To ask if school mum cliques upset you, or how do you deal with cliques?

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I'm new to school, my child is in reception. I've noticed that there are cliques forming.

How do you deal with it? Or just completely ignore?

Oh my, I hated the dreaded school run. My oldest DD is now 11 and makes her own way there, phew.

I have 20 month old DD too so I be right back to it in a few years eurgh.

I found arriving early in the morning and late for pick up was the best way to avoid the cliques.

Oh Lordy! Another resurrected Zombie thread - and it had me this time. Why on earth don't MN disable responses after a certain amount of time has elapsed?

The best zombie I saw was asking for a recommendation for a pram, years later the the thread was reanimated when the op replied to the thread with a recommendation for the pram she bought without realizing that she started it. 😁 So it could be worse.

Cliques forming with the kids or parents? If it’s with the kids then this isn’t a clique it’s a 5 year old developing friendships, if it’s the parents then what’s the issue? Do you want to be part of the clique? I’ve never been a ‘school mum’ seeing them all gossiping in the playground and at the gates then going to each others houses after the school run is my idea of hell, I’ve always stayed well clear, helped massively that I’ve always had a full time job and no time for standing around in my leggings talking shit about the PTA……but each to their own

Motherland is funny precisely because it is so recognisable to many people. Exaggerated yes, but instantly recognisable.
I’m a Grandma now and well remember the playground clique at my children’s primary school, headed up by a Queen Bee. The gathered mums used to part like the Red Sea when she swept into the playground, rattling the keys to her 4 wheel drive. My (adult) daughter still does a great impression of her, 30 years later!
Hang on, that sounds like a tv script🤔

Yes there can be and probably will be at some point. Ignore them, chat to them and be friends with whoever you want. Eventually many cliques get weaker, it can be isolating sometimes.

Love a zombie thread resurrection.

OP, did you join a clique?

Theres alot of gaslighting going on in this thread and I do feel sorry for OP. Mean mummy school gate cliques are a thing and it’s a form of bullying. I think 2 -4 mums who get on well and chat regularly is a harmless group of friends. But a huge gang of 10 - 15 mums with their own separate WhatsApp group, all standing with their backs turned giving you the stink eye as you walk past, is a clique. Organising big nights out for a large group of 10+ mums and not putting it on the main group so as to include everyone is a clique. Organising play dates with half the kids in the class and leaving out one or two others is a clique. Its horrible and it’s real. I think a lot of the people commenting so harshly on here must been queen bees bitches themselves with a rather guilty conscience.