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To think it's not normal for over 35% of teachers to have cried at work this term?

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Postapocalypticcowgirl · 21/10/2022 18:27

Whenever we talk about teacher working conditions, teacher strikes etc on here people always point out that lots of others have really stressful jobs. But this can't be normal in any job, surely? It's not even people who've cried about work- just people who've cried at work.

I think this is really indicative of the stress a lot of teachers are under, and the real reason a strike is on the cards. But it's hard to strike about workload/stress/behaviour/parental and SLT expectations- whereas striking over pay is legally straightforward.

To think it's not normal for over 35% of teachers to have cried at work this term?
OP posts:
FrippEnos · 22/10/2022 10:22

On the bright side

I now have a full Bingo card.

Meredusoleil · 22/10/2022 10:24

Givenuptotally · 22/10/2022 09:06

Honestly, if you are crying in the classroom then leave for another profession because you’re not helping children

I mean, it’s difficult to know where to start. People are leaving the profession. There is a Facebook group aimed at supporting teachers out and it currently has over 80,000 members. It is both a positive group and a depressing place to be - many posts daily from people whose jobs have become untenable: experienced teachers being bullied out, teachers unable to attend hospital appointments without being threatened with disciplinary, young teachers left with no support whatsoever. And then the positive posts: I got a new job, I’ve resigned without a job to go to. People sharing job applications to help others. It’s not one a month, or one a week, it’s many every single day. .

In my subject, ITT was at 36% of it’s requirement this September. That means that every one of those ECTs will have their pick of the jobs. They will move into the independent sector immediately or the best state schools. They won’t need to consider a job in even an average school. And most of our kids attend average schools. Do you realise what this means? At best, your average kid will be taught by a non-specialist (but they will still be pitted against those kids taught by the specialists in the best schools at exam time). In some schools, they might secure specialist supply, but more likely there’ll be a head of department providing cover lessons for an ever-changing array of non-specialists. Some schools are now teaching their exam groups with 90 plus kids in halls with one teacher it’s got that bad. In the primary sector, your children are routinely taught by TAs when the teachers are absent because schools can’t afford qualified supply, even assuming a qualified teacher could be found on supply.

The educational gap is widening before our eyes and parents are more concerned that teachers leave on some misguided premise that they are useless rather than they are retained, supported and paid properly. If you can’t afford to pay for your child’s education and can’t get your child into the best school locally, you really need to give your head a wobble right now. Your children are not getting much of an education anymore, let alone the education they deserve or the education we should expect in one of the world’s most successful economies,

You are spot on here and it worries me no end 😐

Givenuptotally · 22/10/2022 10:26

please quote evidence about chain academies only having teachers under 30
oh wait - there isn’t any

except that wasn't what was said, was it?

If you spent some time in the average school these days you would see that there is a dearth of staff over the age of 30/35 because once people have young families, the job becomes untenable. Equally, older staff are more expensive and have been bullied/pushed/shoved out of their roles since austerity began in 2010. It's anecdotal, I agree, but it is certainly my experience and the experience of many teachers I speak with who have come from different schools locally. The issue that poses is that younger staff - the ones who are more likely to be crying in their roles because they don't yet have the experience to handle the more difficult situations that occur on a daily basis - are left unsupported because of the sheer lack of experience in the average staff team. It used to be the case that a school staff would be made up of every age from 21 to 65 but today, the under 30s very much dominate. It's not a positive thing for teaching and learning for it to be like this.

Meredusoleil · 22/10/2022 10:29

Givenuptotally · 22/10/2022 10:26

please quote evidence about chain academies only having teachers under 30
oh wait - there isn’t any

except that wasn't what was said, was it?

