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Original poster

To have told DH off for driving while wearing his work lanyard

282 replies

Sequinanddiamonds · 08/10/2022 10:32

this was yesterday! We have it drilled into us where I work that we should not wear our lanyards while driving as it’s dangerous, especially if you crash and the airbag is activated. DH says I’m “overreacting” and says his work don’t tell him anything like this. Aibu to have told him off and made him take the lanyard off?

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itwasntmetho · 08/10/2022 10:49

Adults shouldn't tell off other adults.

Whinge · 08/10/2022 10:50

Sequinanddiamonds · 08/10/2022 10:48

I didn’t tell him off like a baby ffs! I just reminded him to take it off and then told him again when he still didn’t

It's there in your title told DH off and then in your OP Aibu to have told him off and made him take the lanyard off?

If you want to take yours off because your work are weirdly OTT about such a tiny risk then feel free. But he's an adult, so let him make his own choices.

CheezePleeze · 08/10/2022 10:51

Sequinanddiamonds · 08/10/2022 10:48

I didn’t tell him off like a baby ffs! I just reminded him to take it off and then told him again when he still didn’t

You nagged him then?

Honestly, just let him do what he wants. You're not his master.

Ponoka7 · 08/10/2022 10:51

forevercooking · 08/10/2022 10:44

My husband is a bus driver, it's his job to drive with his on

Most buses don't have air bags. There's protection in the size and weight of the vehicle.

As said you shouldn't be telling an adult off, you could chat about the dangers. It's similar to being in a crash with your head bent, looking at your phone. Your build etc makes a difference.

TheHoover · 08/10/2022 10:52

My husband drives with two sharpened pencils up his nose and this thread is now making me wonder if that could be dangerous toi
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Sequinanddiamonds · 08/10/2022 10:52

Whinge · 08/10/2022 10:50

It's there in your title told DH off and then in your OP Aibu to have told him off and made him take the lanyard off?

If you want to take yours off because your work are weirdly OTT about such a tiny risk then feel free. But he's an adult, so let him make his own choices.

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I did tell him off a little but not like he would if he was a baby or child

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Sequinanddiamonds · 08/10/2022 10:52

Whinge · 08/10/2022 10:50

It's there in your title told DH off and then in your OP Aibu to have told him off and made him take the lanyard off?

If you want to take yours off because your work are weirdly OTT about such a tiny risk then feel free. But he's an adult, so let him make his own choices.

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I did tell him off a little but not like i would if he was a baby or child

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CheezePleeze · 08/10/2022 10:52

PrincessButtercupToo · 08/10/2022 10:48

My husband drives with two sharpened pencils up his nose and this thread is now making me wonder if that could be dangerous toi.

This reply has made my morning! 😂😂😂

CheezePleeze · 08/10/2022 10:53

Do you cut his grapes in half too?

Sally090807 · 08/10/2022 10:54

TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 08/10/2022 10:34

You sound like hard work, sorry.

Exactly this 🙄

Oddsocks12 · 08/10/2022 10:54

My health and safety training included this. It does sound horrible but also quite unlikely

FlippertyGibberts · 08/10/2022 10:54

I've read about a case where a lanyard caused significant injury in a crash, and our hospital Trust subsequently included a warning about this in a staff email.

AutumnCrow · 08/10/2022 10:55

PrincessButtercupToo · 08/10/2022 10:48

My husband drives with two sharpened pencils up his nose and this thread is now making me wonder if that could be dangerous toi.

My DP would seriously have a go at doing that if he thought it would cheer me the fuck up raise a laugh.

LondonQueen · 08/10/2022 10:56

I drive with mine on all the time, it's only dangerous if you have keys etc on them which can turn into projectiles if the airbag is deployed.

Bornslippery · 08/10/2022 10:57

I think we received an email a few years ago about this. Totally forgot about it today.

sarahc336 · 08/10/2022 10:57

I drive with mine on all the time I'd never heard this before but I can see your point op but most have the plastic safety catch that with force do snap x

NeedAHoliday2021 · 08/10/2022 10:58

Not sure Somerset live is the reliable platform you suggest but yes I’ve heard this and sometimes take mine off but not always. You are reasonable for letting your dh know but not telling him off - he’s not your dc. Do people really tell their husbands off? That’s such a weird relationship to me.

TeenDivided · 08/10/2022 10:58

I put this under an area of 'unlikely to happen and also inconvenient, so I'll risk it.'

Blinky21 · 08/10/2022 10:59

We are told at work not to do this after someone was killed

MolkosTeenageAngst · 08/10/2022 10:59

Sequinanddiamonds · 08/10/2022 10:52

I did tell him off a little but not like i would if he was a baby or child

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He’s a grown man! It’s not your place to tell him off. He’s a grown up, part of being a grown up is that we’re allowed to assess risk ourselves and to make unwise decisions so long as they’re not illegal. Lots of grown ups make choices to do things which carry a risk. Grown ups can legally smoke, drink alcohol, engage in extreme or motor sports, cycle without wearing a helmet, go through life eating unhealthy foods and never exercising etc. Other adults shouldn’t be telling us off for the legal choices we make even if they wouldn’t make them themselves. The risk of wearing a lanyard is going to be small as it’s only relevant if you actually have a serious crash and if he doesn’t care about the risk enough to take it off that’s his choice. He’s not a child you shouldn’t be telling him off, if he wishes to take the risk of wearing his lanyard that’s really up to him.

sarahc336 · 08/10/2022 10:59

And also where do you work. I'm nhs so must have mine on all the time and we're in and out of cars all the time and like I said I've never once been told to take it off, we're the opposite get minded at gif being see without it on x

Womencanlift · 08/10/2022 10:59

No harm in mentioning it - once! More than once is nagging. He is old enough to make his own decisions

This has never been mentioned in any company I work in but fair enough if it is a genuine thing. Only reason we have been told to remove it outside is in case it falls off and somebody else uses it to access the building

Hapoydayz · 08/10/2022 11:00

The risk sounds so small! Do you take off all your jewellery when you drive too?

DillDanding · 08/10/2022 11:00

Blimey, that’s really paranoid.

I drive with my lanyard on every day.

CormoranStrike · 08/10/2022 11:00

I’ve never heard of this.

but in my sadly all too real experience there are much more serious injuries to worry about in a car crash, lanyard related injuries seem small fry.