Dh told be to turn hairdryer off now

[Mumof3lads]

So, husband away all week with work. I'm home, 3 kids and dogs, work PT
with a lifelong disease, he gets home I was sounding off explaining my feelings and frustrations. He tells me can I now turn the hairdryer off. Meaning me, my voice, droning on. I've shut up, feelings hurt. Unheard and under appreciated.

Wow!

Yea.. wow

I'm sorry.
That's really shit of him.

Now you know what to say next time he wants to share his feelings with you.

I'd be giving him full blast of the hairdryer

I thought this was going to be about energy costs.

So he got home from work and you started having a go?

Ffs what’s with all this posts about fairly trivial domestic arguments

no it’s not particularly nice. Is it worth a MN post?

there have been so many of these recently

That's a very rude thing for him to say.

Had he been home from work long though?

I'm not excusing him at all but my husband has sounded off at me before, the minute I've got in from work and to my shame I told him to fuck off.

Were you arguing as soon as he got home.

I think we need more context. Had he just come in the door after a long drive for example? Whilst your feelings are totally valid, it might not have been the best time to start such a conversation.

Yes it's worth a Mumsnet post. What do people think this is? NATO? The UN? The Nobel prize committee?

It's a poxy chat room and the perfect place for everyday gripes and a bit of sympathy.

RIPQueen don't respond if you don't appreciate my feelings. I felt it was worthy of some support.

Yeah that's crap but if he'd just walked through the door, yabu.
If it was much later, kids in bed, sitting down, relaxing etc then he is most definitely a massive dick!

Girlmum21 nowhere did I state I had a go! I said I was talking about my frustrations, with regards to our children and me trying to work and be at every event they needed me to be present at. I am one woman with one pair of hands.

This

No been home 6 hours, I'm the time I'd collected the youngest, prepped and cooked tea. Loaded the washer, fed the dogs, showered etc.

It's not particularly unreasonable to not want to hear a rant if you've just got through the door but he should have told you that in a more polite manner.

Oh and post whatever the hell you want! People don't have to read and respond if they don't want to.

All sound fine to me. Kind of what a chatroom is for. Chatting.

Is he a Man U fan?

Cakecakecheese, I'm not sweating the imbociles with regards to my post. I'm bigger fish to fry and thank you.

Oh cross posted yeah it's not lie you pounced on him the second he got in and surely you should be allowed to offload to your partner I bet you'd listen to him without being mean.

Gloriousglory this made me chuckle, nope. Hates football. Just selfish.

That wasn't a nice thing for him to say but if you started as soon as he got in I can understand him getting frustrated. He was probably looking forward to getting home, seeing the kids and relaxing.

You've obviously had an awful lot on your plate but he's also been away from home working all week.
You BOTH need to be nicer to one another and be more mature about how you interact. It's unfair on you both to act like that when you've got kids.
Can you sit down with him and try and come to some understanding.

Ok so what were you "sounding off" about. Where I'm from that means you're being a bit of a gobshite.