Stole friends drink?

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Me and my friend who I have been friends with for 7 years went out for drinks.
We went to the bar and I ordered a gin and she got a cocktail.
The lady serving had never made a cocktail before so made too much ,she poured friends cocktail out and there was a bit left in other glass and she said to my friend "you can have that too"
So I jokingly said "ooooh well il be having that"
And she snapped back
"No you won't,I've paid for that,why do you think you can steal my drink"
With anger on her face
I just laughed it off but it hurt my feelings a bit.

I was only joking,it was the smallest amount of cocktail.

Your friend over reacted but it was her drink. So you're a bit of a CF because if she didn't say anything I'd assume you'd of drank it?

So you WEREN’T joking about nabbing her freebie. I KNEW it! 😂

Bizarre reaction from your friend, and if it were me, I'd have asked her if she was ok. If she didn't want you to have it, she could have joked back about how it was hers and you could prise it out of her cold dead hands (or something!), but the seriousness of her reaction would have been a red flag for me that there was something wrong.

I don't think you did anything wrong.

Agree with you - a friendly 'ehh hands off you it's mine, get your own' with a laugh would have been way more appropriate.
IMO she doesn't deserve concern and asking if she is ok. She deserves to have the damned thing thrown over her for being suck a volatile little madam.

I'd say something like that if I was with a mate and then I would literally expect them to say something back like - "no you don't cheeky - I will be having all of it!" Also joking.. if she was genuinely angry and a good mate who you can usually joke around with it is a little bit strange. I wouldn't read too much into, it unless she's often angry with you over little things. Maybe she was having a bad day and just not in the mood for jokes.

Apart from I've just read the full thread - if you literally did expect to drink the dregs you need to learn to wait until they are offered to you! 😂

Sounds like she's fed up of her boyfriend taking her food and projected onto you.

I'd have told her to chill out you were making a joke. Stand up for yourself next time. Then ask her if something is wrong.

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That's not really the friend's fault though is it, if you have 50 years of anger I hope you don't project that on to other people

IMO she doesn't deserve concern and asking if she is ok. She deserves to have the damned thing thrown over her for being suck a volatile little madam.

Do you really believe that @Mariposista? Do you not care if your friends are acting out of character, and what that might mean? Such as being in a bad place mentally?

Can i just point out that the Op has contradicted herself in her last post, it wasn't actually a joke she was fully intent on having it... 😂

I'm just trying to get the op to see that sometimes its not the one incidence, its the accumulation of incidences all based on people taking things off the friend. Its worth a conversation esp concerning the friends boyfriend who seems to take off her. But the op thought that was funny too so maybe not.

The cheesecake her partner was out of order for taking something that wasn't his without asking. That's rude and I really dislike it when people do something wrong and instead of owning it and apologising they make it the other person's problem. Calling her greedy for wanting to decide what happens to her own things is nasty. The drink I agree she over reacted but you clearly wanted to try it , it would have been better to say 'can I try your drink please?' And appreciate she had the right to say no.

I have a friend who always wants something for nothing and very often does it in a jokey way. For example if we arrange to go for lunch it she will always say " oh is this your treat?" In a jokey way. Its then puts the pressure on me to have to say no im not and it isn't funny in the slightest. It really grinds my gears! Maybe you do this as well op, without realising how annoying it can be.

This

No I don't want anything for nothing
If anything people take advantage of me
It was a dreg of a cocktail in a mixing glass that I said in a joking way il have that
Yes I would like to have found out the taste to see if I liked it
Hardly the same as free lunch

I think if you ask to try people often feel obliged to say yes even if they don't want to.

Did you not fancy it until you thought there was a chance of trying it for free Op?

You keep saying you were joking but in the same breath saying you wanted it so you weren't joking at all. Joking means you weren't serious, but you were, you said so a few times now

So it wasn't a joke then?

If it was my cocktail, and my friend 'jokingly' said I'll be having that I might have thought, no your bloody won't! I would read too much in to it OP, being telling you to dump her as a friend seems a bit extreme, did you go in to have a nice evening with her, do you generally enjoy each other's company? If so, just forget about it.

May be an underlying issue, even if it is just the recent boyfriend cheesecake incident. Sounds like she has been a bit bit heavy handed in asserting a boundary and that would smart a bit - you're probably the one that broke the camel's back and for whatever reason she is fed up of this kind of thing.

You many have meant it as a joke/light-hearted comment but all you do is accept that is wasn't taken as such. Your friend doesn't like people taking her food/drink - so now you know that this isn't a topic to joke about or do so much as nick a chip from her.

Some people are really petty when it comes to paying for drinks. I think if I'd been in her shoes I would have wanted you to have it so you could try it too.

Although people are feeling the pinch - maybe she's hard up.

What's with all these weird posts lately about friends being arsey over shots and cocktails?!

Cost of living crisis kicking in and people having less spare cash.