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Neighbour bought a trampoline to look over our fence

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LazyJayne · 11/10/2022 17:45

Have had issues with overly friendly neighbour since we moved in. The original divider between our back gardens was a low hedge, and she would come out and talk to us every single time we were out in the garden. And boy, can she talk. She also used to lift her DC over the hedge without asking to play with our DC (who is years older and not interested).

Eventually, we put up a 6ft fence on our side of the hedge. I’d tried to warm her up to the idea of this beforehand by saying we were thinking of getting a dog and needed a fence to keep it in.

When we put up the fence she initially made few jokey comments about how it was harder to talk to us now, but she solved this problem by placing a step on her side and continued to pop up whenever we were out in garden.

My husband then planted bamboo along the fence which shot up over the summer and is now about 8ft.

Last month, we saw from our bedroom window that a large trampoline had appeared in her garden. We assumed it was for her DC and thought nothing of it. However, they don’t use it, she does.

When I was out in the garden a few weeks ago, up she popped over the top of the bamboo, laughing hysterically, and shouting ‘see what I’ve had to resort to! hahaha!’ I said something along the lines of ‘oh yes haha, is that a trampoline for X’ and she said it was originally but he wasn’t interested so she’s going to use it for exercise instead.

So far all her exercises have coincided with us being out in the garden.

We’re now back at square one and whenever we’re out she appears over the bamboo, laughing and shouting.

My husband is very non confrontational and says the bamboo will keep growing and eventually she won’t be able to see over it, but I think this will take year as she must be hitting the 20ft mark at full jump height. We would also start losing light if we let it get that high.

WIBU to tell her directly to give us some privacy? Is there a gentle way to do it that won’t hurt her feelings that we’re missing?

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Am I being unreasonable?


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BlodynGwyn · 11/10/2022 19:35

Emotionalsupportviper · 11/10/2022 19:33

As you fire shout "See what I've had to resort to!"

And laugh hysterically

OMG!! lol


midlifecrash · 11/10/2022 19:35

Go outside. Adjust the sprinkler to shoot over the fence as it spins. When the bouncing begins shout “hi Jane, just watering the lawn” and go in again


greenhousegal · 11/10/2022 19:37

Her next appearance on the trampoline surely deserves the old theatre wish of "Break a Leg".


Poppyseed14 · 11/10/2022 19:39

DillDanding · 11/10/2022 18:30

Maybe she’ll end up so pissed off with the encroachment by the (bloody) bamboo when it starts shooting up through her lawn, she’ll stop speaking to you.

Yes, I detest bamboo.

@DillDanding I'm glad I wasn't the only person thinking this. Awful stuff.


BertaHoon · 11/10/2022 19:41

My neighbour would do anything as long as she finished the phrase with "I knew you wouldn't mind".
I came home to find her and her partner on MY trampoline in MY garden, picking apples and pears from my trees!
"I knew you wouldn't mind"...

Oh I feel for you. Bluntness is easier said than done! (That makes no sense)


Mollymoostoo · 11/10/2022 19:44

PixieLaLa · 11/10/2022 17:54

She sounds mentally unwell, I would just completely ignore her every time she does it…might work might not!

This. Why are you even talking to her? Ignore her and she will give up


nodiggetynodoubt · 11/10/2022 19:45

neverknowinglyunreasonable · 11/10/2022 17:58

YABU for planting bamboo. Awful stuff.

The thought of your neighbour bouncing 9 foot in the air to talk to you sounds hilarious but I suspect I'd get bored of it fairly quickly if I were in your shoes.

Agreed. We have had a hideous battle with bamboo from next door. We had to dig 6 ft deep to dig up all the gnarly roots. Should be bloody banned.


GrumpyPanda · 11/10/2022 19:45

MrsMacIsBack · 11/10/2022 18:42

Unlikely. Have you ever seen a naked man trampolining?