If you spent some time in the average school these days you would see that there is a dearth of staff over the age of 30/35 because once people have young families, the job becomes untenable. Equally, older staff are more expensive and have been bullied/pushed/shoved out of their roles since austerity began in 2010. It's anecdotal, I agree, but it is certainly my experience and the experience of many teachers I speak with who have come from different schools locally. The issue that poses is that younger staff - the ones who are more likely to be crying in their roles because they don't yet have the experience to handle the more difficult situations that occur on a daily basis - are left unsupported because of the sheer lack of experience in the average staff team. It used to be the case that a school staff would be made up of every age from 21 to 65 but today, the under 30s very much dominate. It's not a positive thing for teaching and learning for it to be like this.

I agree. Sad as it is!

Topgub · 22/10/2022 10:30

The op itself implies that teaching has it worst. That is what people are responding to. That's what sets the tone.

If the op had wanted a teachers rant thread they probably shouldn't have posted

teacher strikes etc on here people always point out that lots of others have really stressful jobs. But this can't be normal in any job, surely?

And if teachers (or anyone) genuinely want things to improve they have to explore the reasons why 35 % are allegedly crying at work and why others perceive teaching as they do.

The unions reactions to covid has irreparably damaged the reputation of teachers imo.

Worriedddd · 22/10/2022 10:37

I'm sorry teachers are having a hard time but why on MN is it always teachers complaining about conditions? You don't see any other workforce complaining so much , I've cried a lot at work recently.

Birthdaycake25 · 22/10/2022 10:39

I'm ten years into teaching and still cry a few times a year at work! Usually after parents evening with a difficult parent (there's always one). Also at home when it gets to 11pm and I'm still up marking and all I want to do is go to bed.

Funnily enough I never cried once when I taught abroad so must be something to do with the UK education system.

FrippEnos · 22/10/2022 10:49

Interestingly, we are back to the misinformation about teaching unions during covid.

And if teachers (or anyone) genuinely want things to improve they have to explore the reasons why 35 % are allegedly crying at work and why others perceive teaching as they do.

And we would still get the usual answers. Its that circular discussion you were bleating on about earlier.

MytummydontjigglejiggleItfolds · 22/10/2022 10:55

I don't think teachers have to bother (that much) about how others perceive them. They just have to do what they need to do to improve the conditions in their profession and bear the flak for it.
Public opinion (to a certain extent) means naff all.

Topgub · 22/10/2022 10:55

@FrippEnos

If you're not actually interested in non teachers bleating on then why bother engaging?

Birthdaycake25 · 22/10/2022 10:56

Florenz · 21/10/2022 23:32

I do think teachers moan too much. They might not like the job but the pay, holidays and pension is too good for them to quit. I can't think of any other job where so many people doing it hate it so much. If teachers put their money where their mouth is and resigned en masse, moved to other professions and didn't go back, pay and conditions for teachers would have to increase.

@Florenz the irony is the teachers have been resigning on mass, and there's no one to replace them. It's already happening and there's been no improvement in the pay or conditions! We've had job interviews this week in a nice school and we had one candidate turn it down, another two drop out last minute. No one wants the job. It's like that for every job advert. We are having to have non specialists teach (even at A level) or move the timetable around to accomodate gaps where there isn't a teacher. Sadly it's some of the best teachers that end up quitting or retiring early so the pool of inexperienced or poor teachers becomes bigger making the situation even worse.

Perfect28 · 22/10/2022 10:57

I must have missed the memo, what's the perception of teacher unions during COVID?

Topgub · 22/10/2022 10:59

@MytummydontjigglejiggleItfolds

It matters a bit. It matters to all public sector workers who work with the public.

The job is always easier if people respect what you do.

Navigatingnewwaters · 22/10/2022 10:59

Shockmeafter · 22/10/2022 00:15

Honestly, if you are crying in the classroom then leave for another profession because you’re not helping children

This kind of drivel doesn’t help children one bit either 🤨

FrippEnos · 22/10/2022 10:59

Topgub · 22/10/2022 10:55

@FrippEnos

If you're not actually interested in non teachers bleating on then why bother engaging?

You once again misunderstand me.

I have little interest in you bleating with your whataboutery and mis-information, but am quite happy to correct your mis-information.

