years, and we do text fairly regularly, but I would feel hugely suffocated if I felt that it HAD to be every day. Talking about what to have for dinner would druve me nuts. Up to a week might pass between texts, which is fine, and it doesn't diminish the friendship.
Perhaps this is because our friendships go back pre mobiles (& I always hated phone calls anyway) & we live at quite a geographical distance. So we used to write, and it was a real treat to get a letter every few weeks.
So I think my point is that it's quality not quantity that counts.

So you don’t call, text or write.

how frequently do you actually see them?

Razu45 · 28/10/2022 10:58

ah sorry your text fairly regularly

BananaCocktails · 28/10/2022 11:00

Sounds nice but trust me most people won’t want to be messaged every day being asked inane questions You will likely annoy them

Razu45 · 28/10/2022 11:00

I am a single parent
my two oldest and dearest friends are married
We message each other daily or every couple of days. Often just a “hi checking in” but sometimes so much more.
we get together in person once a month

its lovely. I love them. Been like this for 20 years

Lemonsonparade · 29/10/2022 07:45

Really great idea. Hope it’s okay to post this here…….

would anyone with adult children fancy joining a WhatsApp group? Happy to set it up.

Lemonsonparade · 29/10/2022 09:36

Or older teen kids!

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