I'm neither a man nor have manly feelz but oh boy that sounds exceedingly painful.


Mountainpika · 11/10/2022 19:47

Bouncing balls on the trampoline?


katepilar · 11/10/2022 19:50

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 11/10/2022 18:13

I believe that the Berlin Wall was planned to be just a six-foot hedge but look how that turned out in the end.

You might want to consider ordering some concrete soon.

Is this ment to be a joke that I dont understand? Can you explain?


katepilar · 11/10/2022 19:53

BertaHoon · 11/10/2022 19:41

My neighbour would do anything as long as she finished the phrase with "I knew you wouldn't mind".
I came home to find her and her partner on MY trampoline in MY garden, picking apples and pears from my trees!
"I knew you wouldn't mind"...

Oh I feel for you. Bluntness is easier said than done! (That makes no sense)

Hope you told her that you actually DO mind!


BertaHoon · 11/10/2022 19:54

Naked man trampolining with dog.

See her 10ft and raise OP 🤣

Neighbour bought a trampoline to look over our fence

Whitepouringglue · 11/10/2022 19:54

What about a really high trellis beside the trampoline spot.


TargusEasting2 · 11/10/2022 19:54

Buy a drone. Position it centrally in your garden and push the controls so it goes up when she goes down and down when she goes up. I can 99.9% guarantee you it will fuck her mind.

If it does not work first time, try again standing there with the controls wearing a clown mask, flippers and black clothes. This is the remaining 0.1% that should tip her over.


Solonge · 11/10/2022 19:55

Put in a fast growing Leylandi 7ft trees they will be twenty feet in four years.


dingdongdarling · 11/10/2022 19:56

Card through the door

Dear neighbour,

It's hard to write this and I don't want to offend you, but we would really like our back garden to be a place for me and DH to escape for peace and quiet. When we're out there we don't want to chat to anyone. It is lovely talking to you out the front, but if we're out the back please could I ask you not to chat and leave us to ourselves?

Thanks a mill,

LazyJayne and Tarzan next door


whynotwhatknot · 11/10/2022 19:58

its getting colder she wont be out there for much longer

i dont know why people cant take the hint though


Cleverestclog · 11/10/2022 19:59

Helenloveslee4eva · 11/10/2022 19:20

Just watch out. You don’t want a neighbour dispute on your files if you are likely to want to sell

Never mind the neighbour, you don't wanted to have bamboo planted in your garden if you are likely to want to sell!

I would not buy a house with 8ft bamboo planted directly in the ground. It's a nightmare.


chimichangaz · 11/10/2022 20:01

This is hilarious. Obvs not for you, op though.

Should become a Mumsnet classic 😊

And I've now got an idea for blocking out the neighbours view at the rear of my house.....bamboo in tubs!! Genius.


FattyAirways · 11/10/2022 20:01

Her coming out every time you're in your garden would piss me off massively. Just ignore her everytime and she'll soon get bored. Can you initially stick headphones on while you're out there until she gets the message?

My neighbour is also always in the garden as she enjoys watching her ipad out there but at least she rarely talks to me.


spirit20 · 11/10/2022 20:03

Sorry to sound cynical, but I really don't think someone would have actually bought a trampoline just to be able to jump up and down to spy on someone. And even if they did, I doubt they'll be out there every day just bouncing up and down.


Spookypants25 · 11/10/2022 20:04

She's batshit. I'd have politely told her to back off when it started, you're clearly nicer than me , I hope she breaks it, build a wall 😂


Happyher · 11/10/2022 20:05

Build a gazebo


LazyJayne · 11/10/2022 20:08

Just spent the last 15 minutes researching bamboo. Oh god. What have we done 😩

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Sceptre86 · 11/10/2022 20:10

She sounds mentally unwell, it's something my bipolar auntie would do. I would have used words in the first instance and said your back garden is for family time so you don't want her monopolising your time whilst there. So she'd get the huff at least she'd get the message.

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