Topgub · 22/10/2022 11:04

@FrippEnos

Yeah that makes no sense.

If you weren't interested you wouldn't care either way.

I havent posted any misinformation so I'm not sure what you think you're correcting

FrippEnos · 22/10/2022 11:05

If your not sure what you are posting maybe you should read it through before you post.

Happyhappyeveryday · 22/10/2022 11:05

I realise I am risking criticism by saying this on a parenting forum, but the main problem with teaching is parents. Parents who refuse to discipline their children, parents who complain about their child’s human rights (ie when they have phones confiscated or are issued with detention.) The many, many lovely parents have lovely children and it would be a joy to teach them. Unfortunately, our selfish, rude and entitled society has produced offspring that are almost unreachable.

Ponoka7 · 22/10/2022 11:05

Sherrystrull · 22/10/2022 00:15

In terms of introducing perspective. How does your wage compare with the average teacher?

I know lots of hospital support staff, catering HCAs etc who cry with frustration and the way they are spoken to by Nurses etc. They are on £9.50 an hour. The lack of Staff means that soup and sandwiches are all that's available. We are heading for a crisis across all sectors.

Topgub · 22/10/2022 11:06

@FrippEnos

Can you quote and then correct the misinformation?

Sherrystrull · 22/10/2022 11:06

I have been mulling of the reasons I have cried at work over the past year.

Without a doubt, the main reason I have cried have been the feeling of failure every day. That I cannot do my job to the best of my ability due to barriers in the way.

I pride myself on being a successful teacher who gets to know the children in my care very well. I am great at pastoral support and ensuring all children make progress. This gives me a real sense of achievement and makes the hours at home working more worthwhile.

However, over the past few years I have had massive classes, children unsupported who have significant needs. Children who need 1:1 support to academically access lessons but have no support, children who have major anxiety issues and need support to access lessons, children who have no English and need support to access the lessons, plus a multitude of other children who all need support in different ways. I cannot split myself enough and this leaves me to feel like I'm failing because the children don't have the support to access the learning.

I teach Year 2 and the fact the government made our Y2 children last year who have not known a normal year in school do the phonic screening in the autumn term and sit SATs in the summer term was horrific.

Teachers want to do the best for their children and we currently can't. That would be the reason I would leave teaching.

I'm not saying I have it worse than other occupations. I'm sharing reasons personal to me and my experiences.

SuperlativeOxymoron · 22/10/2022 11:06

I get there are harder professions out there, I've had several different jobs over the past 15 years.
Wouldn't say education is my hardest role, but it's definitely one of the more difficult. I've cried this half term, and to be honest, the biggest reason for my tears, and a few of my closest colleagues, is the expectations. The ones we have for ourselves, the ones SLT have, the ones our direct colleagues have, the ones the children have, the ones the parents have and the expectations that the academy have. Some days it can be crushing, it's exhausting (this half term has been the most exhausting I've worked EVER) and you can't help but feel that you're failing someone somewhere.

FrippEnos · 22/10/2022 11:09

Topgub · 22/10/2022 11:06

@FrippEnos

Can you quote and then correct the misinformation?

Topgub · Yesterday 21:40

"There's literally teachers on this thread saying its the hardest job"

One teacher, who said it was the hardest job that they have done. Not that it was the hardest job.

But you do you

Navigatingnewwaters · 22/10/2022 11:09

Happyhappyeveryday · 22/10/2022 11:05

I realise I am risking criticism by saying this on a parenting forum, but the main problem with teaching is parents. Parents who refuse to discipline their children, parents who complain about their child’s human rights (ie when they have phones confiscated or are issued with detention.) The many, many lovely parents have lovely children and it would be a joy to teach them. Unfortunately, our selfish, rude and entitled society has produced offspring that are almost unreachable.

I agree, I have never cried over the rudeness of a child but parents yes, from the total lack of responsibility and support to actual naked aggression.

Topgub · 22/10/2022 11:09

Oh for gods sake

🤣🤣

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