Friend invited herself over to my house...aibu to say no ?

[pinkslaws]

She messages last week saying
"Child free Friday next weekend so il come over yours for the night and go home Saturday "
Didn't ask or anything
Now I'm in the middle of decorating
House upside down
So would I be in the wrong to say I can come over yours instead?
She's not having the best time right now but I just don't want anyone in mine at the minute

OP, it is OK to have your preferences, even if they aren't the same as everyone else's

Are people now so afraid of speaking up that you have to come for mumsnet to ask this? If it doesn’t work for you then reply that it doesn’t work as you’re in the mirror of decorating and the whole house is upside down.

Going against the grain here but I think urbu. I think it’s nice she doesn’t care about the state of the house. She saying to you she wants to see you. No matter what. Personally I think that’s nice. She’s probably desperate for a good old catch up. I’ve got so many flaky “friends” who always find an excuse to say no to meeting up so assume they don’t like me all that much. Say no and I wouldn’t blame her for thinking the same. Since when did a tidy house come above a friend?

You even said she’s not having the best time right now. Be a friend. You should be more concerned about her than the state of your house. People above possessions always

Yanbu if you don't want her to come.
Yabvu for leaving it until now to tell her.

Just reply back, still up for a drink but no for your staying over I'm not up for that at the moment. I could always stay at yours though.

Say no sorry but I’m up to the neck in it just now but you’re welcome another time, if she’s a real friend she’ll understand, if she takes umbrage then she’s not really a friend, I always backed down when faced with pushy people, it caused nothing but stress but I had to learn to say no, I’m no longer a pushover and so called friends dropped away and I’m happier and stronger and I don’t miss them.

@LimeTwists

no need to accuse me of not reading the OP because I have a different opinion & I'm well aware if what 'decorating' involves thanks 🤣🤣

my friends & I would not care about dust sheets & the like. We'd OFFER the other one to come over to get away from the decorating mess if they wanted to or we'd just settle in the 'mess'. We really don't care.

we've all been through much worse together than decorating