AIBU hugs and kisses first dates are weird?

[Itchybites123]

Went on a date.

At the end he went for a huge and maybe a kiss.

I’m not attracted to him which is good, because I won’t act irrationally and I want to see him again.

when are these things supposed to progress naturally?

im 37, dating inexperienced.

I started to date at 40 after being with my ex husband for 25 years since 14.
I had NO idea! The fact that I was found attractive was overwhelming as I'm not conventionally pretty.
I did rush things on occasions and always seemed to attract younger guys.
My friend told me to make them wait a month lol.
I met my now husband after a year of disasters ( but some fun times) and wasn't attracted to him at all initially and he had issues after being left by his wife.
But he made me laugh and here we are now 22 years later and married.

I’m not into dating full stop tbh. I make new friends. I get to know them. We have a laugh together, and talk. And I’m just hoping that one day, one of them will turn into something more than that, as it did with my now exDH. We lasted for 23 years. But we were friends for a few years before that, and I wasn’t in the slightest bit attracted to him then. I DO feel that a lot of people are in such a rush to find a new partner now. I’ve been single for 5 years, and only once tempted to try a new relationship in that time (which didn’t work out) but I’m certainly not going to rush into anything that doesn’t feel “perfect for me”.

That’s lush

I met my husband 6 years ago and I didn’t know if I was attracted to him until I’d been on a date with him a few times because he wasn’t normally what I would date. I didn’t kiss him until the 3/4 date

I don’t know why you’re getting such a hard time OP, you sound like a textbook Demi sexual / demiromantic to me.

lgbtqia.fandom.com/wiki/Demiromantic

Maybe do a bit of research and then when you update your dating profile you can align it for the sort of person you are looking for. That will also sort the wheat from the chaff so to speak.

The "would i snog him" test was part of my online dating considerations. Whether it happenned 1st date or 2nd, if i didnt want to, then i didnt bother with a 2nd date.
Its worked well so far, as a benchmark. Had a couple of short term but nice relationships, now with someone who may, possibly, be a long term thing. But I knew I wanted to snog him within 20 minutes !
Trust your gut, its ok to want fireworks, romance and loveliness. Dont settle if hes not floating your boat !

Why would being attracted to more than one person give me a different view on what you're saying? You aren't being consistent in your description of being attracted to anyone, that's what I'm basing it on
I'd think if anything my experience gives me a greater range of perspectives of how people express attraction but I'm still just wholly perplexed by yours and you've not explained further.

People are so unnecessarily unkind on here. So what if OP’s approach isn’t yours? Why does that mean you have to be unkind? The world is so tough right now, everyone just needs to be a bit kinder. And the idea that she’s 37 and therefore in a hurry is frankly insulting, not just to OP but to women in general.

OP, the right time to progress is when you’re ready. My last relationship, I was a firm ‘no’ at the end of the first date in terms of romance. We carried on seeing each other as friends and as I got to know him, I really started fancying him. Sometimes you fancy people immediately, sometimes it takes longer. As long as everyone’s happy and feels like they can make a choice then all is good. I hope you find happiness either way