DH is 47 and this girl is in her twenties. She used to work for him, he was her manager. At the time, things weren’t great between DH and I. He was coming home every day in a foul mood, not even acknowledging me most nights. He’d then blame the stress of work. However, he then talked about how much fun he had at work and that they “spent the whole day laughing”. He mentioned a few colleagues but this one (the girl) he mentioned more than most. I actually lost my temper with him because he was mentioning her so much.
Then she found another job and left the company about 6 months ago. I thought that would be the end of it.
Then at the weekend DH showed me his phone and I could see that there was a conversation between the two of them. Basically she was asking him if he was going to someone’s leaving do and he said he wasn’t. All innocent enough, but why are they still in contact? Especially as I had raised concerns about her in the past.
DH said they were friends 🙄. AIBU to have an issue with a 47 year old MARRIED man being friends with a girl in her twenties?
Just for background, I have NEVER had an issue with anyone else DH has worked with ever. Just this one girl.
AIBU?
DH being friends with a girl half his age
PleaseBeHonest · 10/10/2022 07:16
Am I being unreasonable?
530 votes. Final results.
POLLAngelinflipflops · 10/10/2022 07:49
I don't mind being called a girl, as a fully grown woman, I also call men boys, shoot me
GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 10/10/2022 08:30
DH showed me his phone
So he's not communicating with her in secret. You sound very jealous.
Basically she was asking him if he was going to someone’s leaving do and he said he wasn’t.
So he's not planning on meeting her.
I'm trying to work out what your issue is here?
ittakes2 · 10/10/2022 08:48
I think the fact she is young and an old colleague is a red herring. Your spidery senses are tingling.
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PleaseBeHonest · 10/10/2022 09:23
@Shiningstarr he’s deleted all the previous messages. And his Friends list is not visible on Facebook.
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Zingy123 · 10/10/2022 07:26
Do you mean woman? A girl is a child.
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