Stole friends drink?

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Me and my friend who I have been friends with for 7 years went out for drinks.
We went to the bar and I ordered a gin and she got a cocktail.
The lady serving had never made a cocktail before so made too much ,she poured friends cocktail out and there was a bit left in other glass and she said to my friend "you can have that too"
So I jokingly said "ooooh well il be having that"
And she snapped back
"No you won't,I've paid for that,why do you think you can steal my drink"
With anger on her face
I just laughed it off but it hurt my feelings a bit.

I was only joking,it was the smallest amount of cocktail.

It sounds like you were just making a joke? Does she often pay for things for you?

Was she drunk? Are you a bit of a freeloader?
Is she an arse? Are you? So many questions.

No she never pays for anything for me.
I'm always the first one to the pay buying drinks
She said something about her boyfriend last week and I just laughed it off
She had bought 2 cheesecake slices and he ate one and she was so angry that he stole her food
Then he called her greedy
Maybe it's not just me

Get new friends

I'd find someone else to go out for drinks with

Well it’s obviously a boundary for her, people taking her food and drink without asking. Probably goes back to some kind of past issue. I’d just accept that’s her boundary.

The way you said it would put my back up tbh “oooh Ill be having that” - it was part of her drink, as she said, not yours to just take.

If you’d say “oh is it ok if I try a bit of that” then it’s 100% different.

She sounds pissed off that people keep taking her food and drink tbh.

Unless I had bought the cake specifically for my BF or said that he could have it, I would be annoyed if he just ate one. And it was her drink, why would you think that you could have it? You might have been joking but how was she to know that?

It was a tiny bit of the cocktail in the mixing glass not her actual glass.
I jokingly said I'll have that

I think your “well, I’ll be having that” remark could get many people’s backs up, particularly if you’re somebody who “jokes” about a lot of things and everyone around you knows you’re not actually “joking.” In this situation I wouldn’t have an issue at all with a friend asking “do you mind if I have a taste?” and I’d have probably automatically offered the leftover to my friend to try; but you already know from her cheese cake story that she doesn’t like people assuming they can have her food or drink without asking.

And I don’t think her boyfriend cheesecake scenario was unreasonable of her at all - it’s rude for anyone to help themselves to something which belongs to somebody else without asking them.

Could be a boundary thing.

But it's quite an overreaction and it sounds as if you couldn't make a joke about it. My brother hates sharing food. I know never to ask to share his food and we joke about it all the time. I'm not keen on sharing food either, truth be told. I only do it with friends to pretend I'm normal 😂

Maybe she was just having a bad day. Its probably more about her than you.

Anyone who reacted 'angrily' with me on a night out over something so trivial would not be my friend anymore. I'd have downed my drink and left. Silly over-emotional child.

😀

I would of downed my drink right there and then and left.

Fair enough people don't want to share their drinks/food but no need to react the way she reacted.

Had a colleague who had recovered from anorexia: she would snap your head off if you offered to pay for her food or drink “I’ll pay for what I eat/drink”. I’m guessing an underlying issue.

She sounds a bit deranged, tbh..

She sounds hard work. Very over the top reaction about that and the cake. I couldn’t be bothered with the grumpiness.

Technically it wasn’t even her cocktail, it was left over. She only paid for the proper portion in the original glass. It wasn’t like you were going to take a swig of her Margarita.

Oh it was much more fun when I worked in a cocktail bar, whenever we made too much (quite often) it was put underneath bar for us! 😊

Are you writing a really bad novel? This is such a non event.

I didn't say it was a really big deal
So no need for the sarky "are you writing a bad novel comment"
Most of the threads on here are about non events
I posted to see if anyone else would react the same

You beat me to it!!

Sounds like she's taking her anger at her boyfriend stealing her food and calling her greedy out on you.

I mean, technically it belonged to neither of you as neither of you ordered or paid for "extra" cocktail. But I think I would have called you a cheeky cow if you'd just immediately snapped it up and assumed you could just drink it.

😂great minds

What's with all these weird posts lately about friends being arsey over shots and cocktails?!